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Parenting As Ministers of Light

Let us pray. Lord we come this morning in the name of Jesus and as a people we are gathered together by our own strength or wisdom or our own understanding, we cannot bring to bear Lord any spiritual good or power upon ourselves to even seek You or to do Your will. And we are so grateful Lord that You have accomplished for us by the power of Your own hand, that life changing work through the blood of Jesus Christ in the Gospel by which we are a changed people. And we thank You Lord that that change in us is manifest by the evident token of the Holy Spirit working and it is through our gifts in a very personal way in our lives. And we call this morning Lord upon You and we ask for Your mercy in the name of Jesus, that Your Spirit would be at work in each and every heart, that that life that is ours in Christ would be manifest, that there would be edifying ministry. Lord that we as we are built up would also be as it were a sweet smelling fragrance and aroma in Your own nostrils, a very fragrance of Jesus Christ which pleases You and which You have been pleased to share with us in Your mercy. So we ask for a day Lord blessed by Christian fellowship, the communion of the saints which can only be had by the very presence of Your Spirit working in us. We ask for that in Jesus’ name, amen.

To start off with a little bit of perspective, maybe some announcements are in order. I’m sure that you are generally aware that the surgery for David is coming up but in terms of a schedule, this will be the last Sunday, I’m not sure how long actually it will be true, but it will be the last Sunday that I will be able to speak to you for a while. The weeks ahead are uncertain. Next Sunday we are leaving for New York and we are going to be leaving from Baltimore. We have a friend in the school who owns a plane who flies medical missions and other needs for believers and he has encouraged us to use his services and we are going to do that. I will be gone with David for an undetermined amount of time, maybe two or three weeks or maybe more depending on the nature of all the surgeries.

Concerning the things that I want to share, I feel tempted to share all the things I would share if I had the coming weeks to share. But since I cannot I will share it all today. That would be unfair but that is where my heart is. There are just a few things that are on my heart. I guess the first thing I would like to bring up this morning is I was ministered to yesterday by one of the couples of the church and what ministered to me was the very evidence of the life of Christ being lived out in them in the utilization of the spiritual gifts in a genuine service of the Lord fashion and it was just a ministry to me. I needed the ministry. One of the areas that I have a need for ministry in is the area of understanding prayer. There are times that for me, prayer is a very difficult matter because of my background and I can easily see prayer as a human effort where we must stir up some fantastic human energy and muscle and we storm heaven and try to get God to listen to us and if we pray hard enough and good enough, maybe God will hear us. This couple, one of their real gifts that they have is prayer. And they were just sharing some of their experiences and thoughts along the lines of prayer. And the Lord just kind of opened up my understanding and gave me joy in that one little area that I often struggle with. I will share with you, there was actually one word that was used that the Lord just spoke to me, the word was, “I have learned that real prayer is just me being a conduit where God Himself is able to express His heart, His compassions and He shares that compassion with us in prayer and we engage in the very heart of God in the transactions of our affairs.” It struck me as so profound that that is really what prayer is. It is having the heart of God break upon our heart so that we are panting after the things that God pants after. And as we are panting after the things that God pants after, there is this harmony. We just express those things with our words but it is not a human work. It was a great encouragement to me. And then it just struck me, the two key essentials to prayer then must be a vigorous, lively feeding on the Word where my capacity to smell the very fragrance of God in His person, in His work that it touches my heart and I am able to see Him for who He really is and that personal devotion and that personal connection with God is so essential to a lively prayer life. Then the second essential being the very presence of the Holy Spirit in the process that if we are really going to be praying, it is not a human effort at all, it is a work of the Holy Spirit. It is a process by which the Spirit of God Himself is at work, connecting our hearts and our minds to the heart and the mind of God. That just jumped out at me, the two essentials. And as I am thinking about what may be taking place in the weeks ahead, just before this surgery broke out on us back in November, we were in the middle of a series which I have not gotten back to yet. It was a series on the functioning of the local church and how we are to be carrying the burden. The last message I gave on that topic was about men praying. I do not know if you remember that, from Timothy, and just that whole sense of burden. As I am looking forward in the forward sense of the word, I am recognizing that the body of Christ is alive because the Spirit of God is alive and the body of Christ functions because men permit the Spirit of God to function through them. A little insight that I had into myself yesterday was I do struggle with prayer for certain reasons that of my past has made it a chore, but here was a brother and a sister whose life in the Spirit was alive and dynamic in the area of prayer and because of that dynamic life that they were having in that area, I was able to see Jesus and the life of Jesus in that expression. And even the words that they chose to use, they just gave me that direction and that communication, that confirmation of the living vibrance of the work of the Holy Spirit. And it struck me at that moment how important it is that we get together, absolutely how important it is. And here is why: when you walk by a living relationship with God, then you have a personal experience by which the Holy Spirit works the work of God in you but you are one person and as being one there is limitation on you. We are all limited people. If the Holy Spirit has given you a gift and if you are His He has, He probably has only given you one gift. He certainly has given you a limited number of gifts. You do not have all the gifts. We are not all encompassing of all the gifts. We each have a portion. Think about it practically, if we each have a portion but none of us have the whole then there are places that each one of us where we don’t have that portion of a gift, that we sense that lack, we sense that missing dimension and those are the places that we often struggle with our own sense of spiritual perception. So I often take those areas that I do not have and I perceive them through the logic of my mind. And so it is very easy often to make other works of God more foreign to my person because I do not possess it and because I am just trying to think about it logically.

If you have paid attention to the way people make friendships, people tend to find something in common and that draws them together. They share that common bond and that is the nature of their relationship, that thing they have in common. But what things do believers have in common? Well we have Jesus Christ in common and we have Jesus Christ in common manifesting Himself in different ways. So what the Bible calls the communion of the saints as the word “koinonia” has to do with that fellowship of believers one with another. But there is that commonness that we have and that difference that we have all at the same time. I know these are some of the lessons we had weeks and weeks ago, but that difference is to be edifying. It brings to us that mutual encouragement. As I have that which is the Holy Spirit working in me and I begin to see the Holy Spirit working in you, there is that advancement of the greater community of the body of Christ and that greater expression of the life of Christ is advanced as the Spirit is free to work differently together in a harmony and in a unity. So, why did I say all this? I said this to exhort you because if you are a believer then you have the Spirit of God. If you have the Spirit of God then you have all that you need for true ministry to take place both in you and from you. It is all there. What the obligation is is to have a sensitivity one to another so that you are willing to commune, so that you are willing to share. It is a simple principle. It is like the first fundamental of fellowship for believers is get together, “do not forsake the assembling of yourselves as the manner of some is.” Do not forsake the assembling of yourselves. Keep tuned in. Draw together so that work of the Lord can be done in and through and together and with you all. So I trust as the weeks ahead unfold, that we will have a continuing sense of God’s ministry to us all involved and I know that are experience in November was incredible because we sensed your love and your likemindedness, likeheartedness for us and all that we have, and in the days ahead I expect that same encouragement from the Lord. But, it will be a little different. We will not be so close by that you can come visit us so easy. Nevertheless, these days ahead are full of hope because we have the Lord. And if we have the Lord, then our hope is that real ministry can take place. I just remind you that there are real ministry needs that are going on.

I have already been encouraged, I hope you have. But that little thought of what prayer is just reminds me of the whole work of God and the whole nature of the gospel. I would like to go back to 2 Corinthians 4 if you will permit me because there is that living Word that is so pronounced that just is a blessing to us. As you turn to 2 Corinthians chapter 4, I am going to begin at verse 5 and continue on in the discussion we have been having in the last several weeks. As you are turning there, just to make a comment, I believe that I can make a universal statement about the nature of spiritual vitality for every believer as it relates to walking with God and knowing God. You know, I have talked with probably every one of you in some way, shape or form personally and we have gotten to some part of the discussion, no matter what the context was, we got to the discussion of the difference between the work of man and the work of God. And the labor of man always has to rely on the strength of man. And man can desire to do good works. Man can desire to do great things for God. There is nothing lacking in man’s desire to do a work, in man’s wanting to do and to serve. And very very often, actually it is probably a general truth that we all universally struggle with this process that the feelings of desire by which I want to serve God, stir me up and very often especially in our early Christian life, we begin to take on form and structure of service to God and we try to serve God for Him. We try to do it out of our own resources, our own understanding, our own thinking, our own plans and we do not have the time for it but if I could just recount for you some of my own thoughts as a new believer, all of the mighty works I have done for God in my head, all the mighty dreams I have had of service for the Lord. Of those dreamy things, not a one has come to past, nor borne any useful fruit. But in time, I have begun to see a very unusual thing and that is it is not that God wants us to do anything for Him. The Gospel is a message of a different sort. We cannot do a thing for God. God is sufficient and self-contained and He is fully and wholly good all in Himself and it is God who wishes to extend of Himself to us that we might partake of that which He has prepared for us from before the foundations of the earth. And our victory, our joyful Christian life is a life of sharing in that which is God’s and it is receiving that which God has and I just become the conduit of that work of God in me. There are works that God has for us to do but they are works He has set up before the foundation of the world and He wants us to walk in them in Christ Jesus, that is His objective, that is His goal. So as a believer, the single necessity of every saint is to be empty, an empty vessel. “Nothing with my hands do I bring, simply to the cross of Christ I cling,” I have nothing that I can bring. I do not possess something by which I can woo God, by which I can encourage Him and cause Him to say, “Thou art a worthy son, I am pleased with you, I am pleased with your work.” We are simply an unclean thing. We are all an unclean thing and we are undone. We have nothing by which we can bring to God something for His approval. But thanks be to God, His whole work, His whole ministry is this: redemption, to redeem that which is worthless and to impart to it that which is of very God Himself so that that which I do is useful and it gives glory back to God. How do you give glory to God? That is an interesting thought. How do you give glory to God? Men often attempt to give glory to God by doing some great thing for Him and saying, “I did this for God.” But the way a man truly gives glory to God is that He allows the very person and the very Spirit of God to do a work in him and through him according to His purpose whatever that be. Be it small or great in the eyes of men, when we are surrendered so that God does His work in us and through us, it is His work and the contrast is incredible. I love the Ecclesiates 3 contrast. Man, what is man’s view? “God has set eternity in the heart of man that he cannot fathom it.” Men want to do great things. Men want to do eternal things. All men strive for all their lives is significance and greatness, something that I have done that is useful, that will be there, there will be a monument to say, “I did this for the glory of God and I want it to last for all the ages.” But we cannot fathom it how to do eternal things. It is beyond us. And then the contrasting verse, “But I know that whatsoever God does it shall be,” where? “Forever.” “I know that whatsoever God does it shall be forever.” Now think of the contrast. Men, who have this desire to do eternal things, have absolutely no power to do a single thing that lasts forever. For man it is vanity of vanity, all is vanity. There is nothing that we can bring, no matte how great the effort, how great the exertion, that which we bring is vain and temporal and has an end. But with God it is the smallest thing, the smallest thing, whatsoever God does, it lasts forever. Every work of God is an eternal work. So if God will do a work in you and if God will do a work through you, no matter how insignificant it might appear to men and it is likely to very often be insignificant to men, mark that, it will most often be insignificant to men, but no matter that it appears insignificant to men, that work that God is doing in you and through you, that has eternity written all over it and there will be an eternal harvesting from that work. And that is our hope and that is our joy. And why does God do it this way? For a simple reason, that men might fear Him. God wants us to walk in fear of Him. He is the life line, He is the means by which anything of usefulness can be done in my life. I have got to stay connected to God. We can see that practical advice from John 15 when the Lord taught about the vine and the branches. “I am the Vine and you are the branches. Except you abide in the vine, ye can do nothing.” There is no means by which the branch can bring forth of itself a fruit. It is absolutely powerless. It has to be connected to the Vine so that the life from the roots of the Vine feed through the branch and a fruit is produced but it is God’s fruit. That is the call. That is who we are. We are living vessels that have the capacity as a conduit to express the very nature and life of Christ and God through our lives, through our circumstance no matter what it is. So we have to be available and ready to serve.

Let us go back to 2 Corinthians 4 then and pick it up. And if you remember, I am addressing us parents here in a predominate fashion. I am thinking of us parents here as ministers to our children and the nature of that ministry that we have. And we are going to move into a discussion here that relates to the nature of spiritual work being fruitful, the nature of spiritual work being fruitful. I am going to begin at verse 5 because it is a good jumping point to begin. Verse 5 says, “For we preach not ourselves but Christ Jesus the Lord and ourselves your servants for Jesus’ sake.” I love that point of reference to begin because there is the nature, there is the nature of the whole circumstance. If a man is going to do a work, he is going to preach himself. But if a man is alert that only God can do a work, then He is going to preach God, He is going to preach Christ. And we have to understand that there is within us the natural tension to preach ourselves, to preach our agenda, to get our concerns or our interests to be that which is prominent and projected into any circumstance. But as ministers of Christ it is not appropriate and not acceptable and it is unfruitful more than anything, it is unfruitful. We cannot preach ourselves and have fruit. We must preach Christ. And who are we? We are ministers of Christ. What we have here is the means by which we can remain empty. If I am a servant, if I see myself as a servant and I am motivated by servanthood and my whole objective of service is that I might connect you to this Jesus. It is like two ends of a court. You need Jesus. I am just the individual pointing the way. I have this lowly place of insignificance in terms of actual purpose, actual importance. I am not the important one, it is the Lord. He is the One and we preach Christ and ourselves are servants for His sake. So we have this balancing of an understanding of our motive. If I see myself as a servant, then a servant has one need only, whatever means it takes that I can connect someone to Jesus, that is adequate. That is an adequate role for me to play. I do not need additional things to have a sense of satisfaction or purpose being met in my life.

If we are preaching not ourselves but Christ Jesus the Lord and ourselves are servants for Jesus’ sake, verse 6, “for God who commands the light to shine out of darkness hath shined in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” That is a very interesting structure of what takes place with evangelism and in the whole process of ministry and being a servant for Christ. He starts with the first fundamental that it is “God who commandeth light to shine out of darkness.” What is he referring to there? The general knowledge of the six day creation whereby God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light. And then He separated the light from the darkness. And this God, who is the God of separating and sorting light, this God is a God of light. And this light that gives that sense of understanding and knowing and purpose, this light has, what? He has commanded the light to shine out of darkness, this light has shined in our own hearts. The light of God has shined in our own hearts. That is the first part of the process, the light of God has shined into my heart. There is that sense then of myself being opened to and having received the light of God in me. So the first step of being a servant is that I have received the light. Now notice that the continuance of the verse goes on to “give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.” And so with that whole sense of light, the light comes in but as a conduit it comes in to be given out and the whole complete cycle is simply the light of God and the process of that light being manifest. So what we have here in a simple picture is that God is a God of light and He commands light to shine. So light shines by the work of God. Does light shine by the work of man? Light does not shine by the work of man, light shines by the work of God. It is God who commands the light to shine and the light shines. So this God who commands light to shine, what has He done? By the grace of God He has commanded light to shine unto me. And the light of God has come into me and I have been enlightened but I have not been enlightened as if to capture the light and hold it inside and benefit from it exclusively for myself but the whole nature of light is that it is a continuing shining that never ceases. Its shining is what gives life. As soon as you block the light, as soon as you cover the light the shining stops. So the very nature of light is that it has to have a conduit. So light comes in in order that it might go out. The light comes in in order that it might go out. Here is an interesting illustration, now this is probably a very poor illustration but maybe some of the children might enjoy it, what we are seeing here in a picture form is this: God is not a flashlight. You cannot store up some of the light of God and stuff it inside the battery and turn the battery off and then when you desire, turn it on and shine a little light, “There is another little bit of light.” And yet this control mechanism that the battery and the light switch on this flashlight represents, that really reflects the way human beings tend to react with anything that they get from God. They collect it, they store it, reserve it and they dole it out very carefully, “There is a little light there. I do not want to waste my batteries. I do not want to use it up,” as if it is a deposit, a once forever deposit. But the light of God is totally different. What the light of God is, it is like a flashlight made up only of mirrors. It has a receiving mirror and a broadcasting mirror and it has nothing else. So for it to work, it has to first be connected, the light has to be shining. It has to receive already shining light, that is the light of God. Then as it receives that shining light, then it can only do one thing and that is shine. It can only shine while it is receiving light and as soon as it stops receiving light, it stops broadcasting light but it cannot store one bit of light at all. That difference is the difference between a spiritual work of God and a carnal work of man. Men store up light and dole it out in their own good time. But the light and the work of God is that which is ever shining and ever flowing. And we have been called to one purpose, that we might receive the light and broadcast it simultaneously, receive and shine, receive and shine. So when the work of God is in us and on us and through us, it is genuine and real. But if you are saving it up, “one of these days I am going to do a ministry for God and then I am going to let some of this light shine,” that is a work of man. And you might even have a plan, you might even pull your plan off, you might even have an event, but it lack the shining because God is a God of continual existence and He never ceases, He is always available and always ready and the ministry of God through any of His servants must be a demonstration of the continual presence of God who is always there and always shining and always ready to serve and give, always ready to meet our needs. He is an inexhaustible resource, He is a God that gives life to everyone at all times. And so my manifestation of that ministry has to be this continuum of light.

“We have this treasure in earthen vessels that the excellency of the power may be of God and not of us.” “We have this treasure in earthen vessels that the excellency of the power may be of God and not of us.” We spoke about this a little bit last week, that the fact of the matter is it is necessary that the vessel which is a conduit for light, that that vessel is an earthen vessel. Without going into a great deal of history, I know we have had it spoken here on more than one occasion, on more than one individual that explains the nature of these vessels being cracked pots that can no longer be used to hold water, all they can do is shine light because they leak. So it is a great place to put a candle in it and let the light out so they are broken and useful. Without getting into a great deal of that effort, the important thing to understand is that the vessel is not important, it is the vessel’s capacity to conduct light that is important. The vessel is not important, it is its capacity to conduct light that makes the vessel important. And so ministry as servants of God happens not by our own strength, not by our own capacity, not by the good that we can bring to the formula, ministry happens as we are conduits for God and as God flows through us and God is going to be seen as God when that which is man is able to be seen as inferior and insufficient. And so there is this contest of excellency. A man might say to you, “I have these practices in my life by which I conduct my affairs in an orderly fashion and by which I have prospered all my days because of these fine things which I have ordered and brought to past in my life.” That man bringing that message, he is the end, he is the objective and he is preaching himself and not Christ and he is saying, “Here, if you do these things you are going to get the kind of life that I have and don’t I have a good life?” So it is measured in a narrow circle, it is measured in a narrow parameter. But that is not the nature of the Gospel or how the message of the Gospel is to be broadcast. What has to happen in the Gospel is that the weakness of the vessel has to be very pronounced. The weakness of the vessel has to be very pronounced. Now you might say to me, “Well in what way does the weakness have to be pronounced?” Well just in that whatever is not able to be done by the vessel is clearly seen, that you are not able, not able to do this, this is something that is not in me. So I have a need therefore to seek the God who is able and the distinction between the God who is able and the man who is not able is very clear and there is where the manifestation begins to come forth. That will help you understand why Paul taught in 1 Corinthians, the very first couple chapters. In chapter 1 he says, “I would have you know brethren that not many wise, not many noble, not many of good report has God chosen. For God has chosen the foolish things of the world, yea the beggarly things, the things that are not, He has chosen those things to confound the wise.” God is deliberately looking for the most useful vessels on the earth. And who are the most useful vessels on the earth? Ones that have achieved the greatest stature of success among men? No. What has occurred is that God has chosen the weak, the cracked pots, the broken vessels, He has chosen the things that are nothing in order to confound the things that are something. That is the nature of the Gospel. God needs vessels who are weak in order for the light of the Gospel to shine clearly through.

We are going to talk a little bit about the weakness and you say, “Well how does this relate back to parenting? It does not make any sense to me right now. You are talking about light shining and all that and I understand some of that, but how does it relate to parenting?” Well it relates to parenting in this respect, parenting is no different than any other assignment by which my call is to bring the light of the Gospel and influence a life. The difference with parenting however is that it is a longer assignment and I have a greater capacity to influence during that period for the Gospel. So it is a more substantial ministry. And a parental ministry is probably the most significant ministry on earth as it relates to the long term ability to impact and impart. So it is probably the premier and the most significant. What we find in Scripture then is this understanding that the spiritual leaders in our fellowship should be those who have some evidence of spiritual maturity in leading their own family because the role of leading a church is no different than the role of leading a family and the rule is simple. Ministry is learning how to be a conduit of the light of Christ in every circumstance and it starts at home and it is a great place and it is a significant place. If you cannot take care of your own house, how can you take care of the church of Jesus Christ? It is just not possible. You are just not equipped to do that. So with this concept in mind then, looking at the parents, I just want to say a couple things at this point, it is necessary for us to understand that we are simply servants of Jesus Christ and thus we are conduits. Our objective is to get the light of Christ shining in our children’s lives. Since light always is shining and since we are a conduit, that means all we can ever do is receive light and reflect it, what we have is this continuum. Every single day in the life of our home we have this continual opportunity by which this light may shed light through us on all kinds of unique circumstances and situations. And these circumstances and situations are what? Well relatively random and relatively general in their pattern, how children grow up, but the individual circumstances of what a day brings forth varies from family to family and from child to child. But it is these individual situations that are simply opportunities or backdrops as a screen if you please, by which the light of Christ can shine through me at any given moment at any given circumstance. So you and I as ministers of Christ have an opportunity to take a situation and then bring that situation into the light of Christ by our own ministry and by our own counsel to our children. What is important to understand is this: if I have my own ideas about what I am looking for, what am I going to be preaching to my children? I am going to be preaching myself. “I want you to…, It is important for me that you…,” then all the sudden I am interfering in the very ministry that I am called to have to my children because I am putting my desires, my wants and my interests, I am putting them above God’s interests and I am serving my interests in my family and I am trying to get something out of my children for myself. That is a very serious and a very true type of risk that many parents struggle with in raising children, they have their own children. They want to live out their own lives through their children. Maybe they did not get to do this and they want their children to get to do this forever. We can go through all kinds of illustrations but the reality is we are not to have our own agenda, we are to be a conduit of the light of God in every circumstance. So what we are is we are on duty as a servant to help bring every hidden thing to light in the process. You say, “How do you do this?” I have a very unhappy thing to tell you this morning. You do this by being the first object of trouble in your home. You are first an example. In order to raise a godly heritage, you absolutely must first be the example. So it is you that is going to be going through the ringer again and again in circumstance after circumstance. And often, if you pay attention to your children, there is a certain age where they are oblivious to everything. They could not be offended by anybody. They do not have the capacity to have any cares of themselves enough to be offended. How do you get offended? When you are disappointed in what you deserved or whatever. They are just oblivious. All that is going on, they are just watching. And you are the one getting pumbled and pelted and you are going through the process. Now let us look at this a little more closely. Verse 7, he says, “We have this treasure in earthen vessels that the excellency of the power may be of God and not of us.” So what we can say here is this: if I am a vessel of earthen nature and the light of God is shining through me, every time the light of God is shining through me, somebody is going to say, “That is God, that is God.” They are not going to call your name. They are not going to say, “What a great parent you are.” They are going to see God and, “Hey that is God there.” I do not know about you but my favorite things to read are biographies of great men and women of the faith. A great biography always brings me tears. Why does it always bring me to tears? Because I always see this incredible weakness of man and the power of God coming through and the servant was nothing. It was God, He just moves and you just stop and you are awed by God. That is the call. We have this treasure in earthen vessels so that God may get all the glory, “the excellency of the power may be of God and not of man,” not of ourselves. Now move on. Here is the play acting, here is the scene of ministry, “We are troubled on every side yet not distressed, we are perplexed but not in despair, persecuted but not forsaken, cast down but not destroyed,” verse 10, here is the key, “always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body.” All the sudden we have moved from this theoretical study of light and God commanding light to shine in us and through us, now we are moving from that to a practical application, how does that work? How does light shine in me and through me? Here is how it shines: we are given circumstances by which we must face our own demise happily and readily because we have the hope of resurrection life. We have absolute confidence in the good purpose and the good intention of God that we face death itself and we receive the hope of eternal life and so we die the death. All of these troubles and distresses, persecutions and forsakings, all of these things are human experiences whereby that which men value on the earth is at risk. The things that are important to men on the earth are in jeopardy. When my riches on the earth are in jeopardy and they are my hope, what do I do? I take action to save them, to preserve them and to protect them, to draw them to me and take some kind of action. But if I am God’s child, I look at the jeopardy and I say, “That is just a temporary thing and I have eternal life and if I die, I die, blessed be the name of the Lord.” All of a sudden right in the context of personal jeopardy, the light of the life of Christ shines in me and my eye is set on resurrection. It shines through me and my behavior reflects resurrection.(tape turned here…) places of difficulty and you watch parents. Parents fall into two categories. The first category is the natural parent and the natural parent wants to extend this big blanket of protection over their children to keep them from any and every harm. Of course there are variations of distortion of that in practice, but that motivation of a parent to protect their children from harm, that motivation is essentially a motivation based upon a very narrow view of life, “Life is only here and now on the earth, it only can be fulfilled, happiness can only be found here and so I have to do everything I can to preserve it because if I lose it I have no chance for hope or happiness.” Do you remember the story I told you some years ago? I think it was like two or three years ago on January. I told a little story and I forget now where I heard it. I heard it on the radio somewhere. There was a mother who gave birth to two children and in the course of time she lost both of them and she had another child or two that was living. But the first child was born with a severe type of retardation and there was like an 18 month period where the child lived with this very severe retardation. And as the child’s life was ending, this mother had become pregnant again and she was expecting and as the one child was getting ready to do the other child was discovered to have an extremely rare genetic failure and the child would not live when it was born. It was discovered that it was created without any lungs and so there was no chance that this child would live. But she found out about it long before it was born. So somehow in the course of time, the two babies converged on the same point, one baby died and the other baby was born and died. And right in this short period of time, the mother had the trauma of losing both. She was in turmoil and struggle. I heard this story before we lost our first one so it has probably been three years since we heard this story. She was just in great turmoil. There was a question in her mind, “What was the value, what was the purpose of this life? It didn’t even have a chance to take a breath of life. It’s created purpose was to die before it could even enjoy one breath.” And this other child, “Why did you let it languish? All these months in an infantile state,” and it never got past the newborn stage as far as function, “Why languish it? These are two cases God where You have meaningless life and I don’t understand it.” She was in great turmoil and great anxiety. And she began going through some efforts to relieve her heart and her tension and I do not remember all the details I apologize for that, but somewhere along the line I believe somebody counseled her and said, “Just ask God to speak to you, to show you.” So somehow she began a deliberate prayer, just asking God to somehow communicate to her that it was well with her children. I don’t remember all the little details that transpired in this one event but one night the mother sensed her daughter in her bedroom and somehow in the course of sensing that she did not speak to her or whatever, so the next morning she said, “Were you in my bedroom last night in the middle of the night?” She said, “Yes, I was but you were not awake.” “So what did you come into my bedroom for?” She said, “Well God woke me and He spoke to me,” and I forget the name of the two children, but “He told me to tell you that,” the name of the two babies, Mary and Sue, whatever, “These two babies are with Me and they are building your home. They are guarding My throne and they are building your home.” It was just a little word from the Lord, “they are guarding My throne and building your home.” And the mother thought, “How amazing, those two little insignificant peons are guarding God’s throne?” See there is the place where things have reality, the permanent perfect existence of God and it is only here in this life, it is only in this body that we get to experience the process of saying, “Yes” to the eternal and letting go of the temporal. You can only let go of the temporal now. You cannot let go of it later. When it is gone, you cannot let it go, it is too late. This is the place of the service. I want to impress on your hearts, you cannot minister Jesus Christ to a soul unless you are living and while you are living you constantly find that life being threatened and you keep surrendering it back to God and you keep giving it over. That is just a constant surrender, that is the cross of Jesus Christ. “Always bearing about the dying of the Lord Jesus in the body, always bearing about the dying.” That is the ministry of believers, to bear about the dying. You know what we do? We spend so much incredible time trying to escape it, escape the death. And when it happens we are appalled and we go around from believer to believer, “Can you believe what happened to me? I was doing such and such and so and so and they did this to me, can you? Just the thought of it, I just can’t believe it.” We get ourselves all churned up and we have our stomachs in knots and we are going around telling stories trying to win compatriots. But God has called us to life so He has called us to manifest life by accepting it above this life. We manifest death and we get life. That is the nature of the cross, that is the nature of ministry.

So here parents, here is a verse for you, put your name here, “For you,” for we, put your own name, “For we which live are alway delivered unto death for Jesus’ sake. We which live are always delivered unto death for Jesus’ sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh.” And there is the whole key. “We are always delivered to death so the life of Jesus might be manifest in our mortal flesh.” This earthen vessel, this mortal flesh, can manifest the life of Jesus, but this mortal flesh can only manifest the life of Jesus on one premise, that it is accepting death everyday. We are always delivered unto death. Think about it from a Heavenly view. You pray, you say, “O God,” you wake up in the morning, you are all set, you want to have a good day, a spiritual day, you want to serve the Lord, you want to raise your children for God and you just want to do great things for God, “O God, make me a conduit, make me a vessel, I want to serve You today.” If God answers that prayer, He is going to do one thing to you, He is going to touch you right in the place of death. He is going to say, “Ok I want you to manifest some death today because through your death today you are going to manifest some light. So here it is.” We get up and we say, how many times have you heard somebody say, “I prayed for patience, I’ll never do that again because the Lord gave me trouble.” But it is right. God wants to do the work but you know what we want? We want to walk in like this, if you can imagine a pristine white little suit and we want to walk into a circumstance, of course the pristine white little suit represents just how good we are. We want to see a problem and we want to say, “O God deliver this child,” poom, “Oh that’s good, that is fixed now.” Then it is something else and there is another problem, “Oh Lord deliver, boom, oh that is fixed that is great.” That is our little capsulated view of ministry. We just want to keep delivering people out of their turmoils with a zappy powy wowy kabam, the little plug prayer of faith, “I prayed, God answered and we are delivered.” No, I will tell you what God wants to do. He wants to take out of us the love of this life. How is He going to do it? By putting it to death while we are still living it. Have you ever felt like you wished you could die? Now you know what I am talking about? God wants to separate us from the vanity of holding and loving dearly this life which is a temporal life. And so He is calling us to minister Jesus Christ by touching our own bodies, by touching our own circumstances and calling us to death in this circumstance and in that circumstance. And it is the circumstances of death that are the occasions of ministry. Where has God called you to die to this life recently? What did you do? Did you create an escape ladder to climb out? Did you deliver yourself? May it never be. But this is what we are called to. “We which live are always delivered unto death for Jesus’ sake that the life of Jesus also might be manifest in our mortal flesh.” This is the place of ministry, the life of Jesus in my mortal flesh being manifest out. And it cannot be manifest except when that flesh is called on the carpet to die. I wish I had time to paint the picture because there are 1,000 ways to die in one minute. All of our hopes and dreams and wonders and fears, probably the biggest setback Christians have is this, this little setback: we create a little causal view, we remember the Old Covenant, the Old Covenant said, “If you keep these things, you are going to live,” so we say, “I’m saved and I want to live, I want the blessing of God, what can I do?” We start setting about ourselves to do these things. We want God to bless. We get in there, we are doing these things and all the sudden what do we get? Havoc. The ship cracks and sinks, “Well what happened to my blessing, what happened to my blessing?” Well you forgot which covenant you are under. You are not under the Old Covenant that says, “Do and you shall live.” You are under the covenant that says, “Since you could not do and could not live, I have done and ye shall live. Now let me manifest it in your mortal body. And so death works in us. What does it work in us to do? To pry our little fingers off of the handle of life that is here. That is all it does. It just keeps picking at us, pushing us.

I do not have time to go through all of chapter five but this whole picture of death working in us and life in those that we are ministering to is the pattern so notice verse 13, “We having the same spirit of faith as it is written, ‘I have believed, therefore I have spoken,’ we also believe and therefore speak.” In a practical nutshell, what he is bringing to the forefront of this point is this, at the point at which I have to die, that God is calling me to death so that I might have the life of Christ manifest, at that very point, I must exercise personal faith in Jesus Christ at that moment, that is the place of faith and you face your potential loss. I am going to confess, this stuff is supposed to go on every minute of the day but you and I do not notice it. In fact I have a little pet theory, this is just my theory, but I have a pet theory that it is really easy to do the big thing. It is easy to have grand, horrible thing happen to you, that is easy, it is just when your wife looks funny at you in the morning and you do not feel like being looked funny at in the morning. And so you look funny back to her and off you go, “I do not want to die, so I am going to kill you and you end up both dying.” That little process again and again and again of that work and I must surrender. I know a couple of occasions where I have been troubled. There have been times where I have thought multiple times where it looked like the ministry God had called me to was just going to vaporize and be gone. I remember the absolute victory and joy at that moment because this is what happened, death was working in me and I had to come to the Lord and say, “You know God, if you choose to take away this ministry, it is not because You hate me, it is because You love me and You will have something useful for me if I surrender and Lord I give it up. If You want to take this ministry, it is Yours and You can close it down, it is Yours, take it.” But that happened truly in the heart and that was an act of faith and right at that moment of faith was the manifestation. Now in me what was manifest was peace and joy, immediately peace and joy, immediately peace and joy. It just was produced. I had surrendered my life, I had nothing left to lose and so the peace was there. “So death works in us but life in you, we have the same spirit of faith according as written, ‘I believed therefore I have spoken’.” How many times parents are we speaking without our own faith being engaged. Think about it. You know the old saying that was said when I was a child, “Do what I say, not what I do.” The old dull rule of words. That is not the rule of the cross, that is not the rule of the cross. You do not have a right to speak on behalf of Christ until you have believed on behalf of Christ. It is the fact that you have believed that gives you authenticity and it is your belief by which you can say, “I exhort you, I encourage you, let it go. The Lord reigns, let it go. And I preach what I have already done. I have believed, therefore I have spoken.” It is the conduit effect. Light comes into me, I receive it, it enlightens me and it floods back out because I have received it. It is unavoidable in its flood. It is a simple process. All of this, brothers and sisters, is ministry. Get back to verse 1 of chapter 4, “Seeing we have this ministry as we receive mercy we faint not.” It is a ministry we are about. What do you see here about 12 steps of effective ministry? I do not see a thing. I see death upon death as the key to me learning anything about serving others with life. That is the whole key.

As he moves on he moves through chapter five and talks about resurrection, issues that we have preached on really recently. But I wanted to move over in chapter 6 real briefly where he says, in verse 1, “We then as workers together with Him, beseech you also that ye receive not the grace of God in vain.” Do you see the nature of ministry? We are workers together with Him and our job is to be beseeching. We are to be beseeching about the things that we have already done. Do not receive the grace of God in vain, do not give up, lay a hold of life in Christ, let go of life on earth. That is the path. Do you see this engagement? My whole being is engaged because my desire is not to tell you about Jesus, my desire is to beseech you that you might trust Him just like I have trusted Him in my circumstance. So that beseeching process flows out. I am going to flip back because there is a good verse in chapter 5 that is picturesque at this point, verse 13, “Whether we be beside ourselves, it is to God or whether we be sober it is for your cause.” That is an amazing picture of ministry. I look upon the circumstances that I myself am being forced to go through and I see them as the occasion by which I am going to gain ministry for other people. I am going to be serving outward from what I have learned inward. I realize I am going backwards in the book but if you flip back to the first chapter of 2 Corinthians, there is that incredible picture that Paul places over the whole book when he gives praise to God, “Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort who comforts us in all our tribulations that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble by the comfort wherewith we ourselves were comforted of God.” Do you see the conduit? Do you see the picture? I have got to be in trouble before I can find peace in trouble. And when I have been troubled and when I have found peace in trouble, when I have been comforted by God, I am now equipped, I am now able to minister outward to others who are engaged in trouble so I can help them see that trouble as an occasion for their own faith, as an occasion for their own opportunity to serve God. That is the nature of conduit. We are just conduits of light. We do not have any other thing. So what is the greatest plan for evangelism in your family? To be transformed by the trouble God brings to you, to die to every form of self and every vestige of earthly clinging, to let it go, to let it all go so that you can be the conduit, so that you can be a vessel, an earthen vessel by which the light of God shines in and through. And thus we serve. So here we are a bunch of empty vessels all aglow, all aglow. And you know what? It is attractive. When you see an empty vessel glowing, it is just attractive, it just draws attention. What do you have? What is going on here? How can nothing have something when I have something and I have nothing? It is just that very light that draws out. I do not want to quit but I guess I have to eventually, but let me go to verse 3. “Giving no offense in anything that the ministry be not blamed but in all things approving ourselves as the ministers of God in much patience and afflictions and necessities and distresses.” He keeps on going, “In stripes and in imprisonments,” and he goes on and on and on, but here is the thing, do you catch this picture here? How do you give an offense? Ask yourself the question, “How do you give an offense to the ministry?” How is it that we who are ministers can have blame laid against our ministry? How is it? Only one way, by refusing the tribulation that God chooses to bring upon us personally so that we might be conduits of the grace of life. We make the ministry blamed when we refuse to be conduits. Notice how he did not have the ministry blamed. He was in all things approving themselves as ministers to God, in patience and in afflictions and in necessities and distresses and on and on and on and on and on. There was this complete testimony of a broken vessel, “This life is not my own, I am not living it to myself,” and the ministry thus was not to blame. There was a death always working in me so that the life of Christ could be manifest and that was the testimony of Paul. That was his testimony. So there is no offense. There is no accusation. I encourage you to read that list. There are so many incredible pictures of trauma and difficulty and victory in those things. Then he says in verse 11, “O you Corinthians, our mouth is open unto you, our heart is enlarged, you are not straightened in us but you are straightened in your own bowels. Now for a recompense in the same, I speak as to my children, be ye also enlarged.” You know what? Good ministry has a tremendous tone of fervor and compassion. There is a movement of intensity of the deep compassions of our soul. You know what I want to suggest this morning, and this is kind of a new thought to me that I am trying to encourage myself to think about, there is not any passion or consideration or value that can grip us deep in our hearts, there is not anything that is not already first gripping the deep heart of God. If you have a passion for good, if you have a concern for some dear soul, that passion did not arise with you, that is the very heart and passion of God. And what we need to be is vessels of His light and with that vessels of His light, we are going to be vessels of His passion and we are going to be passionate for the very things of God and we are going to be moved. If you just look at the words Paul chooses throughout this whole passage, incredible, the tremendous amount of personal impartation from the very depths of his soul to win those he was called to serve. “Our mouth is opened unto you, our heart is enlarged.” There is this passion for reaching those that have a need. Now notice, that passion does not back away from the preface. There is this risk, there is this danger, and our children or anyone that we minister to need to be called, need to be called into the counsel of God. That is the whole nature of ministry, you call someone into the counsel of God. There is that instinctive nature of man to push away the counsel of God and to seek rather the counsel of man. If you measure counsel of men versus counsel of God, it is always going to fall in one of two categories I do not care what it is or how it looks, it is going to have exactly one of two forms, the counsel of men will always preserve this life no matter, it is concerned about this life. It might have a little bit of long range concern for this life versus short range concern for this life so it might have a little smell of maturity but it is going to be concerned about this life and that is the counsel of man, preserve life, preserve this life. The counsel of God is always going to be a call to abandon this life, to die to it, to surrender it. There is nothing here that is permanent. There is something far better. So we come to this incredible call, verse 14, of being unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

I am going to close with this verse this morning, “Children, how can you be unequally yoked together with unbelievers?” This very minute, this very day, I want to just point out that this passage is not talking about marriage at all. There is nothing in this passage about marriage. It is a passage on counsel. Where do I draw my counsel from? Now, here is the Scriptural point of reference, if you draw your counsel from those that would save this life, you are unequally yoked, you are unequally yoked. Let me give an illustration of unequal yoking: children inside a home talking together in a back bedroom speaking against their parents and their parents failures, much of which may absolutely be correct, they are clearly failures of the parents and they are speaking against the parents in such a way so as to exclude the bowels of their compassion from calling and hearing and drawing their parents into their counsel and having that counsel minister to them. That is unequal yoking. And as children in your own home you can be guilty of unequal yoking by compatibility with your siblings against your parents. The receiving of false counsel from the lips of our own siblings, that is unequal yoking. What else? You know what else, it does not have to be a sibling does it? It can be a peer? How many times do peers get together and talk about their terrible authorities and plant thoughts in each other’s minds, “I know what I am going to do, as soon as I turn 18, I tell you what, I am out of here, I have had it.” But again it is that same exact course, it is the closing of the bowels from the people that God has put in your life for spiritual counsel and nourishment and you look at the faults and you look at the earthly loss and you say, “I have had it, I am not going to put up with it anymore,” and you are done and you are out of here. That is unequal yoking. Unequal yoking according to Scripture is one thing, whether or not the bowels of my compassion are open to the authorities that God has put in my life for my spiritual being. When I see God in those people that God has put in my life and I see them they are by His hand as a means to my own spiritual advancement, then I seek God through those counselors God has given me. Look at the promise that God has given. I am going to skip down because of time, verse 16, “And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols for ye are the temple of the living God as God has said, ‘I will dwell with them and walk in them and I will be their God and they shall be my people. Wherefore come out from among them and be separate,’ saith the Lord, ‘And touch not the unclean thing and I will receive you and will be a Father unto you and you shall be My sons and daughters,’ saith the Lord Almighty’.” There is the call, there is the picture, there is the absolute incredible promise for us as families, for us in any kind of ministry really. We have the means by which we can draw near to God by receiving those God has put over us for our own good, for our own counsel. We have the promise that when we come out from ungodly counsel, when we separate ourselves from that which is begging us to save this life, when we come out from that counsel, we have this promise that God Himself will receive us as a child and that God will be to us as a Father and that we will be to God as a son, as a daughter. I want you to understand the significance of this whole thing. It is not a question of whether earthly people can perfectly serve you in a right capacity, what is important to understand is that God has chosen a means by which to minister to you, a means by which to give you life and health. And He wants you to open up the bowels of your compassion so that you draw in the counsel of those He has put into your life, your parents, spiritual authority that He has put into your life, etc. It is these people that you go through, you do not go around them, you do not bug out and pick another crew and go somewhere else, you have to go right through because as you draw through to God, God becomes your Father, He becomes engaged in the process of preserving your interests and He acts on your behalf. The greatest deception that Satan puts in the lives of young people is, “Don’t tell my parents.” The privacy by which we separate the bosom of our parents’ compassion for us, we are separated by our own deception and our own lies and our own refusal to receive correction. We just divide ourselves right off, “I don’t want that, keep it a secret, don’t let them know.” From my own experience I have understood an amazing thing, I yet have not known of even one case and I am sure there may be some, I am not trying to say that it is not possible, but I have yet to meet a case where a child has seen God through their parents and said, “I want God to be my God and I am going to go through that temporal and temporary vessel and if necessary I am going to die in the process.” See because that is the same life. If your parents are going to be manifesting the life of Christ through their own death in life, so are the children. And you know what? It takes a little bit of death to go to your parents and say, “I have got some things I am struggling with, I have got some things I have done and I need your counsel and I need your help.” Those words are so precious because they open up the opportunity to engage in holy communion parent to child receiving counsel and the direction from the Lord Himself. That is our opportunity, that is our privilege. You know what? There are two factors. I want to just show you a mathematical equation here, if the parents do what is right, you have half the formula working in the right direction and if the children are working right, you have half the formula working in the right direction. But if the parents join up with God and say, “God by Your help we are going to overcome,” then the parents have multiplied their effort and they have multiplied the spiritual force of their work. Now they have God with them serving and God may do some strange thing to bring to past some necessary lesson to teach the child something. Be prepared for that because He is a God of good purpose. “When it pleased the Lord,” Paul said, “He set me out as a minister of the Gospel.” “When it pleased the Lord.” God has His own timing, God has His own purpose. But then if you take the child and the child is compounding their efforts by receiving the ministry of the Lord, the full-fold ministry in the house is parent times God, child times God and that equation times each other. It is a magnitude of positive benefit. But here is the significant thing, if you will do your part, that is all you are responsible for and if you will do your part, God will be your Father and you will experience life and you will be blessed regardless of whether the other party does their part or not because you have honored God, you have walked by faith and you have secured that place that we have as the very children of God ourselves. So we have this hope. I can have a parent who hates me and God will minister love and life to me through that parent for my good. He will. He has promised it. But you know what we do? Instead of getting the compounded effect of all of these spiritual forces working together for a common goal, you know what we do? We blow up the house and we fragment everybody to their own, parents refuse to go God’s way, the children refuse to go God’s way and they refuse to cooperate and everything fragmentizes and so all that is going on is each party vying for their own living soul, vying for their rights as they see it. So all you have is squabbling, sorrow and disgust. But we have the choice and we have the hope and we have the promise. God is going to meet us at the place of the cross, at the place that we have to lay down our lives. God is going to meet us there and He is going to be to us a Father at that place. Verse 1, chapter 7, “Having therefore these promises, dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. Receive us, we have wronged no man, we have corrupted no man, we have defrauded no man. I speak this not to condemn you. I have said before that you are in our hearts to die and to live with you.” There is where it all wraps up. How do you get a spiritual result? We adjust our lives according to the promises, “Having therefore these promises dearly beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit.” Let us cleanse ourselves. We have promises, let us cleanse ourselves. Let us put off our own conniving, our own interests. Let us cleanse ourselves. God has a promise. We can lay a hold of it. I want to make a promise to any young person sitting here this morning that will hear me, take God at His Word and you see your parents as His direct means of ministering His life to you on His terms and you go after your parents with every fiber in your body to give glory to God and to receive from your parents what God has for you. Open yourselves up to them, tell them the secrets of your heart, tell them the places you are angry at them, tell them the places that you are struggling, but go after your parents, go after them as if it is a choice hidden treasure and you do not want to be the one that misses out. If you will, if, if you will, you will find not only your parents there to serve you, but you will find God Himself preserving His every interest in you and there will be a day in your life when you will look back and you will say, “Truly God has been my Father, truly I am a blessed man because God has taken me in and He has filled me up and I lack no good thing.” That is the promise and you can do it. You can do it by the grace of God, by the help of God, by reaching out to Him in the circumstance. You know what it means though? A little bit of humility does it not? A little bit of death to self. But that is ok, that is how spiritual growth happens for us all. A little bit more death to self. But for those of you who still have parents that you can minister and be ministered to, take advantage while you have it, take advantage while you have it. Let God minister to you as He has chosen to, let His promises be reaped because you have walked by faith. Let us pray.

Lord I feel this morning as if these things are so important as if our families are at such risk for Lord we live in a world that the whole pattern of the world is a disregard for any kind of authority, a despising of parental authority and a preferential standard of rightness in our culture that says, “My pleasure and my wants equal freedom, equal liberty, equal life.” So we live in a world Lord that sets about to please the self, to satisfy individual’s desires and there is nothing Lord in this society to call us to the cross of Christ. I thank You Lord that You love us with that perfect purpose that You have in Jesus Christ and I thank You Lord that there is on Your part a moving, that You are at work, that You deliberately permit trouble to come our way so that we might find in the midst of that trouble the comfort that we need so that our own lives have hope and that that comfort thus can shine right through us and that we might call others to the same comfort. Lord I pray for the parents this morning that You would work in them a repentant heart, that they might have a greater understanding of the precious privilege and the high place of service that You have called them to as parents of their children. Lord that they might see their behavior through a different lens, that their petty squabbles and selfish manifestations, Lord, that they are nothing that speak of You nor draws their children to You, but they are the very seeds of death, fighting and scrapping for our own ways. Give us Lord a real repentance against that wickedness of parenting according to our own whims, according to our own desires, according to our own pleasure and failing to see that we are called to manifest Christ as servants in every case, in every situation. Lord I pray that we would have eyes to see what is it that You today are working as death in us. And as we are alert to that death working in us today Lord, that You might have a testimony in our lives of the life of Christ being manifest through that death so that we are believing, so that we are trusting, so that we have authority to speak because we have believed and that You might draw out of us the deepest compassions of Your very heart for our children and that we might plead with them and beseech them to follow after You and to open their bowels and not be caught up in unequal yoking, receiving counsel that preserves the flesh for a temporary gain. Lord I pray for the young people this morning. It troubles me Lord as I look in so many of their eyes that it seems such hardness exists already in so many and it frightens me Lord because how can they have hope except they yield up that worthless hope of this world? Lord we confess that we parents are absolutely without perfection. But thank You Lord that You have chosen to use the weakness of the parents to minister to the children, not their strength. I pray You would give a spirit of humility to these young people even today, that You would give them a vision for the promises that You have made, that if they will separate themselves from ungodly counsel, if they will separate themselves from that which pleases the flesh and despises the cross, if they would separate themselves, that You Yourself will be to them a God and a Father, that You will receive them even into the bosom of your own heart. Lord that it might be that our children have a passion that You would receive them into Your own heart. Grant that they would have eyes to see the treasure that their parents represent. Lord, open up the doors of communication whereby hearts are opened, the deep secrets of the heart are exposed and confession is made and counsel is given and repentance is granted so that we might preserve our inheritance and Lord that You might receive great glory and great honor. We ask in Christ’s name, amen.

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David and Abbey’s Engagement Testimony

“I will sing of the mercies of the Lord forever. With my mouth will I make known Thy faithfulness to all generations. For I have said, ‘Mercy shall be built up forever, Thy faithfulness shalt Thou establish in the very heavens. I have made a covenant with My chosen, I have sworn unto David my servant, thy seed will I establish forever and built up thy throne to all generations. And the heavens shall praise Thy wonders, O Lord, Thy faithfulness also in the congregation of the saints. For who in Heaven can be compared unto the Lord? Who among the sons of the mighty can be likened unto the Lord? God is greatly to be feared in the assembly of His saints and to be had in reverance of all them that are about Him. O Lord God of hosts, who is a strong Lord like unto Thee or to Thy faithfulness round about Thee?” Psalm 89

David and Abbey’s Testimony

2/6/00 – Walkersville Christian Fellowship

[Editor’s note: On November 23, 1999, my brother David Cox - age 21 Cessna pilot and Microsoft Certified Technician at wcfs.edu (our school) - was diagnosed with myxopapillary ependymoma, which in his case were very large intra-spinal tumors. He has undergone two surgeries to remove the tumors, but still has considerable future needs in handling this cross as it is a slow-growing condition. His cancer was a shock to all of us, but it has not come without incredible joy in the uniqueness of God's love and grace (favor). The following testimony will hopefully help describe God's greatness in His love and grace towards David and Abbey. Just prior to the following transcript, Abbey Severson sang a song she wrote for David, with her and her sisters and brother performing a little “Von Trapp Family” - remeniscent skit to go with the song. Also, the church men did a “Jean Claude Pierre, The Flying Ace” skit to commerate David’s famous children’s messages done with another church member Peter Fear. Both of these were to give David a personal Happy Birthday, as he turned 22 on January 25, 2000. Then, David and Abbey shared their testimony together.]

David: I do not know if I’ll be able to get the smile off of my face. I am so thankful for everyone’s love that you have shown toward me. I just feel so unworthy of it. I am so grateful for all the different presentations and for your (Abbey) presentation, it was so nice, it was wonderful. I am glad it is on video. I am just, if I was more of an emotional person I would be crying right now. I feel like I want to cry but I can’t, I’m too happy. I’m just so thankful for all the love you all have shown to me.

As you know I am engaged to get married to Abbey and that’s just in case you didn’t know that. Basically I believe this all started 10 years ago when I was eleven years old. I’ll start there and kind of move forward and explain how the Lord has been working in my life since 1989. In early 1989 I heard an engagement testimony from Dan and Amy Johnson, probably Spring or early Summer. They were sharing how they trusted God to bring them their spouses and Amy Johnson shared how she surrendered her desire to get married, to have a husband. She entrusted that to the Lord. And that testimony had a big impact on me when I was eleven. I thought about it a lot. I don’t know if I really made a commitment in my heart to trust the Lord, but it had a big impact on me at that age. And in July of ‘89, my family went to Kansas and Colorado to visit my dad’s family and on that trip I was just amazed at how big the world was. We had traveled a short distance in relation to the rest of the world and we spent three days driving out there and we met all these new people and cousins and distant relatives that I had never met before and another family that I had no idea even existed. And in addition to their friends and just all these different communities that I didn’t have any idea that they existed and God really impressed on my heart at that time just how big the world is, how gigantic the world is and how many millions of people there are, there are billions of people. I was thinking, “How am I going to find the right one, the right wife? There are so many people. If I try to go around and interview all the girls in the world and try to pick the best one, I’ll spend my entire life doing it and by that time I’ll be too old.” So I was overwhelmed at that prospect. I knew first of all that I wanted to have the best one, God’s best for me. I didn’t want to just go get some second best counterfeit. I knew that a pretty face is not enough to make a good marriage. She has to have a godly heart first of all and a heart to serve the Lord. I was just overwhelmed. Another thought that I realized that a wife doesn’t come with a 30-day money back guarantee. You can’t in reality in God’s eyes, you can’t exchange her if she doesn’t meet up to your desires. I was just overwhelmed at my inability to find the best one for me. So somewhere on I-70 between Kansas City, Kansas and Illinois, I just surrendered my whole future to the Lord once again especially most specifically about getting married. I said, “Lord, You know, You can search the entire world up and down and back and forth and You can search the entire world, check all the hearts out and find the best one for me. You know which girl is most compatible, most godly, the one that is just for me.” I said, “If she is on the other side of the country or on the other side of world, You can bring her to me in Your time.” I remember very distinctly, that was my genuine heart’s desire in surrender. And how many eleven year olds think that? (laugh).. I don’t know but I was thinking about that a lot then. So after that I was kind of looking to see what the Lord was going to do and I was looking forward to what He would do. Sometimes I was wondering, I wonder if she is in Russia right now or if she is in South America or where? But it’s amazing that at the time the Seversons were living in Memphis, Tennessee, her dad had a job at some bank down there and five months after I prayed that Mr. Severson lost his job. It seemed like a pretty bad thing I’m sure for them, but I know that God had a whole lot more understanding of what is best for us than what we can perceive at the moment. Mr. and Mrs. Severson came to Maryland in early Spring, late Winter or early Spring to interview at FCNB and then they came to our church. They were kind of scouting out the area looking for a church and a homeschool program and seeing what was up here. Somehow they got in touch with my Dad so my parents invited them over for dinner on a Sunday after church. They were talking about their children and I hadn’t seen any pictures of the family, I didn’t know what their ages were. Mr. Severson just happened to mention the name “Abbey” and it was very strange but I had this sense, this very strange check in my heart, almost like a lightening bolt that God said, “That’s your wife.” I didn’t know what she looked like or anything. (question from audience: How old were you?) I was twelve years old. At that time I was still looking to see what God was doing because I had surrendered that to Him. I got up and I was kind of thinking about it and wondering, “I wonder what she looks like? I wonder what she is like?” I just surrendered it back to the Lord and entrusted Him with it. But then the Lord led them up here in 1990, I guess it was April or May, May and throughout the years, well ever since they first moved up here I started praying specifically for Abbey and also for Mr. and Mrs. Severson that God would give them wisdom to train their children properly and have the leadership they needed to have. So I remember I met them in May and then we went 7 or 8 months without even seeing them again. But I still prayed for them also and every night I would pray for Abbey and for her parents. I just really, the Lord put a big burden on my heart at that time for them. And eventually God led them to join the Walkersville program in ‘91, the summer of ‘91 and then ‘95 they came to church. It was kind of interesting, my heart’s desire was that they would join the school and then they would start coming to church but I just surrendered it to the Lord and I really couldn’t do much on my own, I just trusted the Lord and He started working out details and amazingly enough they started coming. I couldn’t believe that. I was amazed. I think you (Abbey) wanted to start sharing something here, didn’t you? (Not until December..) Throughout the years I still prayed for them off and on and the Lord was taking me through some of my own trials and refining and working out sin in my life and so that was up until like December of ‘95. And you wanted to share something…

Abbey: I just wanted to share that December of ‘95 was a key year for us because there had been a lot of complacency in my obedience and the rebellion had been really inside. I guess my parents thought that I didn’t think they knew it was there. Well in ‘95 it started coming out in all kinds of little ways. There was a lot of deceit going on behind their back and there was a relationship that happened and my parents found out about it in December of ‘95. I can remember just thinking after they found out that at this point either I needed to leave home and I had somewhere to go, I knew where I could go, or I had to completely change, just do a 180 degree turn around and completely change. I was in my room that afternoon thinking about it and wondering what was going to happen now. My mom had had me doing this Bible course of some sort so I was still reading through God’s Word. And that afternoon I was reading through Psalms in chapter 30 and a couple verses just really convicted me. Well not really convicted but showed me what God could do if I gave Him my life. I was miserable, I was so miserable. I had every single thing I wanted. Every road I wanted to take, I could do it. It was all in my hands yet I was miserable, I was completely miserable. It was Psalm 30:11 and 12 which says, “Thou hast turned my mourning into dancing; Thou hast removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy that I may sing to Thee and not be silent O Lord my God I will give thanks unto Thee forever.” And I just told God, I said, “God if You can do that for me, then I can give you my life.” And I did. That was the turning point when I decided to give God my life. I wanted to add that little point in there.

David: I guess I will start in, I’ve always like Abbey a lot and I have always had an attraction to her that when I was younger my parents were trying to encourage me to not be flirting with girls and especially Abbey and to be friends and not to show undue attention to her and lead her on in ways that I shouldn’t be. So it was really a big struggle for me to leave my heart on the shelf as you put it and to rest in the Lord in what He was doing. I was always worried that some other guy was going to get her or something, which was a fear that if that was the case then that was God’s will because God is sovereign, nothing will happen outside of His will. So I was sort of quiet and tried to just rest in the Lord. And I think it was in the Spring of 1997, it was the first time that I actually went to my parents and told them that I was wondering how do I start, how do I go about finding a wife or how do I go about what the practical way of working out a relationship with a girl. They kind of pressed me and said, “Who do you have in mind? Who are you thinking about?” I didn’t want to say anything about Abbey but I told them how I really appreciated how the Lord was working in her heart and life and I’ve seen some big changes and she’s been growing by leaps and bounds and she’s really maturing a lot. So I thought maybe I should pursue something here. When I talked to them about this they said, “Well we’ll pray about it and entrust it to the Lord and He can do it if it’s His will but we each need to rest and to wait on the Lord until we have the confirmation because we don’t want to go pursue anything that’s not His will. The last thing we all want to do is to do something that is outside of God’s perfect plan, God’s best for us both.” I had to put it on the shelf and wait. That was ‘97 and after that point I was able to have a lot more openness with my mom and dad and sharing with them my struggles of waiting and fears and whatever. And this last year I’ve really been praying a lot that God would give me direction in life, to show me what His will was for my life, what His plans were, if I was to get married or if I was to go to college or Bible school or what, if I should continue what I had been doing or what His will is for my life, praying that He would make it clear that I would not continue feeling like I was not sure of what He had for me. I was also still struggling with these desires I had for Abbey. And I was feeling kind of frustrated this last Fall thinking, “Either just take her out of my life and get rid of her, get her away from me or do something. I’m tired of having this constant struggle with this girl.” My heart oftentimes not being able to rest in the Lord and this struggle with my desires for her. It seemed like after I submitted that to the Lord and just asked Him to start working, shortly after that I found out about my cancer in November. I thought, “here goes. I guess this is what God has for me.” When I first found out about it I didn’t think I would live to see the New Year as I told you before. I didn’t know what God had for me but I didn’t think it would be marriage. But that was a big struggle for me especially in December because the Lord knows that my heart’s desire more than anything else is to have a family, to raise a godly offspring. That was just an incredible struggle that I had. More than anything else I’d like to raise a family. So I had to surrender that to the Lord. One day in December my heart was just breaking and crying out to the Lord and He led me to Psalm 89 which was an incredible, it was like God clearly answered me, answered my prayer and answered my fears because I was worried, “Am I going to be cut off? Am I going to not have any family or any posterity which is a future generation? Is my heritage going to be shortened or cut off?” And the Lord led me to this Psalm. I was wondering, “God, have You forgotten about me?” or “Why are You doing this to me?” And Psalm 89 was incredible encouragement. It says, “I will sing of the mercies of the Lord forever. With my mouth will I make known Thy faithfulness to all generations. For I have said, ‘Mercy shall be built up forever, Thy faithfulness shalt Thou establish in the very heavens. I have made a covenant with My chosen, I have sworn unto David my servant, thy seed will I establish forever and built up thy throne to all generations. And the heavens shall praise Thy wonders, O Lord, Thy faithfulness also in the congregation of the saints. For who in Heaven can be compared unto the Lord? Who among the sons of the mighty can be likened unto the Lord? God is greatly to be feared in the assembly of His saints and to be had in reverance of all them that are about Him. O Lord God of hosts, who is a strong Lord like unto Thee or to Thy faithfulness round about Thee?” And when I read that Psalm, it goes on another 52 verses, but when I read that Psalm I was just so excited and so amazed and so at peace with what God is doing because it was like He clearly answered me and says, “Yes David, I have not forgotten about you. I still have a plan for you. Everything is under control.” It was like He actually had my name in here. He said, “I have sworn unto David my servant.” I was like, “Wow, He actually answered me with my name!” I could tell that God was clearly reassuring me that not to worry, everything is under control. So I just surrendered to Him once again my desires and entrusted it to Him. And then in early January, Dad surprised me. We went on a walk one night and he said, “If you didn’t have this cancer, what would you do about getting married?” or about Abbey, somehow he brought it up. And so I was really not sure of what to say, just sort of stepped around the issue. And he began to tell me how the Lord had confirmed in his heart that Abbey was to be my wife and I was kind of shocked because at this point I had no idea I would even be able to consider something like that. After he said that I was worried, the last thing I want to do is bring some girl in my situation, ruin somebody else’s life with my problems. I would hate to do that. It is the last thing I would even want to think about doing, bring these problems on someone else as well. But the Lord just impressed on my heart the need to trust Him and walk in faith. It’s a step of faith that we’re taking. I don’t know the future but God knows. God knew back in 1989 that this was going to happen to me and He knew who it was that was necessary to be my helpmate. He knew before then, before anything happened. He was preparing, He had been preparing for many years for this day, for this time, this point in my life. So I just continued to trust the Lord. One of the things that my dad felt is that if Abbey was to be my wife then we needed to get some additional counsel and this was before I knew about surgery, I thought I was going to go through radiation. But he felt like it was necessary to include Abbey in some of the decision making process if she was to be part of my life. She should have some sort of say in what happens in my treatment. So we continued to pray about what to do and then on January 14, my Dad met with Mr. Severson to find out if it was alright for me to approach him about Abbey. I didn’t know how the meeting went. Dad just said, “Oh, it went alright.” I was dying to find out what happened. I was praying the whole day that it would go alright but he didn’t say much about it. Then the next day at the teacher’s meeting in Baltimore, Mr. Severson handed me a note that said, “You’re coming with us. We’re going to take you home.” I thought, “Uh oh. He’s going to interrogate me or something.” I didn’t know why he was asking me to drive home with him. So I said, “Ok I’ll come with you.” And we left early and we stopped to get something to eat. He started asking, “What are your plans? What are your intentions?” Of course I didn’t know that he had given my dad permission to give me permission to go ask him about Abbey, so I was still kind of, I was just keeping my mouth quiet. I really wasn’t saying anything. He was pressing like, “Aren’t you going to say something? Don’t you have something to ask me? What are your intentions?” I finally told him what my desires were and he said, “Ok I just wanted to hear it from your mouth.” So it was a little awkward at first but the Lord worked it all out and I found out later that Dad had forgotten to tell me that I had permission to ask him. Then on Sunday the 16th, we met again to make some plans about how to surprise Abbey and on the 17th I had a little table at the Dobbin House in Gettysburg in front of a fireplace. Abbey didn’t know anything about it. She showed up with her parents and I was there with my parents. I was sitting at the table, next to the table and they walk in and Abbey was totally shocked. She had no idea anything was going on and that was sort of the beginning of our courtship. It lasted one week. And the 23th of January Mr. Severson gave me permission to ask for her hand, to ask her to marry me. I didn’t waste any time. The next day, the 24th, we were engaged at the Dutch’s Daughter in Frederick. That’s just a brief sketch of what happened this last month. Everything happened so fast, I had no idea things would come out this way, this quickly. And the Lord has been directing us through our parents more than anything else. I told Dr. Summers when I was in the hospital that I feel like I’m on a canoe with no paddles and going down the white water rapids and just holding on for dear life. But I have to remember that God has got the canoe in His hand and He’s guiding it down the river, keeping me safe. That’s how I feel about this whole relationship; it has kind of been going so fast. The Lord just keeps on bringing things about in His will and His plan. Did you have anything else you wanted to share? I think you did, definitely.

Abbey: I just wanted to share my side of this whole thing. We liked each other when we were little but it was a lot of flirtatiousness that should not have been there at all and that was not a good thing. But then I kind of went off my own direction, wanted something more adventerous with the rebellion that I had. Not until last January did something change. He had asked for prayer during the share time that God would protect him from the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life and that God would protect him during this time at a computer class that he was taking. So right after he got through sharing that, men in the church just started standing up and just praising David for character and for ways they had seen God work in his life. And I was kind of like, “Wow, I didn’t even see those things.” So God just kind of opened my eyes to show me who he really was. And I noticed in February new feelings I had never had before. I was like, “Wait a minute.” So I put them on the shelf and did not tell anyone about them. In July, my Mom asked me, “Is your heart on the shelf, do you have any feelings for anyone?” And I very reluctantly told her, “Yeah, I care for David.” At that point I did not want to get married. I was scared of the whole idea and I didn’t want that. A lot of people in the church and people that I had come in contact with started giving me this free marriage advice and I was like, “Where is this coming from? Why are you telling me this?” And it started scaring me a little bit so I think that is why I was so afraid of that. But God’s timing is perfect and in November when he started having the back problems and the tumors, I started getting really anxious and God just opened my heart, He opened my eyes to show me how much I cared for him and I hadn’t even realized how it had grown so much. I began spending hours in God’s Word. I couldn’t function without that. I needed that, that was my comfort. And I think the main thing that God taught me during that time was trusting. I have a little quote from “My Utmost for His Highest” that I wanted to read. Talking about how to live the Christian life, it says, “The only way is by allowing not a bit of the old life to be left but only simple perfect trust in God, such trust that we no longer want God’s blessings but only want Himself. Have we come to the place where God can withdraw His blessings and it does not affect our trust in Him? When once we see God at work we will never bow our heads about things that happen because we are actually trusting our Father in Heaven whom the world cannot see,” and that sums up exactly what God was teaching me during that time, trusting if He takes away all the blessing. On December 12th, I had been in mental anguish up to that point, not sure what to do with the feelings, just not knowing what was happening with him. I didn’t know if He was going to live or die, it was just overwhelming to me. I felt that I was sinning with the feelings that I had. I didn’t know what to do with them. I was asking God to forgive me, take them from me, do something with them, I don’t want them, take them. That night, my dad had said to me, “Abbey, before this cancer came into the picture I felt that David was the one for you,” based on conversation, things he had seen, the way God was leading him, but since his cancer came he didn’t see a future and didn’t think that David was the one. I just remember just the feeling I got from that, just thinking, “How am I going to deal with this?” I remember Dad just saying, “You have to get your heart back on the shelf, you cannot give him any piece of your heart.” And when he said that, I automatically knew I already had and I didn’t know what I was going to do about getting it back on the shelf if he wasn’t the one. Like I said, I’ve never felt that way before but I wanted to die. I did not know how to handle this. It was just too much for me. Sarah called me the next day and she was such an encouragment, more than words can say. I can’t thank her enough for her friendship. It was the first time I had ever told her what was going on with me and my feelings, she didn’t know and I just really opened up to her. And she just said, “Abbey, the feelings are not sin, that is natural. You need to thank God for the feelings and then give them to Him.” I just remember the freedom that I felt. That was the beginning of that turning point. And then I remembered a message that Mr. Cox had given on Psalm 106. I wrote it down in my journal. It was verse 4, it says, “Remember me O Lord in Thy favor toward Thy people. Visit me with Thy salvation that I may see the good or prosperity of Thy chosen ones, that I may rejoice in the gladness of Thy nation.” Mr. Cox was saying that we have the favor of God, we can see the vision of good that He has done for God’s people and from there a joy will overwhelm our souls. That is exactly what God did for me. I started writing down everything He has done for me in the past, ways that I could praise Him and I began to see, “Yes I could trust Him, I could give this to Him too.” This joy just overwhelmed my soul and I was just excited about what God was going to do. The trial was still there. I still felt the stress of it but it was from a different angle and I knew what to do with my feelings. I knew how to handle it now. I continued spending hours in God’s Word, just learning and being comforted by that. And then, like David said, on January 17th he completely surprised me. I did not know that was coming at all and we started our courtship and I remember writing in my journal that night, “Yes Lord, to those who delight themselves in You, You do give them the desires of their hearts. O Lord You have blessed me beyond anything imaginable.” Just being so thrilled with what was going on. That whole week we spent hours talking and just going over anything that could possibly be a problem and some things had come up on that Saturday, we were wondering if things were going to go through and again I had to give it back to God and trust Him with what He had. I remember the fears that I was thinking, “What if this doesn’t go through, this has gone too far! I don’t know if I can handle that.” I wrote in my journal the morning he proposed, I didn’t know that Dad had already given him permission, I said, “And now what all of us thought was God’s perfect plan for David and I might not be. God, what are you doing? This uncertainty is hard but I trust You. I surrender my desires and plans to You Lord. Yes, I know that whatever the outcome, no matter how painful is the best most perfect plan You could have for us. With an open hand I give You my desires Lord. Please give me a quiet heart, I love You Lord.” And I wrote that three hours before he proposed. It’s just amazing to me because as soon as I gave up my desires, He blessed and that’s happened so many times in my life. I just wish I would learn it the first time and be done with it. I guess that doesn’t work that way. I also wanted to share that a lot of people feel that we are being impulsive with this decision, with the future that we could have. What I have to say to that is God has put David on my heart. There is no way around it. I can’t prove it but I know that’s the case and God has used our parents to bring this about. We did not bring this about. And He has used other people. David was talking about the Wyands. I don’t know if you said that, we’ve told so many people. The Wyands really confirmed that in Mr. Cox’s heart. I also have to say that I know this is going to be a difficult path based on what could happen but I feel this is my lot, this is my portion, this is the cup that He has assigned and I’m accepting with joy the path that He is taking us on and this is a step of obedience. I just have to obey and follow. That’s what I have to share.

David: I’ve just been amazed at Abbey’s whole heart and how she’s just so willing to give her life to the Lord in whatever He has for her, for us. I still can’t understand why she would have any interest in me. I’m so grateful for her service to me and her help. She’s been an incredible help in the last few months since I got out of the hospital. Last night we went to visit Ralph and Becky Wyand. Becky Wyand works with the Walkerville program. We had a wonderful evening sharing with them our testimony, our story. Then we asked them, “What’s your side of this story? I heard you guys played a part in this.” And she started telling us how Mrs. Wyand especially, I was amazed to hear this but she has been praying, the Lord put it on her heart to pray for me for about three or four years. And she said, “I just felt like God had some big plan for you, all along there was some great thing God was going to take you through.” And when she found out about the cancer, her first thought was, “Well God, I didn’t think this is what I was thinking about here.” And it was just amazing to see how she was praying for me. So all early December, every day, she was praying for me, which I had no idea about. She said sometimes she would wake up at night in the middle of the night and she would start praying for me. One morning she was on a walk and the Lord just told her on that walk, “David needs to get married soon, because of this, through this cancer he needs to have a wife.” She was surprised and she went and talked to her husband about it and they said, “Let’s pray about this.” So they were praying about it seperately and at the same time individually, God put it on both of their hearts that Abbey was to be the one. At first she was worried about what, whatever. So they both shared what the Lord had put on their hearts and were amazed that it was the same person. Mrs. Wyand I don’t know that well at all. I work with her a lot and I’ve known her quite a few years but I’m not a good friend of hers. And here God is putting it on her heart to care for me and pray for me like that. So God used them and they were able to confirm it in my dad’s heart, to reconfirm it in my parent’s heart. It’s amazing to see the way that He has worked. I think that’s all I had to share. There was another point I remembered when you were talking but I forget what it was now. Did someone have a question? For those of you who have not heard, Lord-willing the wedding is scheduled for September 2nd, we have a church reserved. The church is the Frederick Church of the Brethren in Frederick off of Rosemont and Second Street, across from the Shifferstadt house.

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9/26/99 – Gary L. Cox

Gary L. Cox

We are going to be in Psalm 39, if you want to turn in your Bibles to Psalm 39. Let us pray.
Lord we thank You for who You are and what You have done for us in Christ. And we gather this morning in Christ’s name and we are seeking, Lord, to be edified and nourished by You through Your Word in our hearts. Thank You for this group of people that have gathered here this morning and we ask Lord that we might succeed today in exalting Christ and finding true fellowship one with another in Jesus Christ and Him alone. We thank You and we ask in His name, amen.
It is good to see some of you visitors and it is good to run out of space also. We have been discussing in our fellowship in recent weeks the love chapter, 1 Corinthians 13. And we have been discussing it in the context which it originated which is the gathering of the church and the use of spiritual gifts in the context of the church and the nature of love as it relates to our spiritual gifts, etc. The key thing with love of course is that it changes us from self serving people to a people serving others, a people who are ready and willing to divest of themselves into others for their benefit, for their best interest. So, this morning we have plans and some of our plans are changed. Some of them are not so much changed but basically we had planned on having another missionary family also who was going to be sharing and that missionary family called up at the last minute and said their plans with their base church had changed and they asked for a possible means of reconciling their situation and I felt like a rescheduling would be the easiest thing for them and us. So that one family is not here. I apologize for that for those of you who were looking forward to that. They will be here Sunday, December 12.
We are in Psalm 39 this morning and there is a reason for being in Psalm 39. I would like to start by telling a story if I can. We have a small home school ministry as a part of our church here and as a part of that ministry we help oversee families in the state of Maryland mostly. And I was on the Eastern Shore visiting with a new family. One of the general obligations that we request of families belonging to our school is that they be a Christian family. That is the goal and focus of home schooling is to honor Christ. That is our primary purpose. So once in a while we will find a situation where there is a believing, usually it is the wife, a believing spouse and she wants to home school and yet she does not have a Christian home per say to work from. So in those cases we go through a real careful process to make sure that the husband is at least going to support the wife as he can yet without creating a pretentious kind of Christianity which the husband tries to fill out in order to be in the school. This happened to be the case of this particular family. And as we were going through the acceptance process, the husband wrote plainly on the application, “I am not a Christian but I do believe in God.” So with that special request, we made an exception to them. So at the home visit which I conducted this week, we were chatting at the dining room table and because of the honesty of the situation, the wife had a lot of convenience of just bringing up spiritual concerns and issues in front of her husband and child that were a concern to her. So she asked me bluntly at the table with her husband on my right and her son in front of me, she asked me bluntly, “How should I handle this situation?” Then she went on to say, “When we enrolled I was under the impression that my son wanted to follow after the Lord. I got that impression that he really wanted to home school for spiritual reasons, but apparently he just told me what he thought I wanted to hear but he really does not want to home school for any kind of spiritual reason.” Then she looked at her son and said, “Would you tell him what you asked me?” Course that is an awkward situation for a young person about age 13. And he looked at his mom and said, “You tell him. So she went ahead and said, well as they enrolled in the school, their expectations were such that she was going to diligently disciple this son towards the Lord and that included his attending church with her. So now he was complaining about attending church and his question was, “If God is so great, why do you have to go to a church and do all of this worship stuff and if you do not worship Him and He does not like how you worship Him, He is going to throw you in Hell. What kind of God is that?” That was his sum total of his experience. Then she wanted me to answer that question in front of her husband and her son. Thank God for the Holy Spirit in those moments because without the prompting of the Holy Spirit you might not know what to say. But, a valid question, a valid question. I wonder this morning as we are standing here, I wonder if there is anyone here who has asked that question themselves. If you have had a question you have raised concerning the person of God and His expectations of you. The way the son perceived it, God must be some kind of an ego maniac that demands people to gather together and speak of His praise and greatness or He will smite them to smithereens. That is kind of an interesting view of God, isn’t it? This morning my heart is burdened to challenge us. We have a tremendous obligation, we have a tremendous obligation as parents in order that we might guide the feet of our young ones in the path of the Lord. It is a tremendous responsibility because you and I by our very nature are weak. And the significant need that we have for a successful ministry is the identification of our weakness. So if you will permit this morning, I would like to do two things. We are going to go into Psalm 39 and we are going to take a look at the dilemma of weakness in the place of service, the dilemma of weakness in the place of service. And then perhaps to conclude, I would like to go to Corinthians and touch on two passages which perhaps you have never seen before side by side which touch on the substance of the issue that relates here. Now as I finish this particular story that I was telling you, I remember a time in my own life when I had such a struggle. Due to lack of time, I will not give you all the sort of details of the situation, but nevertheless, suffice it to say that when I was in Bible college, I rebelled against clear direction of the Lord. And in my rebellion I did what was right in my own eyes. And in the doing of that which was right in my own eyes, I reaped a very significant loss. I reaped the destruction that the Bible promises for those who do what is right in their own eyes. And in that process of reaping destruction, one of the things that I reaped was a tremendous capacity for criticizing God. I remember going to and from the chapel at the Bible college with these thoughts that this young man spoke forthrightly at that kitchen table, “What is wrong with God anyway that He has such a big ego that people need to worship Him?” And there was that sorted, that sorted, corrupt anguish of soul that sin had birthed in my heart. Course when those thoughts came to my heart, I can tell you there was a fright in my heart for myself because I had a wonderful, wonderful conversion experience. It was not a questionable thing of what God had done. It was very clear what God had done and yet here I am, this was not more than two years after conversion and I am struggling with this tremendous incapability of perceiving God in any right way. And that struggle lasted an earnest, at the time it lasted significantly and I had to just pray a little bit of proper Biblical perspective around it in order to go on. But the lingering consequence of my sin, the lingering consequence of my sin, continued with a poor crop of fruit being yielded in my life for many years to follow. And in my own ministry, I left Bible college and began Christian ministry immediately and in those early years of Christian ministry, there was much difficulty and much spiritual need because of these unresolved matters that went back to my disobedience and what that disobedience did to my relationship with God. I will tell you the rest of the story at the end of the message about that little boy and what answer I gave him on the home visit.
Let us turn to Psalm 39 this morning and beginning at verse 1, I am going to read the Psalm and then I am going to focus in on a couple issues that the Psalm addresses in my heart. Psalm 39 verse 1, “To the chief musician, even to Jeduthun.” By the way, interesting point, do you know what the word “Jeduthun” means? Hebrews always named people with a purpose. Their names had a spiritual implication. David is giving an assignment to a chief musician for the worship in the temple and the name “Jeduthun” means “one who praises with his hands lifted.” Great name. A parent named him that and his life was a service in the temple perhaps at its most holy time in the history of Israel where he was the chief musician governing worship of the people of God, worshiping God with their hands lifted. Is that not a neat insight? Let us go on. I said I was going to read, didn’t I? “A Psalm of David. I said, I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue. I will keep my mouth with a bridle while the wicked is before me. I was dumb with silence, I held my peace even from good and my sorrow was stirred. My heart was hot within me, while I was musing, the fire burned. Then spake I with my tongue.” Verse 4, “Lord, make me to know mine end and the measure of my days, what it is that I may know how frail I am. Behold, Thou hast made my days as an handbreadth and mine age is as nothing before Thee. Verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity. Selah.” Verse 6, “Surely every man walks in a vain show, surely they are disquieted in vain. He heaps up riches and he knows not who shall gather them. Now Lord what wait I for? My hope is in Thee. Deliver me from all my transgressions. Make me not the reproach of the foolish. I was dumb, I opened not my mouth because Thou didst it. Remove Thy stroke from me. I am consumed by the blow of Thine hand. When Thou with rebukes dost correct a man for iniquity, Thou makes his beauty to consume away like a moth. Surely every man is vanity. Selah. Hear my prayer O Lord and give ear unto my cry. Hold not Thy peace at my tears for I am a stranger with Thee and a sojourner as all my fathers were.” Verse 13, “O spare me that I may recover strength before I go hence and be no more.” That is a beautiful Psalm. It is a beautiful Psalm especially for those of us who have responsibility of spiritual leadership and nurture of others under us. It has to do with that balance of understanding where we recognize the necessity of service but we must be given a capacity to serve out of a right understanding of who we are ourselves. We have been studying love as the primary means by which any ministry can be given to man. And if you do not have love, no matter what your gift is, that fruit of your work without love is empty, it is meaningless, it has absolutely no value. It is worth the effort for us to discover and to discern, “Well how can I minister then by love? How can I walk then in love in such a way that I have fruit, in such a way that there is success?” Real briefly, the simple contrast between love and that which is not love is the focus of motivation. Those who are motivated by love adopt a servant’s heart. I want to just plug that into your mind first thing this morning. Those who walk by love have a servant’s heart. And those who have a servant’s heart then are free from the egotisms that are due to our own nature. And we struggle with ego and with that which is meaningless, advancing our own pride and our own cause. We pursue that almost instinctively like a breath of air. That is the nature of who we are by ourselves. So it is necessary for us to really deal with the issue of what is love? What is love? It means being a servant for somebody’s greater end, but that greater end is not defined by that person. The greater end is defined by God. So my interest in that person is God’s favor, is God’s purpose, is God’s blessing. And we know that that which is God’s favor and purpose and blessing contrasts, it contradicts that which by our own nature pleases us, attracts us or draws out of us our natural motivation. With that in mind, let us take the Psalm apart momentarily and get a perspective here on what is taking place. The first thing that I want to confess is that I am giving to you what is my best understanding of the Psalm and you may disagree. I am not meaning to interpret it as if to say, “This is exactly the accurate.” But I have taken this Psalm in a certain way that until this week I have never seen it in a different light. And because of some of my own personal experiences the Psalm has begun to minister to me just as a salve to a wound and it is in light of that context that I am seeing the Psalm in a different light than before. Before, I saw the Psalm as the statement that when you stand before the wicked and you try to hold your mouth shut and you are righteous, your righteousness boils within and you eventually have to speak because you have to speak for righteousness. And that is the manner in which I have seen the passage. It kind of naturally seems to have that appearance in the first couple of verses. But I do not think that is what it really means. Personally I have seen in my own life, it has a little different bent, a little different meaning. So let us look at this picture. And I want to talk about here the powerlessness of ministry by our own source, by our own resource. We are powerless to serve, we are powerless to minister by our own resources. There is nothing that we have. There is nothing in us that is useful, that is capable of going out and engaging and drawing forth spiritual vitality. There is absolutely nothing that is there. Here is the picture. In verses 1 through verse 3, we find this situation. David clearly defines step one, step two and step three of a particular situation. He does not give us any of the details of the matter, he just shows us his personal, emotional and mental process by which he goes through that step one, step two, step three. And we are going to touch on that. That is probably where it ministers to me the greatest. Then we have verse 4. At verse 4 we have this outbreak, “Lord make me to know mine end.” This whole picture of David capturing himself and what we find is the sequence that David sees himself going through is a sequence of wanting to resist sin, attempting in human strength to resist sin and failing and by lack of strength sinning. And he is sinning in a very particular matter, it is the sin of his mouth, the sin of the words of his mouth and how he speaks. So it is in that context that we see the one, two, three process and in verse 4 we get this great upheaval of soul by which he is just beside himself, “Lord how can I get things right? Here I am, a deliberate effort to avoid sin and I end in absolute failure.” So in verse 4 through verse 6 we see the understandable state of man. What is the understandable state of man? This is a very important section for you and I. These are those sections whereby we get an absolute point of reference and the reference clearly says, “We have significant need, we have significant lack and we need to have what God has for us.” Our sense of need is heightened in verses 4 to 6. Then when you go from verse 7 to the end of the chapter, we see this practical communion with God of the servant, yielding himself up to the Lord, yielding himself up to the Lord’s methods and adopting a primary desire that God’s work is completed in his own life. Here is the beauty of the Psalm: when I have the work of God being successful in my own life, it is only at that point that I have any hope of my service, of my servanthood reaching out to another and touching their life for good and helping them to see truth. I am not saying that every time I extend out that message in a righteous manner that it will be received, but what I am saying is you cannot serve with any hope of vitalness unless you reach this place where your understanding is fixed and you see yourself as you need to be seen. Basically here is the problem if I could sum it up in a nutshell for you and I: if you see that there is a person, individual “A” has a spiritual need and you are aware of that spiritual need, the natural inclination for you if you are an unbeliever is to think of yourself more highly than them because you see their need. And we find the proof text for that in Romans 2. The natural inclination to see somebody’s need and then because we have this capacity to see a need, we raise ourselves up in pride and in a sense of superiority spiritually and we think, there is a little click that happens, we think that because we have the capacity to judge, we are free ourselves from sin and we ourselves fall into great deceit and great confusion and we are incapable of serving the Lord by the power of His might. The next part is if you are not an unbeliever but if you are a believer, you still have this struggle of dealing with this individual. The struggle that I believe David has here is the struggle of the believer. It is the believer struggle. It is this sensitivity to sin. I know that there is a wrong way and I do not want to do this anymore. And you kind of see yourself, “I want to get this mouth under control.” But they become so focused on the sin that they use a human effort to resist the sin and that human effort can never succeed in overcoming sin. So failure is assured in the very process and that which we attempt to resist ends up coming out in volcanic proportions because all we have succeeded in doing is bottling it up until the cork can no longer hold it back, then the cork rips off and out it comes and we are simply overwhelmed by our iniquity. And the thing that we find here as David finds the correction is understanding our relationship with God in the proper mode.
Let us look a little closer to some of these verses in the context of David’s prayer and of David’s focus. Back to verse 1, David said, “I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue.” “I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue.” Here is a picture of a man looking at the circumstances of his life and as it were, he is visualizing occasions of sin and occasions of stumbling, so he begins very deliberately attempting to set up barriers and barricades against the possibility of sinning. He sees, “I have a problem with my mouth, I have got a problem with my tongue and that is where I tend to sin. So here is what I am going to do, in order to not sin with my tongue here is what I am going to do, I am going to cut off the tongue at every point. I am going to pay attention to the occasions where I get entangled with my tongue and I am going to start building defenses against getting in those situations where I am going to sin with my tongue. And there is an interesting picture here, he said, “I will keep my mouth with a bridle while the wicked is before me.” Why is that an interesting statement? Does anybody remember the book of James? What does the book of James tell us about the tongue and bridles? It says that you can guide a horse with a bridle but you cannot control the tongue. The tongue no man can tame. Here is the secret of David’s mistake: he is looking to his own capacity at bridling, at building a barricade against his own sin and it is in that sense of looking at his sin and what strength he can have to bring against it, he is totally engaged in resisting sin simply by his own strength which is absolutely insufficient. Should you ever fight a battle of any sort without sufficiency? Does that make sense? On the practical side of it I do not think so. But here we find that picture, “I will keep my mouth with a bridle.” “I will, I will.” I just want to suggest this morning to you and I, this is an unusual doctrine, but your capacity to will against sin is zero. You will always be defeated if you depend on success against sin by your will, if you start making bridles and barriers. I want to pause this morning and I want suggest, this is the tendency of all flesh. It is not just David, it is not just here because King David had a chronic problem with his own strength and his lack of understanding of it. No this is not King David only, this is us always. Our nature is to be repulsed by our sin and to take as it were a vow of resistance, “I will not sin with my tongue,” and you write it a thousand times and we buy a bridle, we put it on. And the word “bridle” there by the way actually means a harness, we put the whole thing under our control of a contraption and we say, “I will do it, I will do it, I will not sin with my tongue.” Now notice what takes place. This is the interesting part of David’s experience. Notice that the focus area is while the wicked is before me. It is important that we see that. The focus area is while the wicked is before me. What we begin to see here is the transition between wickedness of those who need the Lord and wickedness and iniquity of ourselves of those who have the Lord and we tend to make a distortion of that picture and starkly work out of that model and that is what David was doing. He was focusing on the wicked and he was saying, “I am not going to sin with my mouth while the wicked is before me.”
Now verse 2 tells us what happened, “I was dumb with silence.” It sounds like his will was working, “I was dumb with silence,” yes sir, “I held my peace.” Absolutely, then notice a little clincher here, “even from good and my sorrow was stirred, even from good and my sorrow was stirred.” “I held my peace even from good and my sorrow was stirred.” Take a quick look at that context there. When we are people with a spiritual origin, there are times to speak and the believer has only one of two vents, he only has one of two vents. He has the vent of good or the vent of iniquity. And what we see here is an imbalance in David’s life as he perceived a spiritual dilemma. He realized that his strength was so poor at how he used his tongue, how he spoke in the context of the wicked when they were in his presence, he realized that his sin was so alive and so real that he needed to take some kind of measure against sinning with his mouth. So what he does is he contrives a human harness, a bridle for his tongue and he fixes exclusively on only part of the problem. “If my mouth is going to sin, I tell you what, I will staple the lips shut. I will put a master screw up through the jaws and I will clamp it down and I will not be able to talk.” That is the way we are, is it not? We get so focused on wanting to avoid that sin that we just become consumed by that fixation. And what happens is he not only held his peace from that which was evil and sin, he also held his peace from that which was good. Now what does the Bible say about that as far as sin? In James we hear another story about this. What does the Bible say? “Now to him that knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin.” Is that not amazing? The whole focus was so self centered in that sense of, “I have got to stop sinning, I have got to resist it, I have got to overcome it,” and so we contrive a physical, a human remedy. And that human remedy errs immediately. As we are trying to close off this sin it is like a frog eye. Did you ever try to pin a frog eye on the table? Every time you hit the frog eye it slips away and it gets away in another direction. You cannot nail it down. That is the way sin is. But the point of it is, we are not capable of seeing a big enough picture, so what we do is we just focus on the biggest thing that bugs us. But we are not balanced. We are not capable of really dealing with the whole issue and what happened is our very effort to keep from sinning causes us to end up sinning. There is a little secret here and I want to encourage you and I with this because we do sin with our mouths. This is the greatest area of struggle that the believer has, sinning with our mouths. And James warned us not to be many teachers because you will receive the greater condemnation. There is a very important need for us to get a hold of our mouths but nailing our mouths shut is not a solution, causing our lips to be permanently sealed is not the solution. I was going to ask you a question this morning, I was going to ask, maybe there are some wives here this morning. They have been frustrated by the use of their mouth with their husband or with their children and you have said, “I have had it. I am just not going to say anything. I am not going to say another word. They do not listen to me anyway, I am just going to..” I do not mean to stop there and just pick on the wives because there are husbands here. What is the greatest complaint against men by their wives? It is only a two word accusation. No it is actually a contraction and a word, “Don’t talk.” Where was I recently? I was talking to somebody and the wife said, “I am learning that my husband loves me even though he does not talk to me. I am beginning to see that. I have been hurt all these years thinking that he did not love me because he would not talk, but I am beginning to see that he does love me but he just don’t talk.” The tongue is an instrument that God can use for righteousness. I just want to pause for a moment and think. Is this not amazing how God works, the greatest device of evil, the most significant area of our own corruption is our tongue, all of us, all of me, and then think about the Gospel. What did the Scripture say about the Gospel? That it would be through the foolishness of preaching, through the foolishness of preaching that the power of God would be unleashed and made accessible to the hearts of men by faith. Is that not amazing to you? Is that not incredible? That God who sees the greatest sin in man is his tongue, chooses to use the tongue as the vehicle for the Gospel to go forth? What an incredible contrast. You know what it tells me kind of up front? It tells me that God is not afraid of His power. God is not afraid of His grace. He knows that while men cannot handle the tongue, He can. While men cannot handle the tongue, He can and what God wants to do is He wants to redeem our tongues from hell. He wants to redeem our tongues from the iniquity that they spew out and He wants to train our tongues in ministry of righteousness. And when it is all said and done whether you are parenting your child or any other venue of service, the wisdom of God is transferred from one person to the next through the little vessel of the tongue. I know that the written word is similar to the tongue because it is the communication process. But there is where the power is going to be unleashed, through the use of the tongue. That is God’s great gift and purpose. It makes me marvel to think that what a God we have that would take our weakest member and say, “You know what? I am going to preach the Gospel through that. That will really let the power be seen as from God and not from men. It will really let the contrast be there and be real.” So this morning I just want to encourage us as we look at David and we see that in his effort to stop sinning, he attempted to stop the vessel of blessing, he attempted to stop the vessel of power. Mark – (One comment from Romans 10:9, it says that we confess with our mouth Jesus is Lord and it just kind of confirms the idea that He uses our mouth to praise His name.) In other words, I think redemption has to be effective in our mouths. We have to have redeemed lips by the praise and the glory of God.
Let us go on. This is exciting. When he had this holding of his peace even from good, I said earlier that that is a cork, that he corked it up and he did not ventilate. I want to make a suggestion. To you fathers this morning, to you mothers, here is an important principle to understand because when we talked about love we said this one thing a couple weeks ago, love rejoices in the truth and love rejoices not in iniquity. And the foundation of ministry is our capacity for what we rejoice in. And the necessity of joy to our spirits is the connection to our strength, “The joy of the Lord is my strength.” I have a need to walk in joy. So what we see here is David failed to rejoice in the truth and so he sinned in his effort to avoid sinning. In his effort to avoid sinning, David failed to rejoice in the truth, instead he rejoiced in iniquity and he ended up in sin. Here is the whole point, if you and I are going to need to use our lips, we need to use them as vessels of rejoicing in the truth, vessels of rejoicing in the truth. It is imperative that we understand that at the very place that is so difficult, where we are tempted to have vile cursings or just shut up altogether so I do not say vile cursings, at that crossroads, that is the very place where the ministry and the life of the Gospel of Christ is going to come forth and out of our lips are going to be soothing words of living water like a salve and we are going to be able to reach inside in one of the complex or difficult circumstance where the tensions and the pulling of contention are great between us and our children or what have you. Right at that point you minister that living water and you start bringing life right to the very person that you are trying to reach and the truth brings the life. And the result of that truth bringing life is the rejoicing of the child in the truth and you see the victory of that ministry by the child embracing godliness and eschewing evil, turning away from evil, putting it aside. What we find here with David is he failed. He failed to understand the ministry before the wicked. He saw himself as only a critic, as only a condemner, as the only one who blasted them out of the water with the violence of his tongue and he said, “I am going to snip it off, I am going to cut it off, I am going to prevent myself from sinning when I am before the wicked and I am not going to speak anything, not even good.” And at that point he cut himself off. Failure to speak victory at the point of opportunity will always lead to more sin, you will always lead to more sin. You cannot beat sin by being afraid of confronting sin. You cannot beat sin by in your fear of being overcome by sin, closing your mouth and saying, “I am not going to do anything, I will just let it up to God. I will let God do it.” Well God is going to do it. But He wants to do it through your victorious, joyful lips speaking the truth in love, rejoicing in the truth. It is that picture of joy. As you see the joy and you bring that focus of joy right on the incident, that is where the life begins to transmit because someone else begins to get the vision for what you have and they see the hope and embrace it. I am going to illustrate this. It is kind of a silly illustration but I do not know if this child got much from this illustration but I did years ago. When I first got in the ministry, we had a visit from a bunch of young people from the church that sponsored us up to Frederick County. So after we were finished with our work day or whatever it was, I got to chit chatting with some of the young people from this one family and we were close friends and as we are chit chatting this girl tells me, she says, “My grandmother makes us call her ‘Mama Dear.’ That is so embarrassing to have to call my grandmother ‘Mama Dear’.” And the Lord just kind of sparked a little interest in me and I thought that is a really endearing name, that is beautiful. I said, “That is a wonderful name.” And I just started shouting “Mama Dear.” And I said it in a way that I was rejoicing in that thing. What a sweet thing and I began rejoicing in it and within 30 seconds this girl was envious of my joy of that name and she went home happy to use “Mama Dear.” She saw it as an opportunity. But it was just her outlook. It was a difference of rejoicing, rejoicing in the truth and not rejoicing in the truth. I realize that is a small incident and you say, “How can it be truth to say, ‘Mama Dear’?” In one sense of the word it is truth because that was the title of respect demanded and she was rebelling against that because it was embarrassing to her outlook. So there was truth and rejoicing in truth to embrace that which was asked and to see a different side of it. But it gave me a hint and from that day on I have remembered that transition because that girl came with this long doleful face to being cheerful and happy and grateful that she had such a dear name to give her grandmother. I saw that transformation. Nothing changed except the child’s outlook and rejoicing from what was once ugly and demeaning to what now is wonderful, opportunity, a privilege.
Let us go on. Verse 3 says, “My heart was hot within me. While I was musing, the fire burned, then spake I with my tongue.” Now the picture here is real interesting. First of all it reminds me of another picture of the book of James, tongue, the world of iniquity and it is a fire, a flame set on fire by hell itself. And this picture here, “My heart was hot within me,” that Hebrew word means “a flame.” There is this flame in my heart about this circumstance. Then it goes on and it says, “While I was musing the fire burned.” Now you and I recognize the word “musing” as a word of internal thoughts, “I am thinking inside my head what is going on.” The Hebrew word actually means, “a boiling.” If you have ever seen a pot of water boiling and then you get a big stick in there and you start stirring it all up, getting the heat out and you are stirring it all up, that musing process is a boiling process. It is a process by which my focus on the problem on the iniquity of the wicked gets sharp.(tape turned here)…and what happens to me? I get madder and madder. I get hotter and hotter. And you have this cork on it and you are heating it up and you are stirring it up and you are letting all this steam escape and you have this intense buildup of pressure. And here is the fault of men trying to solve all of their sin problems by corking it: we have no strength enough to keep the cork on and the information shoved down. We have no capacity to prevent it. Therefore what do we have? We have an explosion. At some point it breaks itself out. And I want to point out here just by way of physics, when you have a container that is building pressure around a heat source that is causing an expansion of material that keeps putting pressure, when you have that, you need to vent that off. The nature of physics is such that you need to vent it off. Now in this context then of venting off this heat, I am going to take some of Paul’s thunder, but Paul was telling me about where they live, they live in volcano land and the place that they live is an old volcano. But they have gone up into the mountain for little hikes and he says that there are these volcanic vents out of the mountains that are just amazing. They were carved by fluid, hot molten lava, as they were venting off the sides of the mountain. And they would blow out the whole side, create smooth rock and it was obviously a fluid so it looks like a blood vessel if anything and they can walk back these veins all the way deep until they get to the place where gravity pulled back the lava and it sealed off itself with hardened rock again. But those vents let off the steam. Now here is the point that is exciting brothers and sisters especially as we think of our mouths, if you use your lips for good by the grace of God with the right attitude, you will be able to vent off all the kind of pressure that builds up from within. That ministry will be a ministry of life, it will bring focus and force to the issue and concern and truth and rejoicing in the truth will cause that good to be ministered to and you will be kept from sin. You will have a proper ventilation. So it is almost as if there is a little insight here taking place that for you and I if we are going to walk by grace, we have to actively walk in victorious goodness or the sin that we are trying to clamp down just builds up pressure and it starts exploding like a volcanic reaction and we end up walking in sin because of the explosion. We need to vent off our sin by learning how to walk in goodness, doing that which is good, that which is right in the eyes of the Lord.
We are in Psalm 39. Let us look at the next verse. Picking up again at verse 4, “Lord make me to know mine end and the measure of my days what is it that I may know how frail I am.” It is important for us to understand what he is focusing on when he ends from verse 3, “Then I spoke with my tongue,” and then his immediate response is, “Lord make me to know mine end, the measure of my days what it is that I may know how frail I am.” His immediate sense of big concern is that here he blew it again. His effort to not sin ended in sin and out of that came an insight. He needed to know something about himself. For your information, the word “frail,” you and I tend to use frail today almost in the sense of fragile, at least that is the kind of ordinary use that we think of it at least the way I do, but frail here has to do with lack of strength. One of the words means “flabby.” If someone is frail they are just flabby, they just do not have any strength at all. What the writer is focusing on here is this flabbiness of our own capability. Now as he is talking about this flabbiness, this frailty, we are dealing with a picture here, look at the first part of the verse, “Make me to know mine end.” You and I would think of that word “end” there as if the end of my days, when life is over. But the actual Hebrew word has to do with the extreme border, the limit at which I can operate within, “Teach me to know mine end.” Teach me to know my limitations. What are the realities of who I am? It is not just that I need to know that I have a short life, although that is part of the package, but it is an understanding that these limitations are borders. In a simple way, if I have a $200 bill that I owe somebody and I have a $20 account which to pay that bill, my limitations are pretty clear. That which I am bound by is plain as I look to that issue. And here is the first thought that David has as it relates to his victory over sin, “That I may know mine end.” What is the limitation that I have and what is my border? You know, the first step of significant ministry is that walking in your own limitations, understanding that you are a limited person. Only God is eternal, only He has unending days, only He has all power and all strength. And who am I? I am a man of weak means. I am a man of great limitation and God is calling me to live within my great limitations, He has called me to live in larger service. How do you do that? It is by connecting to the person and the power of God. That is the way it works.
The next part of the phrase says, “And the measure of my days, what it is.” That Hebrew word there was really exciting because the word, “measure of my days,” is actually a Hebrew word that means the fleetingness of my days. It is really an emphasis on how fleeting time is. “Make me to know how fleeting time is.” I have very little time. Interesting. Quality ministry is going to come forth from me when I begin to take stock of who I really am. How many times are we sinning because we are walking as if we have unending resources. We can do all things and we stop there and forget the rest of the verse that says, “Through Christ who strengthens me.” We just start thinking about, “I can do all things.” And we take on the world as if we ourselves are sufficient unto ourselves, which we are not, and we lay a hold of vision beyond our resources. But correct ministry comes when there is a sense of limitation, “What are the borders? What is the end? What is that maximum capacity that I have? What is the fleetingness of my life?” If you begin to realize how fleeting life is, you begin to measure your words more carefully. I know that I often try to encourage my children and other young people that are moving into the age of getting married and starting a family, I always try to encourage them, “Pay close attention to just how important every day is because there are decisions that come up today that seem so insignificant. Here they are, they come and they go and you do not seem to think they have any great consequence and we tend to think that if I make a mistake I will correct it and fix it tomorrow.” We tend to have that carelessness. But the reality is, I look back on my life and I realize, how many decisions did I make when I was young and today it is almost as if I am permanently hedged in by some of those decisions. There is a permanence to those limited decisions that were made. And I do not have capacities beyond where we can begin to value the moment that we have, “My time is fleeting, my resources are limited,” that begins to sharpen our focus for ministry. Then he says, “That I may know how frail I am.” That is, how little strength I actually have. If you know how little strength you actually have, you will not begin to pretend to walk in that strength. You know that you have to get a resource that is bigger, God. It is just an automatic response. When you are out of it and you know you are out of it, you cry for help. You know what the Lord wants of us? He wants us crying for help at all times? Well why do we not cry for help at all times? Because we get confident in our own resources. We get focused on what we think is our own strength and so we sin, and so we move in ministry of sin. And he goes on in verse 5, “Behold Thou hast made my days as an handbreath,” literally as the stretch of a palm of a hand. “Thou hast made my days as an handbreath and mine age is as nothing before Thee, mine age is as nothing before Thee.” That word “nothing” there is literally the word “absolutely nothing.” And all the sudden God begins to challenge us to compare ourselves to Him. What are your resources God compared to mine? When I look at what I have, it is not that I have nothing, but when I look at what I have compared to what God has, the reality is it is nothing. It is a drop in the bucket as the writer of Isaiah said, “All the nations are as a drop in the bucket.” Can you think of that? All of the nations are a drop in a bucket. Incredible contrast. We are nothing before God and what God wants out of us is that awakening reality of who He is so our resource becomes Him, so He becomes that which drives us in the morning, through the day and at night. He is sufficient and all of our sufficiency rests in Him.
And then finally, we see here, “And there is nothing before Thee, verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity, Selah.” “Every man at his best state is altogether vanity, Selah.” Now this picture of there being nothing before God is something that you and I do not grasp very well. The first commandment concerning idols, “Thou shalt have,” what? “No other god before Me.” It is that picture, the picture of that which we use always to compete with God. The nature of man is to compete with God. We are going to be tempted with the same temptation of Satan, we are going to want to be like God. We are going to want to compare our strength to His strength and whatever we can do that we do not need God’s help, “I do not need Your help God, I can do this myself, thank you.” Have you watched your children grow up? It is so amazing. They get to around 18 months or earlier and all of the sudden they are rolling up their sleeves and taking on mom and dad. Something small like cutting their own meat, here is this piece of meat on their plate and there is no way they can cut it if they had a sharp knife. They might cut their finger off but that is about it. But it is, “Get out of the way, I want to do this.” There is that natural instinctive tendency to press forward with all that we have and all that we are so that our sense of significance might be known and that is sin, from A to Z. That is the whole nature of sin. The manifestation of me before so that I have a little, some spot before God, that there is a little bit of remembrance of me before God. The Scripture says God will not share His glory with another, period. There is no glory sharing. God is all and in all, over all and through all. He is it. He is the beginning and the end, the alpha and the omega. There is none else besides God. That is the challenge of salvation, that is the challenge of our whole life. There is nothing before Thee. Then he gives this little picture, and I want to compare this picture back to the resolutions of men which he starts out with when he said, “I will take heed to myself that I sin not with my tongue.” “Verily, man at his best state is altogether vanity.” So just stop a for a minute. Let us just take 30 seconds and imagine what that means. Let us have a competition, let us have a worldwide, international, through all ages competition. We can do it on computers now because computers do wonderful things. You know how Rocky boxed Ali and lost, that is done by computers, we can do that now. Let us take every man and let us have a competition. Let us get the ultimate man, the ultimate one who is really everything and all and just mighty for God, good, holy, righteous, powerful, striking down enemies, you name it, let us get them out there. Let us get our best trophy and let us set them out there before God. Then we find the words of condemnation, “Man at his best state is altogether vanity.” You know what the word “vanity” means there? What is in this thing besides air? What is in this thing besides air? No thing. Nothing. That is right. Very good. There is no thing in there. And that is what vanity is, nothing, nothing. It is a big zero. There is nothing to compare. Now maybe to help us understand it a little bit, those illustrations I try to make up are so bad, I am going to skip it. Let us go on. Have you ever seen a little child make a little wooden car out of nothing? And when they are all finished it looks like nothing. That is the hard part of being a parent that I have had. I see nothing and I say nothing and my wife sees nothing and she says, “Ah that is wonderful.” But anyway if you could take one of these nothing little creations by a wonderful little child that only the mother can see the beauty of, take one of those little cars and compare it to the world’s best car ever made, ever known, maybe it is a Rolls Royce, I do not know, I do not know what the best is but let us pretend it is a Rolls Royce for a moment and compare, and ask yourself, “How much of something is this in light of the Rolls Royce?” How much is there to compare? And only a mother can say, “Something.” The rest of us would say, “Nothing.” And it would be pretty obvious, it is just a pile of unused wood, misused wood and that is the best we can state. But there is that contrast, there are you and I. Man at his altogether very best state, with no exception, the premier super bowl of super bowl of super bowl’s man, he is equal to that little wood pile of meaninglessness when compared to what God does as an afterthought. That is the contrast. Now why is this there? Is this to humiliate us? Is this to rub us in the dirt to make us feel totally incapable and totally stupid and hang our heads down in shame? No it is not to do that. It is to get us to focus on our resource. God has extended Himself to us so that which He is is available to us in all things. And God is to be manifested by His strength, by His virtue, by His glory, He wants to be manifested in us, in our need. So He makes our need great so His opportunity is great. And we find ourselves full, we find ourselves satisfied when we have found ourselves met in God. When that which is His power and His might is made known and manifested, we find ourselves full, full of joy, full of strength, at rest, at peace. I love that verse, “Man at his best state is altogether vanity.” You know what it does for me? It just cuts out any desire to win a trophy. It just cuts out. Why compete? Why chase after vanity? Why waste all that time? I just have this little tiny life. I have these tiny limitations. Time is wasting and why should I spend even one minute pursuing something that absolutely means nothing? Why should I chase that? Let me rather chase after God. Let me pursue Him in all things and let me learn early, let me learn soon how to tap into His resource so that when I am weak, He is strong and His strength becomes my life and my life becomes a praise to His name.
In terms of going on, if you will look at the next verse. He begins to site the nature of man. Verse 6 says this, “Surely every man walks in a vain show.” I want to pause there for a moment and I want to just emphasize a few words because this is important for us in a group setting like this. Sometimes it is easier to preach the Word to a large group because we can say everybody and it means everybody. But if I am speaking to you one on one, you do not feel like there is everybody there, so you feel like I am picking on you all alone in the whole world. So this morning we have a benefit. We can say, “Everybody,” and we can mean you, George. I knew you were smiling so I could get away with it. Every man walks in a vain show. Every man walks in a vain show. Who here this morning can say, “It is not true?” Every man walks in a vain show. Our natural instinct is to walk in vanity. So when we arrive and we say, “Hello,” and extend the hand of fellowship, we are extending the show, “Here is what I have to present. Here I am. I want you to see the show.” That is who we are. It is by our nature, it is by our instinct. That is why we tend to have trends and fads in how we dress because we are all walking in a vain show. We are here to strut. We get our little plumes out there and all the pretty colors we want everybody to see, that is who we are. Now can we confess that morning? Can we acknowledge that this is who I am? I think we can. I know we should. With that vain show comes the rest of the story following verse 6, the middle portion, “Surely they are disquieted in vain, surely they are disquieted in vain.” Now there is a lot of talk in the New Testament about peace, about having the peace of Christ ruling in our hearts, ruling in our minds, that peace that passes all understanding. And that peace that passes all understanding is directly focused on this particular issue here, the disquietness of my vanity. When I am walking in a vain show, I become disquieted. Usually I become disquieted because the competition is fierce. Only one guy wins the crown and I get the hint pretty quick that it will not be me and I get disquieted within my soul and I begin looking for a means or a method to get ahead, get around the corner, get out in front, make sure that I do not lose at least totally. At least make sure that there are more people behind me than there are ahead of me, that vain press. There is that picture of disquietness, the lack of peace. Hint, “Come to me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.” There is the Gospel in a nutshell. Come to Christ in our disquietness to find the rest of Christ which is life. We have to let it go. We have to give it up. We have to exchange that which is absolutely worthless and lay a hold of that which truly has value. And you know what is exciting? This is the most amazing thing. When we get to Heaven we are going to be stunned. By reading good Christian biographies, you are going to be stunned now, nothing like you will be then, but it is a good start. The reality is this: God is after bringing peace to souls so hearts become fixed and focused on eternal things no matter what is swirling on around them in the world beside. All that vain show, that stirring up the dirt, remember what the Scripture says about the wicked? The wicked are like the troubled sea, casting up mire and dirt. “There is no peace,” saith my God, “For the wicked.” Wickedness leaves us disquieted. We are anxious. We are consumed. We are concerned. We are afraid of not making it and God is delivering us with His peace, with His quietness. “Surely they are disquieted in vain.” Notice the picture of disquietness, this is an incredible picture, “They heap up riches.” Now riches are the single most trophy that men find on earth by which to measure themselves. It is the single most trophy. It is just the natural setting, how rich I am and how I portray I wealth. What Psalm is that? Is that Psalm 69 or Psalm 49, the Scripture says, “Surely men will praise thee if thou wilt treat thyself well.” If you do good to yourself, men will praise you. There is that whole nature of the competition in a moment and this heaping up of riches, the word “riches” by the way there is supplied, it is not literally in the context. It is this heaping up of all those things that become the substitute for God in my life. “And they knoweth not who shall gather them.”
Now we see in verse 7 the solution, at rest. David now gets a focus on his own self and he says, “Now Lord what wait I for? My hope is in Thee.” What a simple question. What a simple question to ask ourselves this morning. What are you waiting for? Are you here this morning full of disquietness? Is your heart and soul in turmoil because you are after things that have nothing but vanity as their end? What are you waiting for? Are you waiting for the extension of fame, fortune, approval by men, honor, greatness? What are you waiting for? “What wait I for? My hope is in Thee.” I want to say this morning, what we wait for has everything to do with our walk, with our life. What am I waiting for? We can only wait either for the vanity of the world or we can wait for that which God Himself has promised. I cannot finish the Psalm so I am going to finish my story. Remember the story I told in the beginning about this little guy? Turn your Bibles to 1 Corinthians chapter 6. Beginning at verse 19, “But know you not that your body is a temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God and you are not your own? For you are bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which are God’s.” Skip over quickly to chapter 7, verse 20. “Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he is called. Art thou called being a servant? Care not for it but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather for he that is called in the Lord being a servant is the Lord’s freeman. Likewise also, he that is called being free is Christ’s servant. You are bought with a price. Be ye not the servants of men. Brethren, let every man wherein he is called, therein abide with God.” As that dear lady asked me that difficult question and I looked on this teenage face and it was not interested in any answer, I could tell it was not a listening audience and the husband was at best pensive, course in those situations I am tempted to panic, find the quickest door out and leave, and the Lord just gave me a word and the word was ownership, ownership. And I said, I said, “Well the principle is ownership and let me ask you a question son. Do you have any possessions, anything that you own that is very special to you? Something that stands out.” He said, “I have got a lot of things but I guess the two most special things are my bike and my playroom.” I do not know what the room playroom meant because I am not real familiar with the latest computer games or what have you so I did not even want to go there. I was out of touch with what play rooms are. But I could relate to a bike. So I said, “I just wonder, that bike is yours. You own it. How would you feel if the neighborhood kids came by and they wanted to use your bike anytime, for any reason, for whatever purpose, and your parents said, ‘Oh sure come on in. I know it is his bike but go ahead and use it, it does not matter’.” Well it was real interesting. When I said that, it was just an imaginary story, it had nothing to do with reality, I was just making it up, but when I said that, I saw his stomach turn with a visible knot and he was moved with indignation and his face become like, “Don’t you dare do this to me.” It was incredible how quickly he was moved to this brink. And I realized that the Lord had struck a nerve. And I went on and I played out the story a little bit further, I said, “Let me ask you another question, how would you feel the next time you went out to get your bike, you started to reach down for the handle bar and the bike got up, spun its wheels, spit gravel in your eye and cursed at you and took off saying get away from me creep? How would you feel? You start running all over the neighborhood and everybody laughs at you, the bike keeps getting away, what would you do? What would you do?” He said, “I will tell you what I would do.” He was into this story quick. He said, “I will tell you what I would do. I would take my wrench and my pliers and I would take and make that thing a pile of bolts and I would be done with it.” I said, “Son, that is what Hell is. Hell is the place for those who refuse to be with God where God is. Hell is the place where people say, ‘I do not want to be around you God’, and they get what they want. The absence of God is Hell.” With that he reached over and grabbed a big juicy pear and took a big juicy bite and I said, “Isn’t it interesting, you had this view of God being so egocentric, but you know what? He made you. You are not your own. You are bought with a price.” I said, “You are bought once by Creatorship, He made you so you belong to you and He has a right to make you however He wants, He has the right to fix your handlebars the way He wants, to put you in that garage the way He wants, that is His will. But furthermore, He bought you back. He bought you back by redemption, by the blood of Christ and in that context you have an obligation. Have you thanked God for that pear? Have you thanked God for that pear? God made that pear by His own creative genius. And you know why He made it? He made it so you could wonderfully enjoy it. He meant for man to enjoy pears but you have not thanked Him for it. And you know what worship is son? Worship is giving God thanks that is due His name. Worship is acknowledging the Creator in the circumstance that I am in. And it is saying, ‘God I am Your bike; You made me, I am not my own. You have the right to do with what You please and I see God that You are a good God and You always do good to me and I want to praise You for that, thank You’.” With that, the boy was up and out the door and gone into the fields. And if you would pray for someone, pray for that dad because I looked at the dad and I sensed something touching his heart that was more than just an occasion. As we close this morning I want to talk to you. You know what our problem is? Ownership. That is our problem. Every form of rebellion of man, every form of vanity that we seek is a problem of ownership. We think we have a right to our own opinion. We think we have a right to our own way. We think that our feelings matter. And they do not. What matters is that we have an unlimited God who has made Himself a resource to us in our limitations. And He is wooing us and calling us and beseeching us that we come to Him. And as we think about this whole issue of ministry, moms and dads may I speak to you? What is a coward? What is a coward in terms of a parent, a parental coward? What is a coward? Have you thought about that lately? Have you asked yourself the question, “Are you a coward Mark?” Do not answer now. What is a coward? I will tell you what a coward is. A coward is someone who is afraid of that little speck of nothingness called man and in the fear of that little speck of nothingness called man, he cannot raise himself up in any sort of vision or wisdom or understanding to reckon with and understand the great God who made us, who owns us, who has for us every resource capable for giving us a full and a deeply satisfying life. That is a coward. That is a coward. Fear of the insignificant and the inability to have a vision for that which truly is significant. It is natural, moms and dads, it is natural for your children to desire the world. It is natural. We just read it in the Psalms. It is the way everyone is. We by our own nature seek after vanity. We are disquieted, chasing after the world. That is our nature. Therefore, the nature of parenting is to correct, to correct that vanity and guide it down the path of rightness, to exchange the cowardly invisibility of nothingness, to exchange that for a simple vision of life and righteousness. It is interesting how the Lord teaches and works things but remember that passage in 2 Corinthians 4, “For the things which are seen are temporal,” meaning temporary, short lives, fleeting, passing quickly, “the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are unseen are eternal.” And here is the nature of godly ministry. Do not hold your mouth shut until you blow up at your kid. You do it, we do it, I do it. But let us not do that. Let us not have such little vision that we only engage our children in anger with steam blowing out our ears. Let us have a little bit of vision. Let us recognize that there is an exchange needing to be taking place, that that which God has promised which is unseen has to be brought forward and embraced by faith. We have to hope in the Lord. We have to exchange hoping in the world to hoping in the Lord. And parents we are on duty to be the ones to see it. I want to tell you something and here is what I will close with as a challenge: moms and dads, especially you dads, as you can see your children when they are little in the smallest circumstance of being disquieted over nothingness, that is the occasion of training in godliness. When your child is disquieted in nothingness, it is a time to train them in godliness. How do you do it? You discern through the disquietness that the problem exists. You trace it back to the root of disquietness, that vain thing. And there are 1,000 vain things that we worry about in one day, 1,000 vain things. The marble, the extra pea on his plate, it does not matter. Ten thousand things in a day, but disquietness comes out and there is the point that we bring godly counsel. Do not hold your peace until the cork blows, get a vision. Get a vision for what is taking place and transform the disquiet moment to a place of trust. Take every one and make every one captive to Christ. That is what parenting is all about. You capture a child in those little ways and guess what? When they get older it will not be so difficult. But I warn you, you fail to win that battle when they are little, they are going to get older. And I will tell you what, when they are older, the battle is tougher. It never gets less difficult, it always gets more difficult because the strength of the flesh becomes strong and the false confidence of the flesh becomes boastful and it is your job to separate them through correction. I do not have time to go on but the rest of the passage teaches about correction and how God corrects us by popping the bubble of our vanity and removing from our sense of satisfaction any value or joy in that which is useless. He just disengages our whole sense of our appetite and gives us rather a sense of our need and a sense of our loss. You know, our tongues are meant to speak, they are meant to be instruments of training in the Gospel, training in righteousness. And our tongues are the constant source of sin by our weakness and by the nature of who we are as vain people. We are on a tremendous battleground. You cannot stop sinning with your tongue by ceasing to speak with your tongue. You can only stop sinning with your tongue by learning to speak good, by learning to get a hold of that truth and bring it into the core of the circumstance and bring it right there and get release, get the transfer. “What wait I for? My hope is in Thee.” And that transfer at that moment in a little crisis of disquietness in your home, that is the Gospel of Christ being preached for good in every occasion and that victory is going to be a permanent victory, it is going to be a real victory, a victory that transforms lives and you are going to see your children by the grace of God do exploits that you yourself could never imagine and that you yourself will never do. That is raising up the next generation in love. Let us pray.
Lord we come to You this morning, we marvel Lord at how You do Your work. Lord that You would take the weakest instrument of our whole being, that instrument that is the most frequent cause of sin and You would do Your work there, You would set a camp Lord upon our tongue and cause it to become the instrument of power, the instrument of life, the instrument of preaching the Gospel by which the power of God transforms the lives of those we reach. O Lord cleanse us from the faulty sense of pride and arrogance by which we see ourselves as better than others. Transform us Lord with a vision of service, a vision of doing good, speaking a word at a moment, Lord as apples of gold in settings of silver, that is the way a word is by Your grace that is fitly spoken. Lord give to us gracious lips, lips that can speak the truth in love. Lord, lips that can divide asunder between the vanity of man’s aspirations and the glory of God’s purpose. Help us Lord in the little things. Thank You for our families. We thank You for the long long time we get to raise up our children. Lord grant us that we would learn early and quickly to become aware of our limitations, of our weakness, that we would make the most of every opportunity knowing that the days are evil. We give You praise and thanksgiving, asking Lord that even our fellowship one with another might be seasoned with salt so that we might be exhorted and encouraged to number our days in good service, service for the King and not for vanity. We ask in Christ’s name, amen.

Posted on September 26th, 1999 by Luke  |  No Comments »

Psalm 39 and God’s Ownership of Man

Pastor Gary L. Cox

We are going to be in Psalm 39, if you want to turn in your Bibles to Psalm 39. Let us pray.

Lord we thank You for who You are and what You have done for us in Christ. And we gather this morning in Christ’s name and we are seeking, Lord, to be edified and nourished by You through Your Word in our hearts. Thank You for this group of people that have gathered here this morning and we ask Lord that we might succeed today in exalting Christ and finding true fellowship one with another in Jesus Christ and Him alone. We thank You and we ask in His name, amen.

We are in Psalm 39 this morning and there is a reason for being in Psalm 39. I would like to start by telling a story if I can. We have a small home school ministry as a part of our church here and as a part of that ministry we help oversee families in the state of Maryland mostly. And I was on the Eastern Shore visiting with a new family. One of the general obligations that we request of families belonging to our school is that they be a Christian family. That is the goal and focus of home schooling is to honor Christ. That is our primary purpose. So once in a while we will find a situation where there is a believing, usually it is the wife, a believing spouse and she wants to home school and yet she does not have a Christian home per say to work from. So in those cases we go through a real careful process to make sure that the husband is at least going to support the wife as he can yet without creating a pretentious kind of Christianity which the husband tries to fill out in order to be in the school. This happened to be the case of this particular family. And as we were going through the acceptance process, the husband wrote plainly on the application, “I am not a Christian but I do believe in God.” So with that special request, we made an exception to them. So at the home visit which I conducted this week, we were chatting at the dining room table and because of the honesty of the situation, the wife had a lot of convenience of just bringing up spiritual concerns and issues in front of her husband and child that were a concern to her. So she asked me bluntly at the table with her husband on my right and her son in front of me, she asked me bluntly, “How should I handle this situation?” Then she went on to say, “When we enrolled I was under the impression that my son wanted to follow after the Lord. I got that impression that he really wanted to home school for spiritual reasons, but apparently he just told me what he thought I wanted to hear but he really does not want to home school for any kind of spiritual reason.” Then she looked at her son and said, “Would you tell him what you asked me?” Course that is an awkward situation for a young person about age 13. And he looked at his mom and said, “You tell him. So she went ahead and said, well as they enrolled in the school, their expectations were such that she was going to diligently disciple this son towards the Lord and that included his attending church with her. So now he was complaining about attending church and his question was, “If God is so great, why do you have to go to a church and do all of this worship stuff and if you do not worship Him and He does not like how you worship Him, He is going to throw you in Hell. What kind of God is that?” That was his sum total of his experience. Then she wanted me to answer that question in front of her husband and her son. Thank God for the Holy Spirit in those moments because without the prompting of the Holy Spirit you might not know what to say. But, a valid question, a valid question. I wonder this morning as we are standing here, I wonder if there is anyone here who has asked that question themselves. If you have had a question you have raised concerning the person of God and His expectations of you. The way the son perceived it, God must be some kind of an ego maniac that demands people to gather together and speak of His praise and greatness or He will smite them to smithereens. That is kind of an interesting view of God, isn’t it? This morning my heart is burdened to challenge us. We have a tremendous obligation, we have a tremendous obligation as parents in order that we might guide the feet of our young ones in the path of the Lord. It is a tremendous responsibility because you and I by our very nature are weak. And the significant need that we have for a successful ministry is the identification of our weakness. So if you will permit this morning, I would like to do two things. We are going to go into Psalm 39 and we are going to take a look at the dilemma of weakness in the place of service, the dilemma of weakness in the place of service. And then perhaps to conclude, I would like to go to Corinthians and touch on two passages which perhaps you have never seen before side by side which touch on the substance of the issue that relates here. Now as I finish this particular story that I was telling you, I remember a time in my own life when I had such a struggle. Due to lack of time, I will not give you all the sort of details of the situation, but nevertheless, suffice it to say that when I was in Bible college, I rebelled against clear direction of the Lord. And in my rebellion I did what was right in my own eyes. And in the doing of that which was right in my own eyes, I reaped a very significant loss. I reaped the destruction that the Bible promises for those who do what is right in their own eyes. And in that process of reaping destruction, one of the things that I reaped was a tremendous capacity for criticizing God. I remember going to and from the chapel at the Bible college with these thoughts that this young man spoke forthrightly at that kitchen table, “What is wrong with God anyway that He has such a big ego that people need to worship Him?” And there was that sorted, that sorted, corrupt anguish of soul that sin had birthed in my heart. Course when those thoughts came to my heart, I can tell you there was a fright in my heart for myself because I had a wonderful, wonderful conversion experience. It was not a questionable thing of what God had done. It was very clear what God had done and yet here I am, this was not more than two years after conversion and I am struggling with this tremendous incapability of perceiving God in any right way. And that struggle lasted an earnest, at the time it lasted significantly and I had to just pray a little bit of proper Biblical perspective around it in order to go on. But the lingering consequence of my sin, the lingering consequence of my sin, continued with a poor crop of fruit being yielded in my life for many years to follow. And in my own ministry, I left Bible college and began Christian ministry immediately and in those early years of Christian ministry, there was much difficulty and much spiritual need because of these unresolved matters that went back to my disobedience and what that disobedience did to my relationship with God. I will tell you the rest of the story at the end of the message about that little boy and what answer I gave him on the home visit.

Let us turn to Psalm 39 this morning and beginning at verse 1, I am going to read the Psalm and then I am going to focus in on a couple issues that the Psalm addresses in my heart. Psalm 39 verse 1, “To the chief musician, even to Jeduthun.” By the way, interesting point, do you know what the word “Jeduthun” means? Hebrews always named people with a purpose. Their names had a spiritual implication. David is giving an assignment to a chief musician for the worship in the temple and the name “Jeduthun” means “one who praises with his hands lifted.” Great name. A parent named him that and his life was a service in the temple perhaps at its most holy time in the history of Israel where he was the chief musician governing worship of the people of God, worshiping God with their hands lifted. Is that not a neat insight? Let us go on. I said I was going to read, didn’t I? “A Psalm of David. I said, I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue. I will keep my mouth with a bridle while the wicked is before me. I was dumb with silence, I held my peace even from good and my sorrow was stirred. My heart was hot within me, while I was musing, the fire burned. Then spake I with my tongue.” Verse 4, “Lord, make me to know mine end and the measure of my days, what it is that I may know how frail I am. Behold, Thou hast made my days as an handbreadth and mine age is as nothing before Thee. Verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity. Selah.” Verse 6, “Surely every man walks in a vain show, surely they are disquieted in vain. He heaps up riches and he knows not who shall gather them. Now Lord what wait I for? My hope is in Thee. Deliver me from all my transgressions. Make me not the reproach of the foolish. I was dumb, I opened not my mouth because Thou didst it. Remove Thy stroke from me. I am consumed by the blow of Thine hand. When Thou with rebukes dost correct a man for iniquity, Thou makes his beauty to consume away like a moth. Surely every man is vanity. Selah. Hear my prayer O Lord and give ear unto my cry. Hold not Thy peace at my tears for I am a stranger with Thee and a sojourner as all my fathers were.” Verse 13, “O spare me that I may recover strength before I go hence and be no more.” That is a beautiful Psalm. It is a beautiful Psalm especially for those of us who have responsibility of spiritual leadership and nurture of others under us. It has to do with that balance of understanding where we recognize the necessity of service but we must be given a capacity to serve out of a right understanding of who we are ourselves. We have been studying love as the primary means by which any ministry can be given to man. And if you do not have love, no matter what your gift is, that fruit of your work without love is empty, it is meaningless, it has absolutely no value. It is worth the effort for us to discover and to discern, “Well how can I minister then by love? How can I walk then in love in such a way that I have fruit, in such a way that there is success?” Real briefly, the simple contrast between love and that which is not love is the focus of motivation. Those who are motivated by love adopt a servant’s heart. I want to just plug that into your mind first thing this morning. Those who walk by love have a servant’s heart. And those who have a servant’s heart then are free from the egotisms that are due to our own nature. And we struggle with ego and with that which is meaningless, advancing our own pride and our own cause. We pursue that almost instinctively like a breath of air. That is the nature of who we are by ourselves. So it is necessary for us to really deal with the issue of what is love? What is love? It means being a servant for somebody’s greater end, but that greater end is not defined by that person. The greater end is defined by God. So my interest in that person is God’s favor, is God’s purpose, is God’s blessing. And we know that that which is God’s favor and purpose and blessing contrasts, it contradicts that which by our own nature pleases us, attracts us or draws out of us our natural motivation. With that in mind, let us take the Psalm apart momentarily and get a perspective here on what is taking place. The first thing that I want to confess is that I am giving to you what is my best understanding of the Psalm and you may disagree. I am not meaning to interpret it as if to say, “This is exactly the accurate.” But I have taken this Psalm in a certain way that until this week I have never seen it in a different light. And because of some of my own personal experiences the Psalm has begun to minister to me just as a salve to a wound and it is in light of that context that I am seeing the Psalm in a different light than before. Before, I saw the Psalm as the statement that when you stand before the wicked and you try to hold your mouth shut and you are righteous, your righteousness boils within and you eventually have to speak because you have to speak for righteousness. And that is the manner in which I have seen the passage. It kind of naturally seems to have that appearance in the first couple of verses. But I do not think that is what it really means. Personally I have seen in my own life, it has a little different bent, a little different meaning. So let us look at this picture. And I want to talk about here the powerlessness of ministry by our own source, by our own resource. We are powerless to serve, we are powerless to minister by our own resources. There is nothing that we have. There is nothing in us that is useful, that is capable of going out and engaging and drawing forth spiritual vitality. There is absolutely nothing that is there. Here is the picture. In verses 1 through verse 3, we find this situation. David clearly defines step one, step two and step three of a particular situation. He does not give us any of the details of the matter, he just shows us his personal, emotional and mental process by which he goes through that step one, step two, step three. And we are going to touch on that. That is probably where it ministers to me the greatest. Then we have verse 4. At verse 4 we have this outbreak, “Lord make me to know mine end.” This whole picture of David capturing himself and what we find is the sequence that David sees himself going through is a sequence of wanting to resist sin, attempting in human strength to resist sin and failing and by lack of strength sinning. And he is sinning in a very particular matter, it is the sin of his mouth, the sin of the words of his mouth and how he speaks. So it is in that context that we see the one, two, three process and in verse 4 we get this great upheaval of soul by which he is just beside himself, “Lord how can I get things right? Here I am, a deliberate effort to avoid sin and I end in absolute failure.” So in verse 4 through verse 6 we see the understandable state of man. What is the understandable state of man? This is a very important section for you and I. These are those sections whereby we get an absolute point of reference and the reference clearly says, “We have significant need, we have significant lack and we need to have what God has for us.” Our sense of need is heightened in verses 4 to 6. Then when you go from verse 7 to the end of the chapter, we see this practical communion with God of the servant, yielding himself up to the Lord, yielding himself up to the Lord’s methods and adopting a primary desire that God’s work is completed in his own life. Here is the beauty of the Psalm: when I have the work of God being successful in my own life, it is only at that point that I have any hope of my service, of my servanthood reaching out to another and touching their life for good and helping them to see truth. I am not saying that every time I extend out that message in a righteous manner that it will be received, but what I am saying is you cannot serve with any hope of vitalness unless you reach this place where your understanding is fixed and you see yourself as you need to be seen. Basically here is the problem if I could sum it up in a nutshell for you and I: if you see that there is a person, individual “A” has a spiritual need and you are aware of that spiritual need, the natural inclination for you if you are an unbeliever is to think of yourself more highly than them because you see their need. And we find the proof text for that in Romans 2. The natural inclination to see somebody’s need and then because we have this capacity to see a need, we raise ourselves up in pride and in a sense of superiority spiritually and we think, there is a little click that happens, we think that because we have the capacity to judge, we are free ourselves from sin and we ourselves fall into great deceit and great confusion and we are incapable of serving the Lord by the power of His might. The next part is if you are not an unbeliever but if you are a believer, you still have this struggle of dealing with this individual. The struggle that I believe David has here is the struggle of the believer. It is the believer struggle. It is this sensitivity to sin. I know that there is a wrong way and I do not want to do this anymore. And you kind of see yourself, “I want to get this mouth under control.” But they become so focused on the sin that they use a human effort to resist the sin and that human effort can never succeed in overcoming sin. So failure is assured in the very process and that which we attempt to resist ends up coming out in volcanic proportions because all we have succeeded in doing is bottling it up until the cork can no longer hold it back, then the cork rips off and out it comes and we are simply overwhelmed by our iniquity. And the thing that we find here as David finds the correction is understanding our relationship with God in the proper mode.

Let us look a little closer to some of these verses in the context of David’s prayer and of David’s focus. Back to verse 1, David said, “I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue.” “I will take heed to my ways that I sin not with my tongue.” Here is a picture of a man looking at the circumstances of his life and as it were, he is visualizing occasions of sin and occasions of stumbling, so he begins very deliberately attempting to set up barriers and barricades against the possibility of sinning. He sees, “I have a problem with my mouth, I have got a problem with my tongue and that is where I tend to sin. So here is what I am going to do, in order to not sin with my tongue here is what I am going to do, I am going to cut off the tongue at every point. I am going to pay attention to the occasions where I get entangled with my tongue and I am going to start building defenses against getting in those situations where I am going to sin with my tongue. And there is an interesting picture here, he said, “I will keep my mouth with a bridle while the wicked is before me.” Why is that an interesting statement? Does anybody remember the book of James? What does the book of James tell us about the tongue and bridles? It says that you can guide a horse with a bridle but you cannot control the tongue. The tongue no man can tame. Here is the secret of David’s mistake: he is looking to his own capacity at bridling, at building a barricade against his own sin and it is in that sense of looking at his sin and what strength he can have to bring against it, he is totally engaged in resisting sin simply by his own strength which is absolutely insufficient. Should you ever fight a battle of any sort without sufficiency? Does that make sense? On the practical side of it I do not think so. But here we find that picture, “I will keep my mouth with a bridle.” “I will, I will.” I just want to suggest this morning to you and I, this is an unusual doctrine, but your capacity to will against sin is zero. You will always be defeated if you depend on success against sin by your will, if you start making bridles and barriers. I want to pause this morning and I want suggest, this is the tendency of all flesh. It is not just David, it is not just here because King David had a chronic problem with his own strength and his lack of understanding of it. No this is not King David only, this is us always. Our nature is to be repulsed by our sin and to take as it were a vow of resistance, “I will not sin with my tongue,” and you write it a thousand times and we buy a bridle, we put it on. And the word “bridle” there by the way actually means a harness, we put the whole thing under our control of a contraption and we say, “I will do it, I will do it, I will not sin with my tongue.” Now notice what takes place. This is the interesting part of David’s experience. Notice that the focus area is while the wicked is before me. It is important that we see that. The focus area is while the wicked is before me. What we begin to see here is the transition between wickedness of those who need the Lord and wickedness and iniquity of ourselves of those who have the Lord and we tend to make a distortion of that picture and starkly work out of that model and that is what David was doing. He was focusing on the wicked and he was saying, “I am not going to sin with my mouth while the wicked is before me.”

Now verse 2 tells us what happened, “I was dumb with silence.” It sounds like his will was working, “I was dumb with silence,” yes sir, “I held my peace.” Absolutely, then notice a little clincher here, “even from good and my sorrow was stirred, even from good and my sorrow was stirred.” “I held my peace even from good and my sorrow was stirred.” Take a quick look at that context there. When we are people with a spiritual origin, there are times to speak and the believer has only one of two vents, he only has one of two vents. He has the vent of good or the vent of iniquity. And what we see here is an imbalance in David’s life as he perceived a spiritual dilemma. He realized that his strength was so poor at how he used his tongue, how he spoke in the context of the wicked when they were in his presence, he realized that his sin was so alive and so real that he needed to take some kind of measure against sinning with his mouth. So what he does is he contrives a human harness, a bridle for his tongue and he fixes exclusively on only part of the problem. “If my mouth is going to sin, I tell you what, I will staple the lips shut. I will put a master screw up through the jaws and I will clamp it down and I will not be able to talk.” That is the way we are, is it not? We get so focused on wanting to avoid that sin that we just become consumed by that fixation. And what happens is he not only held his peace from that which was evil and sin, he also held his peace from that which was good. Now what does the Bible say about that as far as sin? In James we hear another story about this. What does the Bible say? “Now to him that knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin.” Is that not amazing? The whole focus was so self centered in that sense of, “I have got to stop sinning, I have got to resist it, I have got to overcome it,” and so we contrive a physical, a human remedy. And that human remedy errs immediately. As we are trying to close off this sin it is like a frog eye. Did you ever try to pin a frog eye on the table? Every time you hit the frog eye it slips away and it gets away in another direction. You cannot nail it down. That is the way sin is. But the point of it is, we are not capable of seeing a big enough picture, so what we do is we just focus on the biggest thing that bugs us. But we are not balanced. We are not capable of really dealing with the whole issue and what happened is our very effort to keep from sinning causes us to end up sinning. There is a little secret here and I want to encourage you and I with this because we do sin with our mouths. This is the greatest area of struggle that the believer has, sinning with our mouths. And James warned us not to be many teachers because you will receive the greater condemnation. There is a very important need for us to get a hold of our mouths but nailing our mouths shut is not a solution, causing our lips to be permanently sealed is not the solution. I was going to ask you a question this morning, I was going to ask, maybe there are some wives here this morning. They have been frustrated by the use of their mouth with their husband or with their children and you have said, “I have had it. I am just not going to say anything. I am not going to say another word. They do not listen to me anyway, I am just going to..” I do not mean to stop there and just pick on the wives because there are husbands here. What is the greatest complaint against men by their wives? It is only a two word accusation. No it is actually a contraction and a word, “Don’t talk.” Where was I recently? I was talking to somebody and the wife said, “I am learning that my husband loves me even though he does not talk to me. I am beginning to see that. I have been hurt all these years thinking that he did not love me because he would not talk, but I am beginning to see that he does love me but he just don’t talk.” The tongue is an instrument that God can use for righteousness. I just want to pause for a moment and think. Is this not amazing how God works, the greatest device of evil, the most significant area of our own corruption is our tongue, all of us, all of me, and then think about the Gospel. What did the Scripture say about the Gospel? That it would be through the foolishness of preaching, through the foolishness of preaching that the power of God would be unleashed and made accessible to the hearts of men by faith. Is that not amazing to you? Is that not incredible? That God who sees the greatest sin in man is his tongue, chooses to use the tongue as the vehicle for the Gospel to go forth? What an incredible contrast. You know what it tells me kind of up front? It tells me that God is not afraid of His power. God is not afraid of His grace. He knows that while men cannot handle the tongue, He can. While men cannot handle the tongue, He can and what God wants to do is He wants to redeem our tongues from hell. He wants to redeem our tongues from the iniquity that they spew out and He wants to train our tongues in ministry of righteousness. And when it is all said and done whether you are parenting your child or any other venue of service, the wisdom of God is transferred from one person to the next through the little vessel of the tongue. I know that the written word is similar to the tongue because it is the communication process. But there is where the power is going to be unleashed, through the use of the tongue. That is God’s great gift and purpose. It makes me marvel to think that what a God we have that would take our weakest member and say, “You know what? I am going to preach the Gospel through that. That will really let the power be seen as from God and not from men. It will really let the contrast be there and be real.” So this morning I just want to encourage us as we look at David and we see that in his effort to stop sinning, he attempted to stop the vessel of blessing, he attempted to stop the vessel of power. Mark – (One comment from Romans 10:9, it says that we confess with our mouth Jesus is Lord and it just kind of confirms the idea that He uses our mouth to praise His name.) In other words, I think redemption has to be effective in our mouths. We have to have redeemed lips by the praise and the glory of God.

Let us go on. This is exciting. When he had this holding of his peace even from good, I said earlier that that is a cork, that he corked it up and he did not ventilate. I want to make a suggestion. To you fathers this morning, to you mothers, here is an important principle to understand because when we talked about love we said this one thing a couple weeks ago, love rejoices in the truth and love rejoices not in iniquity. And the foundation of ministry is our capacity for what we rejoice in. And the necessity of joy to our spirits is the connection to our strength, “The joy of the Lord is my strength.” I have a need to walk in joy. So what we see here is David failed to rejoice in the truth and so he sinned in his effort to avoid sinning. In his effort to avoid sinning, David failed to rejoice in the truth, instead he rejoiced in iniquity and he ended up in sin. Here is the whole point, if you and I are going to need to use our lips, we need to use them as vessels of rejoicing in the truth, vessels of rejoicing in the truth. It is imperative that we understand that at the very place that is so difficult, where we are tempted to have vile cursings or just shut up altogether so I do not say vile cursings, at that crossroads, that is the very place where the ministry and the life of the Gospel of Christ is going to come forth and out of our lips are going to be soothing words of living water like a salve and we are going to be able to reach inside in one of the complex or difficult circumstance where the tensions and the pulling of contention are great between us and our children or what have you. Right at that point you minister that living water and you start bringing life right to the very person that you are trying to reach and the truth brings the life. And the result of that truth bringing life is the rejoicing of the child in the truth and you see the victory of that ministry by the child embracing godliness and eschewing evil, turning away from evil, putting it aside. What we find here with David is he failed. He failed to understand the ministry before the wicked. He saw himself as only a critic, as only a condemner, as the only one who blasted them out of the water with the violence of his tongue and he said, “I am going to snip it off, I am going to cut it off, I am going to prevent myself from sinning when I am before the wicked and I am not going to speak anything, not even good.” And at that point he cut himself off. Failure to speak victory at the point of opportunity will always lead to more sin, you will always lead to more sin. You cannot beat sin by being afraid of confronting sin. You cannot beat sin by in your fear of being overcome by sin, closing your mouth and saying, “I am not going to do anything, I will just let it up to God. I will let God do it.” Well God is going to do it. But He wants to do it through your victorious, joyful lips speaking the truth in love, rejoicing in the truth. It is that picture of joy. As you see the joy and you bring that focus of joy right on the incident, that is where the life begins to transmit because someone else begins to get the vision for what you have and they see the hope and embrace it. I am going to illustrate this. It is kind of a silly illustration but I do not know if this child got much from this illustration but I did years ago. When I first got in the ministry, we had a visit from a bunch of young people from the church that sponsored us up to Frederick County. So after we were finished with our work day or whatever it was, I got to chit chatting with some of the young people from this one family and we were close friends and as we are chit chatting this girl tells me, she says, “My grandmother makes us call her ‘Mama Dear.’ That is so embarrassing to have to call my grandmother ‘Mama Dear’.” And the Lord just kind of sparked a little interest in me and I thought that is a really endearing name, that is beautiful. I said, “That is a wonderful name.” And I just started shouting “Mama Dear.” And I said it in a way that I was rejoicing in that thing. What a sweet thing and I began rejoicing in it and within 30 seconds this girl was envious of my joy of that name and she went home happy to use “Mama Dear.” She saw it as an opportunity. But it was just her outlook. It was a difference of rejoicing, rejoicing in the truth and not rejoicing in the truth. I realize that is a small incident and you say, “How can it be truth to say, ‘Mama Dear’?” In one sense of the word it is truth because that was the title of respect demanded and she was rebelling against that because it was embarrassing to her outlook. So there was truth and rejoicing in truth to embrace that which was asked and to see a different side of it. But it gave me a hint and from that day on I have remembered that transition because that girl came with this long doleful face to being cheerful and happy and grateful that she had such a dear name to give her grandmother. I saw that transformation. Nothing changed except the child’s outlook and rejoicing from what was once ugly and demeaning to what now is wonderful, opportunity, a privilege.

Let us go on. Verse 3 says, “My heart was hot within me. While I was musing, the fire burned, then spake I with my tongue.” Now the picture here is real interesting. First of all it reminds me of another picture of the book of James, tongue, the world of iniquity and it is a fire, a flame set on fire by hell itself. And this picture here, “My heart was hot within me,” that Hebrew word means “a flame.” There is this flame in my heart about this circumstance. Then it goes on and it says, “While I was musing the fire burned.” Now you and I recognize the word “musing” as a word of internal thoughts, “I am thinking inside my head what is going on.” The Hebrew word actually means, “a boiling.” If you have ever seen a pot of water boiling and then you get a big stick in there and you start stirring it all up, getting the heat out and you are stirring it all up, that musing process is a boiling process. It is a process by which my focus on the problem on the iniquity of the wicked gets sharp.(tape turned here)…and what happens to me? I get madder and madder. I get hotter and hotter. And you have this cork on it and you are heating it up and you are stirring it up and you are letting all this steam escape and you have this intense buildup of pressure. And here is the fault of men trying to solve all of their sin problems by corking it: we have no strength enough to keep the cork on and the information shoved down. We have no capacity to prevent it. Therefore what do we have? We have an explosion. At some point it breaks itself out. And I want to point out here just by way of physics, when you have a container that is building pressure around a heat source that is causing an expansion of material that keeps putting pressure, when you have that, you need to vent that off. The nature of physics is such that you need to vent it off. Now in this context then of venting off this heat, I am going to take some of Paul’s thunder, but Paul was telling me about where they live, they live in volcano land and the place that they live is an old volcano. But they have gone up into the mountain for little hikes and he says that there are these volcanic vents out of the mountains that are just amazing. They were carved by fluid, hot molten lava, as they were venting off the sides of the mountain. And they would blow out the whole side, create smooth rock and it was obviously a fluid so it looks like a blood vessel if anything and they can walk back these veins all the way deep until they get to the place where gravity pulled back the lava and it sealed off itself with hardened rock again. But those vents let off the steam. Now here is the point that is exciting brothers and sisters especially as we think of our mouths, if you use your lips for good by the grace of God with the right attitude, you will be able to vent off all the kind of pressure that builds up from within. That ministry will be a ministry of life, it will bring focus and force to the issue and concern and truth and rejoicing in the truth will cause that good to be ministered to and you will be kept from sin. You will have a proper ventilation. So it is almost as if there is a little insight here taking place that for you and I if we are going to walk by grace, we have to actively walk in victorious goodness or the sin that we are trying to clamp down just builds up pressure and it starts exploding like a volcanic reaction and we end up walking in sin because of the explosion. We need to vent off our sin by learning how to walk in goodness, doing that which is good, that which is right in the eyes of the Lord.

We are in Psalm 39. Let us look at the next verse. Picking up again at verse 4, “Lord make me to know mine end and the measure of my days what is it that I may know how frail I am.” It is important for us to understand what he is focusing on when he ends from verse 3, “Then I spoke with my tongue,” and then his immediate response is, “Lord make me to know mine end, the measure of my days what it is that I may know how frail I am.” His immediate sense of big concern is that here he blew it again. His effort to not sin ended in sin and out of that came an insight. He needed to know something about himself. For your information, the word “frail,” you and I tend to use frail today almost in the sense of fragile, at least that is the kind of ordinary use that we think of it at least the way I do, but frail here has to do with lack of strength. One of the words means “flabby.” If someone is frail they are just flabby, they just do not have any strength at all. What the writer is focusing on here is this flabbiness of our own capability. Now as he is talking about this flabbiness, this frailty, we are dealing with a picture here, look at the first part of the verse, “Make me to know mine end.” You and I would think of that word “end” there as if the end of my days, when life is over. But the actual Hebrew word has to do with the extreme border, the limit at which I can operate within, “Teach me to know mine end.” Teach me to know my limitations. What are the realities of who I am? It is not just that I need to know that I have a short life, although that is part of the package, but it is an understanding that these limitations are borders. In a simple way, if I have a $200 bill that I owe somebody and I have a $20 account which to pay that bill, my limitations are pretty clear. That which I am bound by is plain as I look to that issue. And here is the first thought that David has as it relates to his victory over sin, “That I may know mine end.” What is the limitation that I have and what is my border? You know, the first step of significant ministry is that walking in your own limitations, understanding that you are a limited person. Only God is eternal, only He has unending days, only He has all power and all strength. And who am I? I am a man of weak means. I am a man of great limitation and God is calling me to live within my great limitations, He has called me to live in larger service. How do you do that? It is by connecting to the person and the power of God. That is the way it works.

The next part of the phrase says, “And the measure of my days, what it is.” That Hebrew word there was really exciting because the word, “measure of my days,” is actually a Hebrew word that means the fleetingness of my days. It is really an emphasis on how fleeting time is. “Make me to know how fleeting time is.” I have very little time. Interesting. Quality ministry is going to come forth from me when I begin to take stock of who I really am. How many times are we sinning because we are walking as if we have unending resources. We can do all things and we stop there and forget the rest of the verse that says, “Through Christ who strengthens me.” We just start thinking about, “I can do all things.” And we take on the world as if we ourselves are sufficient unto ourselves, which we are not, and we lay a hold of vision beyond our resources. But correct ministry comes when there is a sense of limitation, “What are the borders? What is the end? What is that maximum capacity that I have? What is the fleetingness of my life?” If you begin to realize how fleeting life is, you begin to measure your words more carefully. I know that I often try to encourage my children and other young people that are moving into the age of getting married and starting a family, I always try to encourage them, “Pay close attention to just how important every day is because there are decisions that come up today that seem so insignificant. Here they are, they come and they go and you do not seem to think they have any great consequence and we tend to think that if I make a mistake I will correct it and fix it tomorrow.” We tend to have that carelessness. But the reality is, I look back on my life and I realize, how many decisions did I make when I was young and today it is almost as if I am permanently hedged in by some of those decisions. There is a permanence to those limited decisions that were made. And I do not have capacities beyond where we can begin to value the moment that we have, “My time is fleeting, my resources are limited,” that begins to sharpen our focus for ministry. Then he says, “That I may know how frail I am.” That is, how little strength I actually have. If you know how little strength you actually have, you will not begin to pretend to walk in that strength. You know that you have to get a resource that is bigger, God. It is just an automatic response. When you are out of it and you know you are out of it, you cry for help. You know what the Lord wants of us? He wants us crying for help at all times? Well why do we not cry for help at all times? Because we get confident in our own resources. We get focused on what we think is our own strength and so we sin, and so we move in ministry of sin. And he goes on in verse 5, “Behold Thou hast made my days as an handbreath,” literally as the stretch of a palm of a hand. “Thou hast made my days as an handbreath and mine age is as nothing before Thee, mine age is as nothing before Thee.” That word “nothing” there is literally the word “absolutely nothing.” And all the sudden God begins to challenge us to compare ourselves to Him. What are your resources God compared to mine? When I look at what I have, it is not that I have nothing, but when I look at what I have compared to what God has, the reality is it is nothing. It is a drop in the bucket as the writer of Isaiah said, “All the nations are as a drop in the bucket.” Can you think of that? All of the nations are a drop in a bucket. Incredible contrast. We are nothing before God and what God wants out of us is that awakening reality of who He is so our resource becomes Him, so He becomes that which drives us in the morning, through the day and at night. He is sufficient and all of our sufficiency rests in Him.

And then finally, we see here, “And there is nothing before Thee, verily every man at his best state is altogether vanity, Selah.” “Every man at his best state is altogether vanity, Selah.” Now this picture of there being nothing before God is something that you and I do not grasp very well. The first commandment concerning idols, “Thou shalt have,” what? “No other god before Me.” It is that picture, the picture of that which we use always to compete with God. The nature of man is to compete with God. We are going to be tempted with the same temptation of Satan, we are going to want to be like God. We are going to want to compare our strength to His strength and whatever we can do that we do not need God’s help, “I do not need Your help God, I can do this myself, thank you.” Have you watched your children grow up? It is so amazing. They get to around 18 months or earlier and all of the sudden they are rolling up their sleeves and taking on mom and dad. Something small like cutting their own meat, here is this piece of meat on their plate and there is no way they can cut it if they had a sharp knife. They might cut their finger off but that is about it. But it is, “Get out of the way, I want to do this.” There is that natural instinctive tendency to press forward with all that we have and all that we are so that our sense of significance might be known and that is sin, from A to Z. That is the whole nature of sin. The manifestation of me before so that I have a little, some spot before God, that there is a little bit of remembrance of me before God. The Scripture says God will not share His glory with another, period. There is no glory sharing. God is all and in all, over all and through all. He is it. He is the beginning and the end, the alpha and the omega. There is none else besides God. That is the challenge of salvation, that is the challenge of our whole life. There is nothing before Thee. Then he gives this little picture, and I want to compare this picture back to the resolutions of men which he starts out with when he said, “I will take heed to myself that I sin not with my tongue.” “Verily, man at his best state is altogether vanity.” So just stop a for a minute. Let us just take 30 seconds and imagine what that means. Let us have a competition, let us have a worldwide, international, through all ages competition. We can do it on computers now because computers do wonderful things. You know how Rocky boxed Ali and lost, that is done by computers, we can do that now. Let us take every man and let us have a competition. Let us get the ultimate man, the ultimate one who is really everything and all and just mighty for God, good, holy, righteous, powerful, striking down enemies, you name it, let us get them out there. Let us get our best trophy and let us set them out there before God. Then we find the words of condemnation, “Man at his best state is altogether vanity.” You know what the word “vanity” means there? What is in this thing besides air? What is in this thing besides air? No thing. Nothing. That is right. Very good. There is no thing in there. And that is what vanity is, nothing, nothing. It is a big zero. There is nothing to compare. Now maybe to help us understand it a little bit, those illustrations I try to make up are so bad, I am going to skip it. Let us go on. Have you ever seen a little child make a little wooden car out of nothing? And when they are all finished it looks like nothing. That is the hard part of being a parent that I have had. I see nothing and I say nothing and my wife sees nothing and she says, “Ah that is wonderful.” But anyway if you could take one of these nothing little creations by a wonderful little child that only the mother can see the beauty of, take one of those little cars and compare it to the world’s best car ever made, ever known, maybe it is a Rolls Royce, I do not know, I do not know what the best is but let us pretend it is a Rolls Royce for a moment and compare, and ask yourself, “How much of something is this in light of the Rolls Royce?” How much is there to compare? And only a mother can say, “Something.” The rest of us would say, “Nothing.” And it would be pretty obvious, it is just a pile of unused wood, misused wood and that is the best we can state. But there is that contrast, there are you and I. Man at his altogether very best state, with no exception, the premier super bowl of super bowl of super bowl’s man, he is equal to that little wood pile of meaninglessness when compared to what God does as an afterthought. That is the contrast. Now why is this there? Is this to humiliate us? Is this to rub us in the dirt to make us feel totally incapable and totally stupid and hang our heads down in shame? No it is not to do that. It is to get us to focus on our resource. God has extended Himself to us so that which He is is available to us in all things. And God is to be manifested by His strength, by His virtue, by His glory, He wants to be manifested in us, in our need. So He makes our need great so His opportunity is great. And we find ourselves full, we find ourselves satisfied when we have found ourselves met in God. When that which is His power and His might is made known and manifested, we find ourselves full, full of joy, full of strength, at rest, at peace. I love that verse, “Man at his best state is altogether vanity.” You know what it does for me? It just cuts out any desire to win a trophy. It just cuts out. Why compete? Why chase after vanity? Why waste all that time? I just have this little tiny life. I have these tiny limitations. Time is wasting and why should I spend even one minute pursuing something that absolutely means nothing? Why should I chase that? Let me rather chase after God. Let me pursue Him in all things and let me learn early, let me learn soon how to tap into His resource so that when I am weak, He is strong and His strength becomes my life and my life becomes a praise to His name.

In terms of going on, if you will look at the next verse. He begins to site the nature of man. Verse 6 says this, “Surely every man walks in a vain show.” I want to pause there for a moment and I want to just emphasize a few words because this is important for us in a group setting like this. Sometimes it is easier to preach the Word to a large group because we can say everybody and it means everybody. But if I am speaking to you one on one, you do not feel like there is everybody there, so you feel like I am picking on you all alone in the whole world. So this morning we have a benefit. We can say, “Everybody,” and we can mean you, George. I knew you were smiling so I could get away with it. Every man walks in a vain show. Every man walks in a vain show. Who here this morning can say, “It is not true?” Every man walks in a vain show. Our natural instinct is to walk in vanity. So when we arrive and we say, “Hello,” and extend the hand of fellowship, we are extending the show, “Here is what I have to present. Here I am. I want you to see the show.” That is who we are. It is by our nature, it is by our instinct. That is why we tend to have trends and fads in how we dress because we are all walking in a vain show. We are here to strut. We get our little plumes out there and all the pretty colors we want everybody to see, that is who we are. Now can we confess that morning? Can we acknowledge that this is who I am? I think we can. I know we should. With that vain show comes the rest of the story following verse 6, the middle portion, “Surely they are disquieted in vain, surely they are disquieted in vain.” Now there is a lot of talk in the New Testament about peace, about having the peace of Christ ruling in our hearts, ruling in our minds, that peace that passes all understanding. And that peace that passes all understanding is directly focused on this particular issue here, the disquietness of my vanity. When I am walking in a vain show, I become disquieted. Usually I become disquieted because the competition is fierce. Only one guy wins the crown and I get the hint pretty quick that it will not be me and I get disquieted within my soul and I begin looking for a means or a method to get ahead, get around the corner, get out in front, make sure that I do not lose at least totally. At least make sure that there are more people behind me than there are ahead of me, that vain press. There is that picture of disquietness, the lack of peace. Hint, “Come to me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest.” There is the Gospel in a nutshell. Come to Christ in our disquietness to find the rest of Christ which is life. We have to let it go. We have to give it up. We have to exchange that which is absolutely worthless and lay a hold of that which truly has value. And you know what is exciting? This is the most amazing thing. When we get to Heaven we are going to be stunned. By reading good Christian biographies, you are going to be stunned now, nothing like you will be then, but it is a good start. The reality is this: God is after bringing peace to souls so hearts become fixed and focused on eternal things no matter what is swirling on around them in the world beside. All that vain show, that stirring up the dirt, remember what the Scripture says about the wicked? The wicked are like the troubled sea, casting up mire and dirt. “There is no peace,” saith my God, “For the wicked.” Wickedness leaves us disquieted. We are anxious. We are consumed. We are concerned. We are afraid of not making it and God is delivering us with His peace, with His quietness. “Surely they are disquieted in vain.” Notice the picture of disquietness, this is an incredible picture, “They heap up riches.” Now riches are the single most trophy that men find on earth by which to measure themselves. It is the single most trophy. It is just the natural setting, how rich I am and how I portray I wealth. What Psalm is that? Is that Psalm 69 or Psalm 49, the Scripture says, “Surely men will praise thee if thou wilt treat thyself well.” If you do good to yourself, men will praise you. There is that whole nature of the competition in a moment and this heaping up of riches, the word “riches” by the way there is supplied, it is not literally in the context. It is this heaping up of all those things that become the substitute for God in my life. “And they knoweth not who shall gather them.”

Now we see in verse 7 the solution, at rest. David now gets a focus on his own self and he says, “Now Lord what wait I for? My hope is in Thee.” What a simple question. What a simple question to ask ourselves this morning. What are you waiting for? Are you here this morning full of disquietness? Is your heart and soul in turmoil because you are after things that have nothing but vanity as their end? What are you waiting for? Are you waiting for the extension of fame, fortune, approval by men, honor, greatness? What are you waiting for? “What wait I for? My hope is in Thee.” I want to say this morning, what we wait for has everything to do with our walk, with our life. What am I waiting for? We can only wait either for the vanity of the world or we can wait for that which God Himself has promised. I cannot finish the Psalm so I am going to finish my story. Remember the story I told in the beginning about this little guy? Turn your Bibles to 1 Corinthians chapter 6. Beginning at verse 19, “But know you not that your body is a temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God and you are not your own? For you are bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which are God’s.” Skip over quickly to chapter 7, verse 20. “Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he is called. Art thou called being a servant? Care not for it but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather for he that is called in the Lord being a servant is the Lord’s freeman. Likewise also, he that is called being free is Christ’s servant. You are bought with a price. Be ye not the servants of men. Brethren, let every man wherein he is called, therein abide with God.” As that dear lady asked me that difficult question and I looked on this teenage face and it was not interested in any answer, I could tell it was not a listening audience and the husband was at best pensive, course in those situations I am tempted to panic, find the quickest door out and leave, and the Lord just gave me a word and the word was ownership, ownership. And I said, I said, “Well the principle is ownership and let me ask you a question son. Do you have any possessions, anything that you own that is very special to you? Something that stands out.” He said, “I have got a lot of things but I guess the two most special things are my bike and my playroom.” I do not know what the room playroom meant because I am not real familiar with the latest computer games or what have you so I did not even want to go there. I was out of touch with what play rooms are. But I could relate to a bike. So I said, “I just wonder, that bike is yours. You own it. How would you feel if the neighborhood kids came by and they wanted to use your bike anytime, for any reason, for whatever purpose, and your parents said, ‘Oh sure come on in. I know it is his bike but go ahead and use it, it does not matter’.” Well it was real interesting. When I said that, it was just an imaginary story, it had nothing to do with reality, I was just making it up, but when I said that, I saw his stomach turn with a visible knot and he was moved with indignation and his face become like, “Don’t you dare do this to me.” It was incredible how quickly he was moved to this brink. And I realized that the Lord had struck a nerve. And I went on and I played out the story a little bit further, I said, “Let me ask you another question, how would you feel the next time you went out to get your bike, you started to reach down for the handle bar and the bike got up, spun its wheels, spit gravel in your eye and cursed at you and took off saying get away from me creep? How would you feel? You start running all over the neighborhood and everybody laughs at you, the bike keeps getting away, what would you do? What would you do?” He said, “I will tell you what I would do.” He was into this story quick. He said, “I will tell you what I would do. I would take my wrench and my pliers and I would take and make that thing a pile of bolts and I would be done with it.” I said, “Son, that is what Hell is. Hell is the place for those who refuse to be with God where God is. Hell is the place where people say, ‘I do not want to be around you God’, and they get what they want. The absence of God is Hell.” With that he reached over and grabbed a big juicy pear and took a big juicy bite and I said, “Isn’t it interesting, you had this view of God being so egocentric, but you know what? He made you. You are not your own. You are bought with a price.” I said, “You are bought once by Creatorship, He made you so you belong to you and He has a right to make you however He wants, He has the right to fix your handlebars the way He wants, to put you in that garage the way He wants, that is His will. But furthermore, He bought you back. He bought you back by redemption, by the blood of Christ and in that context you have an obligation. Have you thanked God for that pear? Have you thanked God for that pear? God made that pear by His own creative genius. And you know why He made it? He made it so you could wonderfully enjoy it. He meant for man to enjoy pears but you have not thanked Him for it. And you know what worship is son? Worship is giving God thanks that is due His name. Worship is acknowledging the Creator in the circumstance that I am in. And it is saying, ‘God I am Your bike; You made me, I am not my own. You have the right to do with what You please and I see God that You are a good God and You always do good to me and I want to praise You for that, thank You’.” With that, the boy was up and out the door and gone into the fields. And if you would pray for someone, pray for that dad because I looked at the dad and I sensed something touching his heart that was more than just an occasion. As we close this morning I want to talk to you. You know what our problem is? Ownership. That is our problem. Every form of rebellion of man, every form of vanity that we seek is a problem of ownership. We think we have a right to our own opinion. We think we have a right to our own way. We think that our feelings matter. And they do not. What matters is that we have an unlimited God who has made Himself a resource to us in our limitations. And He is wooing us and calling us and beseeching us that we come to Him. And as we think about this whole issue of ministry, moms and dads may I speak to you? What is a coward? What is a coward in terms of a parent, a parental coward? What is a coward? Have you thought about that lately? Have you asked yourself the question, “Are you a coward Mark?” Do not answer now. What is a coward? I will tell you what a coward is. A coward is someone who is afraid of that little speck of nothingness called man and in the fear of that little speck of nothingness called man, he cannot raise himself up in any sort of vision or wisdom or understanding to reckon with and understand the great God who made us, who owns us, who has for us every resource capable for giving us a full and a deeply satisfying life. That is a coward. That is a coward. Fear of the insignificant and the inability to have a vision for that which truly is significant. It is natural, moms and dads, it is natural for your children to desire the world. It is natural. We just read it in the Psalms. It is the way everyone is. We by our own nature seek after vanity. We are disquieted, chasing after the world. That is our nature. Therefore, the nature of parenting is to correct, to correct that vanity and guide it down the path of rightness, to exchange the cowardly invisibility of nothingness, to exchange that for a simple vision of life and righteousness. It is interesting how the Lord teaches and works things but remember that passage in 2 Corinthians 4, “For the things which are seen are temporal,” meaning temporary, short lives, fleeting, passing quickly, “the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are unseen are eternal.” And here is the nature of godly ministry. Do not hold your mouth shut until you blow up at your kid. You do it, we do it, I do it. But let us not do that. Let us not have such little vision that we only engage our children in anger with steam blowing out our ears. Let us have a little bit of vision. Let us recognize that there is an exchange needing to be taking place, that that which God has promised which is unseen has to be brought forward and embraced by faith. We have to hope in the Lord. We have to exchange hoping in the world to hoping in the Lord. And parents we are on duty to be the ones to see it. I want to tell you something and here is what I will close with as a challenge: moms and dads, especially you dads, as you can see your children when they are little in the smallest circumstance of being disquieted over nothingness, that is the occasion of training in godliness. When your child is disquieted in nothingness, it is a time to train them in godliness. How do you do it? You discern through the disquietness that the problem exists. You trace it back to the root of disquietness, that vain thing. And there are 1,000 vain things that we worry about in one day, 1,000 vain things. The marble, the extra pea on his plate, it does not matter. Ten thousand things in a day, but disquietness comes out and there is the point that we bring godly counsel. Do not hold your peace until the cork blows, get a vision. Get a vision for what is taking place and transform the disquiet moment to a place of trust. Take every one and make every one captive to Christ. That is what parenting is all about. You capture a child in those little ways and guess what? When they get older it will not be so difficult. But I warn you, you fail to win that battle when they are little, they are going to get older. And I will tell you what, when they are older, the battle is tougher. It never gets less difficult, it always gets more difficult because the strength of the flesh becomes strong and the false confidence of the flesh becomes boastful and it is your job to separate them through correction. I do not have time to go on but the rest of the passage teaches about correction and how God corrects us by popping the bubble of our vanity and removing from our sense of satisfaction any value or joy in that which is useless. He just disengages our whole sense of our appetite and gives us rather a sense of our need and a sense of our loss. You know, our tongues are meant to speak, they are meant to be instruments of training in the Gospel, training in righteousness. And our tongues are the constant source of sin by our weakness and by the nature of who we are as vain people. We are on a tremendous battleground. You cannot stop sinning with your tongue by ceasing to speak with your tongue. You can only stop sinning with your tongue by learning to speak good, by learning to get a hold of that truth and bring it into the core of the circumstance and bring it right there and get release, get the transfer. “What wait I for? My hope is in Thee.” And that transfer at that moment in a little crisis of disquietness in your home, that is the Gospel of Christ being preached for good in every occasion and that victory is going to be a permanent victory, it is going to be a real victory, a victory that transforms lives and you are going to see your children by the grace of God do exploits that you yourself could never imagine and that you yourself will never do. That is raising up the next generation in love. Let us pray.

Lord we come to You this morning, we marvel Lord at how You do Your work. Lord that You would take the weakest instrument of our whole being, that instrument that is the most frequent cause of sin and You would do Your work there, You would set a camp Lord upon our tongue and cause it to become the instrument of power, the instrument of life, the instrument of preaching the Gospel by which the power of God transforms the lives of those we reach. O Lord cleanse us from the faulty sense of pride and arrogance by which we see ourselves as better than others. Transform us Lord with a vision of service, a vision of doing good, speaking a word at a moment, Lord as apples of gold in settings of silver, that is the way a word is by Your grace that is fitly spoken. Lord give to us gracious lips, lips that can speak the truth in love. Lord, lips that can divide asunder between the vanity of man’s aspirations and the glory of God’s purpose. Help us Lord in the little things. Thank You for our families. We thank You for the long long time we get to raise up our children. Lord grant us that we would learn early and quickly to become aware of our limitations, of our weakness, that we would make the most of every opportunity knowing that the days are evil. We give You praise and thanksgiving, asking Lord that even our fellowship one with another might be seasoned with salt so that we might be exhorted and encouraged to number our days in good service, service for the King and not for vanity. We ask in Christ’s name, amen.

Posted on September 26th, 1999 by Abby  |  No Comments »

Follow Charity – Part 2

1 Corinthians 13. And if I may, we will begin at verse 4 and read to the end of the chapter, 1 Corinthians chapter 13, picking up verse 4 and reading to the end. “Charity suffereth long and is kind. Charity envieth not, charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up. Doth not behave itself unseemly, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in the truth. Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth, but where there be prophecies, they shall fail. Whether there be tongues they shall cease. Whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away for we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child but when I became a man I put away childish things. For now we see through a glass darkly but then face to face. Now I know in part but then I shall know even as I am known. And now abideth faith, hope and charity these three, but the greatest of these is charity.”
This is the second week that we are spending time on this discussion of charity or love in the context of Hebrews 13 and there are some things this morning that stand out to me as points of reference that are worth our consideration. I think the first sentiment that comes to mind this morning as I am thinking about the passage is a statement that Paul made in Colossians, I believe it is somewhere in Colossians 314 and he commands us to put on charity which is the bond of perfectness, “Put on charity which is the bond of perfectness.” That is Colossians 314. And as I thought of that commendation and as I have reflected on this passage, I have a large sense of the inadequacy that I personally feel in terms of walking after these expectations, these commendations. And as I was reflecting on the passage this morning, it struck me, actually the Colossians 314 passage came to me when I was reflecting on the passage because as I was looking at it in the context it appears from the context that if you are walking in love, you are walking perfectly, if you are walking in love you are walking perfectly. I am going to make a generalization right now just to save us all some anxiety, but I believe that it is true that you and I do not walk perfectly, that is in the literal sense of the day in and day out world that we live in, we do not walk perfectly. There are occasions of sin. When we think of charity being the bond of perfection, we actually have something of tremendous substance because we have the capacity to say that if you are truly walking in love at any moment, you are walking perfection, you are walking perfectly. Now obviously we have to walk in love as defined by the Scriptures. But when you and I think about ourselves we probably think something like this, “Now generally speaking I try to love everyone the way God would have me to be.” And we put this large net around us and we generally catch the whole substance of what we try to do and we sense our general desire to walk in love and we think that that is enough. Love is enough. If this message is going to have any benefit to us, we are going to all have to leave here feeling rather heavy with our guilt. If you are not interested in leaving heavy with guilt this morning, you might want to leave now because it is not going to get better, it is going to get worse. I am just telling you now but when we’re finished hopefully the Lord will have met with us and showed us our guilt. Love is the bond of perfectness and it is possible to say that if you are walking in love, you are walking perfectly. Therefore, it is also possible to say, if you are not walking perfectly, you are not walking in love. Think about that for a moment. Put that as a point of reference by which to examine yourself at every point. You know what we tend to do? We tend to just bend down the edges of our guilt a little bit, “I know I am not perfect.” We mar it up a little bit. We have this general sense of goodness, we have this general sense of grandeur and we see a little mar in our personality, a little performance lack and we turn down the corner a little bit, “You know I am not perfect,” and yet the Lord calls us to perfection doesn’t He? In Matthew 5 what does the Lord say at the Sermon on the Mount? “Be ye perfect as Your Heavenly Father is perfect.” That is the call. Last week we mentioned a verse that fits in here quite substantially and that is a verse that Christ was asked, “What is the greatest commandment?” And He answered that the greatest commandment was to love the Lord the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your strength. The second commandment was like it, you are to love your neighbor as yourself. Then He went on to say, “For on these two, hang all of the law and the prophets.” That is a pretty substantial statement. If you take your Bible and you attached a little hook to it, you could hook everything that God ever wanted to give you, you could hook it on the little hook of love, love toward God and love towards my fellow man. It is possible to say that if you are walking in perfect love toward God, you will be walking in perfect love towards your fellow man because James kind of catches us there, doesn’t he? He says, “How can you love God who you do not see if you cannot love your neighbor who you do see?” There is that context, the love of God emits over and there is the love towards our fellow man, there is that sense of relationality one toward another. So you can hang everything on love. What I am finding though, and it is important that I share this for my own self, I am finding that the older I get the more difficult it is to maintain my focus. It is getting very hard for me to maintain my focus in one week. It is amazing what knocks my focus out in the busyness and the activities of life. I need something to keep simplicity in view. This teaching on love is serving to sharpen that focus to the miniscule point. If you are walking in love, you are walking perfectly. And if you are not walking perfectly, you are not walking in love. I dare say that you and I misunderstand love too much because we think of it in too human of terms. We think of love in terms of that which we give and receive; that kind of mutual affection, that sharing of care and that delight of walking one with another in a sweet fellowship around the commonness of our faith, etc. Of course those are some of the beautiful things about love. When we are walking in love we do get to give and take if we are walking in a body of love. But this test here that Paul is bringing to the church, it’s a test of evaluation; it’s a test of point of reference, something is more important than anything else. Frankly, I need to evaluate myself. I need to have a point of reference by which I can ask myself a question, “Am I walking perfectly?”
If I am not walking perfectly, I am not walking in love. And if I am not walking in love, then nothing that I am doing has any value. I skipped those verses this morning, not because I wanted to skip them but because we covered them primarily in last week’s context and I am trying to move on. But nothing is of any value if it lacks love. Are you troubled this morning? Or maybe I shouldn’t ask are you troubled this morning, maybe I should ask you, “What is troubling you this morning? What is it that kind of lays against your soul and has a little burning stirring of concern and perhaps dissatisfaction, perhaps confusion? What is it?” That can be perfectly resolved in the love of God. I am a little bit concerned about where I am going with this topic because there are many sentiments that have boiled up as I have meditated on the passage. I do want to get into the meat of the passage because that’s what we’re studying. But I want to highlight a couple things, a couple key words and one that I have to save because I do not have it written down anywhere is the word “glory.” You and I can never separate the word “love” from glory and at that I’m really referring to who’s glory? Who’s glory? When I am walking perfectly in the love that we’re called to walk in, I am not seeking my own glory and that is apparent, that is clear. When I am walking perfectly in love I am not seeking my own glory. But when I am not walking in love perfectly, I am seeking my own glory. Those are two non-separable facts. It is absolutely one or the other. I am either walking after the glory of God and when I am walking after the glory of God, love breaks out upon me and in me and through me, but if I am walking after the glory of man I don’t have capacity to walk in love because is entirely selfless. Love is entirely selfless; it entirely has a fixed object outside of myself by which every resource I have and possess is focused to serve and bless. It has no room for myself, pride or glory. It is just no room for it at all.
I was doing a little reading in Isaiah and in Jeremiah and I was just astounded, just astounded, by the simple tests that these great prophecies were bearing down upon for the nation of Israel. The simple test that was bearing was this test of glory. What men were seeking was their own glory, they were seeking their own way. In Jeremiah 35 there was a real interesting story and somehow I had never recalled this incident, but it was Jeremiah who said, “Go and get the sons of,” I forget the name of the sons. You can look it up in Jeremiah 35. “Go and get the sons and set wine before them. Bring them into a chamber in the temple and then set wine before them.” And that was all the word of the Lord said and so he went out and he got these guys from the sons of Rechabites. And they all come and they sit down and he puts out these big vats of wine and he says, “Drink.” And then he heard the response of the Rechabites, “Oh no, we cannot drink. We will not drink. We will not drink.” He said, “Why, why will you not drink?” They said, “Our father commanded us, he commanded us to,” and this is what he commanded to and this is an interesting picture of the proper frame of mind of selfless living, he commanded them to not drink wine, he commanded them to own no house, to own no field, to plant no seed, to raise no harvest, to plant no vines and harvest no vintage. But rather he said, “You shall live in tents all the days of your life.” This father had a vision for preserving the motivational heritage of his children. What strikes me as amazing is that this motivational vision that this father had was found at the time that Jerusalem, the final acts of God was dropping to the roots and judgment was on the house of God and God’s people were being deported to Babylon, the final judgment was on them. And here is this family living faithfully before the Lord, hearing the commandments of their father. If you know anything about Scripture you know that such a command as the Rechabites had from their father, that such a command had never been given generally speaking to the Israelites or to God’s people. So this was a command that derivated from the father of the family. It was the father who said, “This is how we are going to walk, this is the path we are going pursue.” So, at that occasion when this testimony stood forth, the Lord said to Jeremiah, “Now is not this a strange thing? Here these children are walking in obedience to the commandment of their father all these generations but my people have failed to listen to My commandments, My people have failed to respond to My commandments.” This whole practical aspect of living after our own glory centers around this illustration that the Lord used concerning the Israelites, concerning the children of Judah. He basically closed the discussion concerning the Rechabites saying that this family is going to be preserved in the coming chaos. They are going to be preserved in righteousness. And that picture of preservation comes out of that preference of God’s glory over man.
There is another word that centers around this issue of love and we are going to get into the text but there are some little background points of reference I think that will make it fuller for our understanding. But another word that stands out to me besides the word “glory” is the word “judgment,” the word “judgment.” And this ties significantly into the exact passage that we are in now. You may be familiar that frequently in the Old Testament, especially in the prophets, there is the reference in the use of the word “judgment.” And basically if we just surmised real loosely from the overall context, it is important to recognize that God’s people love judgment. God’s people are called to love judgment. You say, “Well what is judgment? Are we not told not to judge one another?” And of course if we say that we portray really our own lack of understanding of the Scriptures because this kind of judgment in the context of Scripture has nothing to do with judging one another as a master would judge his servant, but rather it has to do with judging that which I am called to judge within the scope of the authority that I am called to judge. A beautiful thing emerged in my heart as I began to think on this concept of judgment and that is this in order to have proper judgment, you have to have a proper understanding of authority. You cannot have proper understanding of judgment unless you have proper understanding of authority. And you cannot love Biblically, you cannot have perfect love unless you have a proper understanding of authority because authority and judgment go hand in hand. If you’ll turn to Genesis 1819, we are not going to do a whole study on Genesis I promise you, but if you’ll just turn to Genesis 1819 for a second there is a beautiful passage and it is addressing Abraham and it should rip the heart out of us fathers. It should really grip us deep to the core. And it says this, the angel of the Lord is on his way to Sodom and Gomorrah and before going to Sodom and Gomorrah, these three angels speak to themselves and they say, “Should we withhold from Abraham what we are going to do?” And here is the reason why Abraham was included in revelation (Abraham is being given special revelation, special prophetic revelation but there’s a reason for it) and notice the reason, this is the character focus, verse 19, “For I know him,” that is Abraham, “that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do justice and judgment that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which He has spoken of him.” Here is the testimony of Abraham before God. We know that Abraham is the great illustrator of faith. He believed God and it was counted to him for righteousness. So in this context of Abraham’s walk with God, we see this occasion where God said, “I am going to tell Abraham something because he has a kind of character that is useful for completing My purposes. I have some plans and it is going to happen because of Abraham’s devotion.” And basically his devotion is centered on this, “He will command his children after him and the children, they will do justice and judgment.” There is a good place for us to separate the understanding of justice and judgment in a natural context for where you and I live. Justice in this context, the Hebrew word in its most simple sense means to do right. What is the right thing to do at a given moment? The right thing to do at any given moment is that thing which brings God glory and does not promote my own glory, that is the right thing. Doing justice means to do the right thing in the context of my own actions, my own obedience. When the Bible talks about justice, it is usually speaking about personal actions that I am taking that relate to my obedience to God. And then you have this next word right next to it, “and to do judgment.” Well what does that mean? Because the word judgment here is a judicial term, very strong term and it has to do with preparing a declaration or an edict or passing a judgment of some kind. And here we have this picture of Abraham commanding his children after him in such a way that his children would do judgment. You cannot do judgment unless you understand what the seat of your authority sits on. Where are the lines of your authority? When you do judgment you are passing edict out of the authority that God has vested in you. And you cannot do judgment except within the scope of your authority. And this is one of the most beautiful things about the work of God and the purpose of God in our lives and in our heart because God’s people who do judgment, they are responsive with an incredible sensitivity to the authority structure that God has for them and they are going to find God’s blessing in that authority structure, not out from it. When I do justly, I carry out what is right. When I do judgment, I give an edict, I give the verdict, I give a decision concerning a matter that rests within my capacity, a matter that rests within my power. I want you to understand this morning that you cannot have anything to do with love whatsoever, you cannot have anything to do with love if you cannot walk in justice and in judgment. It is impossible because everything that has to do with true love has to do with God’s point of view, God’s purposes, and my role that God has placed me in for carrying out those purposes. And the object of my ministry, the object of my affection happens to be those to whom I fully divest myself of every ounce of resource and energy so that they may attain that which I’m called to serve them to. So love is that divestion of my own assets and resource for the benefit of somebody else within the context of my call, in the context of my authority. So true love has everything to do with recognizing the glory of God and walking judgment. When I give judgment in a matter, it’s God’s glory that I hold to versus man’s, period. That is all it is. It is God’s glory that I hold to instead of man’s. An illustration of doing judgment and justice kind of at the same time can be found in 1 Peter chapter 2. I realize that you are starting to wonder, “Is this really going to be a discussion of love or everything else other than love?” But hold on here, 1 Peter chapter 2. Turn with me there. If you will turn with me towards the end of the chapter, let us read some interesting phrases here, verse 18 chapter 2, “Servants be subject to your masters with all fear, not only to the good and gentle but also to the froward.” Are you listening? Here we have a basic relationship, a superior and an inferior. The inferior is being called to obedience, to putting himself, herself in subjection to the master. And now the context of that is being raised and there is a statement being said that that structure of authority, servant and master, the structure of servant and master authority stands regardless whether the master is good and gentle or whether he is froward. Are you with me? You got it? I want to pause right here for a moment and I want to say something, you know what? We do not know how to walk in love because we do not know how to walk in judgment. We do not know how to walk in justice. We have our glory instead of God’s glory at the focus of our heart. And you know how that can always be proven? It can always be proven and tested that your glory is at your heart in any matter when you are treated unjustly, when injustice is meted out to you. When your circumstance causes you to suffer a loss in the occasion and doing God’s way causes you to suffer loss, that is when you bristle and immediately when you bristle at the point at which injustice is meted out by an authority that’s God-given, you demonstrate your heart. A man of God is going to do justice at that point. He is going to walk in love and he’s going to do justice; he is going to do according to God’s glory and not according to his own glory. That is the nature of spiritual vitality as it relates to love, the glory of God, the judgment of man and the domain that God has given him and the justice of man’s actions in any circumstance that he walks in. It is his absolute nature. Let us read some more, let us go on. Verse 19, “For this is thankworthy if a man for conscience toward God endure grief suffering wrongfully.” This is not a very difficult passage to take apart. It’s pretty obvious what this Scripture says here. “It is thankworthy if a man for conscience towards God endure grief.” It has nothing here at all about the sense of why the grief is caused. It says nothing about the source of grief and that person and their reasonings and their logics for bringing that grief, it has nothing to do, it does not reflect on that whatsoever. It reflects rather on the condition here in my heart where I have an obligation to let my conscience respond to God in the setting that I am in. A person who loves justice, a person who loves judgment, they find themselves in a situation and they ask this question, “Before God, what am I to do? What is the right thing to do?” That’s walking in justice. “What judgment if any am I called to make at this moment?” If I have a judgment to make, it is within the domain. And in one sense of the word and I don’t mean to get carried away with too much play on words, but you cannot do justice which is the action of doing right, you cannot do justice until you have done judgment. Do you understand that? Because when it comes down to it, my conscience before God is the most sacred private domain that is known to the created being. My conscience is the most sacred domain known to the human being, to the created being. My conscience is that which no man can broach, absolutely no man can broach my conscience. There is not a person on the earth, there is not a demon in the pit of hell that can broach my conscience. My conscience is mine and mine before God and God is going to deal with me based on conscience and not based on other factors outside of conscience. So when my conscience is at risk, I am at the place of judgment. You might say, “What kind of judgment?” Well it depends on what other kind of responsibility or authority. In this context the judgment is simply this my conscience toward God to give obedience to an unjust master. If I give obedience to an unjust master, because of my conscience towards God, I have executed justice, I have executed judgment and I am worthy of praise. Not praise before men, you are not likely to even get it in that situation because you are getting the other, not praise before man but praise before God. It’s important that we understand love in this context. There are some fundamental issues that relate to you and I spiritually that are inpenetratable by any spiritual force whatsoever. They are absolutely so sure, they are so fast, they are so fixed in confidence that you and I cannot be rested from it except it be by our own unbelief, except it be by our own self-seeking and our own glory. If we lay a hold of these things in God by conscience for God’s sake, we cannot be taken from it. It is absolutely moving into the camp of the absolutely victorious. You cannot be defeated. Here is this incredible model if for conscience sake towards God I endure grief, it is a thankworthy thing, it is a thankworthy thing. Here is where judgment comes into play. Let us play the tape a little faster, go forward, verse 20, he talks about the obvious fact that if you are being punished by a ruler because you disobeyed, there is no thanks in that even if you bear it patiently. No problem, go on, the end of verse 20, “But if and when you do well and suffer for it, you take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.” I want you to have a little peek this morning of some of the access that we have to God. What things are acceptable to God? What things are well pleasing to God? Have you asked that question about yourself recently? Am I walking in well pleasing to the Lord? You know we are called to that, in Ephesians and Colossians, we are called to walk in well pleasing to the Lord. Am I walking in well pleasing to the Lord? In order to measure that well pleasing, that acceptableness of my behavior, I have to recognize that it is generally expected by God that I’m going to find myself in a situation of authority by which I am going to suffer wrongfully, wrongfully at the hand of my superior. That is the general context of this kind of expectation. And in this context of general abuse of power in the human context, it is at this threshold that God holds up a standard for us and says, “This is the way, walk ye in it.” This is the way of life, this is the way of light. So he brings to bear upon something that for you and I perhaps is dim very frequently in our lives and that is this question Do you care today that God is pleased with you or not? Does it matter to you? When you close your eyes tonight and go to rest, does it matter to you, does it matter to me if God is pleased with me today? If I did that which was acceptable in His eyes, does it matter? Is it of any importance to me? I want to say practically speaking, brothers and sisters, if we do not have this concern that we close our eyes with the acceptance of God on our heart, then no wonder we know nothing of love; no wonder we know nothing of justice, we know nothing of judgment. And we have never yet from the first moment escaped pursuing our own glory. Do you see the connection here, how that in order for me to suffer grief wrongfully I have to surrender my glory? Can you see that? You have to surrender your glory if you are going to suffer grief, endure grief wrongfully. It is not possible. The first words out of my mouth are protest, “But, but you don’t understand.” And we want to clarify and correct and vindicate and alter another’s judgment. We want our glory kept in tact and we are motivated by what people think of us. And if you are motivated by what people think of you at the peer level when they have no authority over you, how much more are you going to be motivated by those who are over you and have somehow authority to advance you? One of the most amazing statements in all of the Old Testament prophecies is this incredible reoccurring theme about judgment lacking in God’s people. Those who have authority using it inappropriately because they lack the capacity for character and for courage to suffer if necessarily to do right. It is an incredible recurring theme. Now here is an interesting thing. I am going to make you think for a second. In terms of restoration, what is redemption all about but restoration? God is redeeming to Himself a people who are being brought back into a close intimacy with God, who are being brought back into the family. He loves us, He is making things right in our life. Without Christ, one of the chief character qualities that we have in sin is that we don’t do judgment and justice because we do our own thing and we seek our own glory. So we are chronically exposed to serving our own interest. So as God calls us back and as redemption begins to work in us, what does he begin to do but train us to a new kind of mental attitude, that of seeking God’s glory and not my own; that of pursuing justice in His eyes and not fairness in my eyes and where I execute judgment in the capacity that I am called to execute judgment. And here’s an interesting principle if you were president tomorrow by some incredible stroke of miraculous effort by God, if you were president tomorrow I have a question for you, could you do judgment in the White House yourself? Could you walk in justice in the White House yourself? Is that possible for you to do that? Well I am not going to, I have given many hours to my own thinking of wouldn’t it be wonderful if someday. Ever since seventh grade I have dreamed about being president. The remarkable thing that you need to understand here is this if you cannot execute judgment in that littlest realm of authority that you have, do not kid yourself, you will never be able to institute judgment when you have greater authority and greater affects. Because judgment springs from the glory of God or it springs from the glory of man. And if you cannot but seek your own glory in the smallest cause, whose cause are you going to seek when it is the greatest? Do you see why it is such an incredible, such an amazing decadence in the land that we live in that people cannot walk in judgment because they are seeking their own interests? We are so frustrated. We are to the point of fury when it comes to our view of politics, at least those of you that I talk to about it. We are so sick and tired of the “wag,” about this time it starts wagging, everybody is quoting the Bible now. All the political parties and everybody is looking holy and righteous and good and then as soon as they are in office, they take off their mask and there they are the scorpions they said they were not when they were masquerading as angels of light. There it is again and again and again and we are frustrated with it. All I want to say is, while the frustration is real and the disappointment is high, who are you and I to complain if you and I cannot walk in judgment ourselves, if we cannot hold dear the reality that God’s ways are perfect?
As we go a little deeper, verse 21 tells us this picture of pattern, “For even hereunto were ye called because Christ also suffered for us leaving us an example that you should follow in His steps.” “For even hereunto were ye called because Christ also suffered for us leaving us an example that ye should follow in His steps.” That is a little practical gem if you need to stick something in your pocket for a cheat sheet when you need help. Notice the couple points here. First of all it is a calling. If you are a believer and you are called, the Scripture speaks frequently of us, we are the elect, the called out ones. We are the called, we are the chosen, we are that special group of God’s people. And in that calling, “Hello, come to me,” in that calling, He has called us to suffering injustice. When you sign up to be a Christian, you are signing up on the injustice campaign. It might be a more pure Gospel if we stood up in front and said, “Listen, any one of you who are willing to be smeared in the name, ruined in the fame, every effort of good is turned into evil, sign up today, this is it, this is the place to sign up,” because that is what it means to be a Christian. You are called, you are signed up under this banner of injustice, that is, where you get to be the one who suffers injustice. But not only are you called to injustice, you are called to follow Christ’s example in injustice. So it is not just any old model, there is a very clear model.
Let us look at the example of Christ, “So that you should follow in His steps.” I do not like it when we list a whole bunch of steps, there are 12 steps to this and there are 4 steps to that and there are 15 steps to this. I am cautious about those steps because I lose my way after the first two. I forget which step I am on and where I am going. But here are some steps that the Scripture points out that are worthy of taking note of, verse 22, “Who did no sin, neither was guile found in His mouth.” Hold on to this one because when we get back to Corinthians it is going to be important to understand it. “Who did no sin and neither was guile found in His mouth.” First step, when you suffer injustice, hold your peace. When you are suffering injustice hold your peace. What is the first thing that we are inclined to do? Here is the rule of firsts the first thing that Scripture warns us about is probably the first thing we are disinclined to do. And when we suffer injustice, the first that we are inclined to do is speak. We are going to speak somewhere. We are going to speak to our authority or we are going to speak to our sibling or we are going to speak to someone else but we are going to let it out, “This terrible injustice I have suffered,” we are going to speak, we are going to let it be heard. First step, “Who did no sin neither was guile found in His mouth.” Verse 23, “Who when He was reviled, reviled not again. When He suffered, He threatened not.” There are three things Jesus did not do. There was no guile, there was no reviling and there was no threats. Do you realize that all three first steps, the first three steps are to avoid opening our mouths? It is a three-fold issue. Obviously this is a tough one, isn’t it? We are naturally going to be inclined to fall into one of those three. Speaking with guile, what is guile? Guile is basically deceit; the deceit to either get myself out from under the winch and pass it on to someone else or like Peter, he denied the Lord to get out from under it. He spoke with guile, “It was not me, it was not me.” We speak (tape turned here)…we speak reviling, “Who do you think you are? You’re nobody.” And our tongue just cuts loose with this sense of injustice. And the third one is threats, “You wait until my father gets a hold of you, you are going to be sorry then.” All those things Jesus could have said and He could have said in a sense with a correctness to it, except for guile there is no correctness in guile in that sense, but there was this rather issue that was going on. Let’s look at the rather issue, the big “but,” at the end of verse 23, “But He committed Himself to Him that judgeth righteously.” He committed Himself to Him that judgeth rightly. When your conscience is at stake and you want to do judgment, the only judgment that you can dictate at this point is a committal, a committal of yourself to Him who judges rightly. In other words, here is the wrong. I can either protest the wrong and seek to have it corrected by some means or other by my mouth, the worst instrument, tri-fold issue, I can attempt to resist or I can simply commit my case to God, to Him who judges rightly, who judges righteously. In this particular case we need to really understand just how severe this is. Christ was without sin, He did no sin. There cannot even be an indirect link that He deserved judgment or wrath or injustice. There is no link at all. He is perfect. But in that perfect state of Christ’s character, He still was treated without justice when men laid a hold of judgment. And you remember the account in John when Pilate was speaking to Jesus and Jesus was silent, He opened not His mouth. He was just totally silent to all the charges. And Pilate got a little aggravated and he said, “Do you not know who I am? Do you not know that I have the power to release you and the power to crucify you?” And what was Jesus’ response? It was the response of someone’s heart that is perfectly committed to God that judges rightly. He simply said, “Sir, you have no authority except that it came from God. Therefore, he that turned Me over to you committed the greater sin.” He realized sin was taking place, He realized sin was going on. But He wasn’t trying the ropes of authority to get His way. He was rather walking in absolute judgment knowing that God always has His way. And there is the secret of walking in judgment my confidence that God wins every time. God never loses. And Jesus is our example. He committed Himself to Him who judges rightly. What happened is is this incredible love of God manifest through the injustice of the crucifixion of Christ, who in His own self bear our sins in His own body on the tree, that we being dead to sins should live unto righteousness by whose stripes we were healed. Now all the sudden, we are beginning to see the bigger picture and the bigger model. The reign of authority, the rule on earth is not a rule that is merely measured by perfect justice as I receive it, but it is measured by perfect justice as God is granting it. And God, who is just, God who always does what is right (that is what justice means, doing what is right) God who is just, when He passes judgment, He’s doing judgment righteously. So if God permits injustice toward me, He is doing it righteously for a greater judgment with the authority that He has the right to bear out. God has the right authority to carry through. So in that context, God wins the greater goal when I surrender the lesser cause. The lesser cause is my justice in that minute. And if I will surrender my glory which is my cause and suffer loss, I win God’s greater glory and His greater call. That is where it gets advanced. Here is the most amazing thing you may be the source of salvation to your enemy. Can you believe that? You may be the source of salvation, how unjust can that be? This guy bears on me with the most incredulous unkindness and I respond and what does God do? He gives that guy regeneration! How unfair. Boy, your glory is really sticking out all over you. Here is the Son of God who is perfect without sin at all, deserving of nothing and He takes the whole judgment of God for every man. This issue gets us back to understanding love. You might say this does not sound very loving. I realize because you and I are not accustomed to walking in love because to walk in love means to walk in judgment. To walk in love means to walk in justice. To walk in love means to walk with God’s glory as the preeminent focus so that my conscience isn’t going to budge for God’s glory no matter what it costs me here, no matter the cost; absolutely, firm, resistant to the end. And that’s who we’re called to be. Do you and I succeed at this? I don’t think so. I don’t think we succeed as a continuum without breech or brokenness. But I do think that there needs to be growth. I do think there needs to be an increase of process. The ten times you flare up today, if you resolve it with confession and repentance tonight, by God’s grace might only be 9 1/2 times tomorrow and thus you are beginning to taste victory; thus you are beginning to taste life. But you are also sowing. That is the incredible thing. When you reap injustice, you are sowing seeds of justice and you are sowing seeds of judgment. There is that which brings to bear forcibly on the conscience of that person. Of course we have that wonderful account of Pilate. After the remarks of Jesus to Pilate, what did he do? He was determined more than ever to let Him go because He sensed the awesomeness of justice and judgment. He was left with that burden all on his lap. He did not have some quiveling, sniveling jailbird trying to find some way to get himself out of the fix, but rather he saw a guy whose jaw was set to go to the cross and He was not going to back out. And if it was the injustice of the person over Him that took His lift, so be it, “Let my life be taken, to God be the glory.” That is why Paul said in Acts as he bore that same vintage of Christ, he said, “I do not refuse to die.” There is that ego in that refusal to die. In Revelation the Scripture says of those who are the Lord’s, Revelation 14, “They loved not their life to the death, they loved not their life to the death.” Every aspect of walking in love and walking in judgment, walking toward the glory of God, walking in justice, every aspect of that has to do with dying to myself today and living rather for God tomorrow. That is it, that is it in a nutshell. Complete and thorough and there is no exception. Now here is the hard part brothers and sisters, I understand how much it can hurt, I have been there and I do not know if it is the first week or hopefully it is not that bad anymore but the first round of immediate responses are not necessarily holy. We are not necessarily willing to accept. There are often ways of “Can I avoid this, can I get out of this, what can I do to escape?” Until it slowly settles in on me and I realize well, “Wait a minute, what if God wants me to die? What if God desires me to go through this? What if it is His purpose?” And may we have that spirit of that Queen Esther of old when justice required her to walk in judgment and boldly come before the king, risking her own death. But when she knew what justice was, she took up her love, she took up her place of authority and she did what she and only she could do. And that is the case perhaps that is what the Lord has called you to “for such a time as this.” And as she walked into the king, we know the phrase, we love it’s resounding echo in our ears, “If I die, I die.”
Let us go back to 1 Corinthians 13 and let us take perhaps a few minutes of evaluation of this concept of love out of this context that I have shared this morning. 1 Corinthians 13, we finished last week through verse 7 and 8 in a preliminary overview and I said that this week we were going to focus on verse 8. You know if the first three words of chapter 8 were missing from 1 Corinthians 13, we would not have a clue of what real love is all about. We would not have a clue. But here is the clincher, here is the absolute resounding point of confidence by which none can waiver and vary from if they walk after God, “Charity never faileth, charity never faileth.” Did you ever think of that connection before? “Charity never faileth.” You and I in the flesh we always fail. Our own constant tendency is towards failure, but love never fails. I am not going to do a big Greek study here but let me just tell you a little bit about the word that is used here the word “never.” It is the most powerful form of “never” known. There is no word like this in the English language. In order to properly redound it in the English language “never without exception,” there is not the slightest possibility that something is going to be accepted because it’s never, absolutely, unable to fail. And so let us pause for a minute. This is why I said we had to do some evaluation, this is why I said we had to some self examination, because you and I fail, you and I fail regularly. And I just want to tell you, if you are failing it is not love’s fault. And let your failure be evidence against you for your need for repentance, for your need for confession of sin, for your need of correcting your attitude because love never fails. It absolutely never fails and when you fail, you fail to walk in love. You are in sin and you have a place of duty by which you need to repent. Love never fails, it absolutely never fails.
In order to understand this in the context, let us back up again to verse 7, this is a little bit we talked on last week and I will not go on to it too long I hope, but it says, “Love,” or charity, “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” If you notice there, there is a common sequence and there are four things that are mentioned of love here and every one of those four things is connected to a word that means all things, all things. First I want us to understand one thing. This “all things” is taken in the context of judgment that we spoke of and this judgment that we spoke of was the message last week, verse 6, “Love rejoices in the truth and rejoices not in iniquity,” that is judgment. “Rejoices in the truth and does not rejoice in iniquity,” that is judgment. I am absolutely fixed by the truth and what is right. In that absolute sure, unbending, unwavering reality of what judgment is, at that point I am ready to walk in love and in that capacity I am going to bear all things. Now obviously the “all things” have to do with all things that I have to bear in order for me to love the truth, in order for my conscience to answer itself to God in the place that He has called me to serve Him. In other words, the significant picture of love failing not, has to do with an understanding that when your motive is right and your conscience towards God is in place and you are operating by love, you will not fail. There is no amount of injustice that could be heaped on you that will cause you to snap. Now one of the mistakes that you and I make is that we endure a five minute round of injustice and then we start reaching back to pat ourselves on the back, feeling like little heroes and then we get another round and then we are like surprised, “Wait a minute, that last round showed I was a hero, now how come I am not getting the hero’s parade? Instead I am getting more sluff.” The question is, how many rounds does it take? How long does it take to break you? Here is the hard judgment, and I am not judging you, the Scripture is giving us means by which we can judge ourselves if you break on round ten, you did not have love in round one. If you break in round ten, you did not have love in round one because love bears all things no matter how steep the injustice, no matter how horrendous the difficulty, love bears it all. Here is the difference, with love, my focus is on God who judges rightly, Him whom my conscience must answer to with righteousness and in that response to God who judges rightly, I rest my case. I say, “I do not know what God is going to do, but He is going to do something.” So I have completely extracted from the point of contention. If I am completely extracted from the point of contention, I have nothing on the table that I can lose. There is nothing that I can lose because I have already given it away. It is not mine to begin with, I am not seeking my glory but God’s. So at the point of contention, I just with this almost miraculous ease, just keep on winning, I just keep on smiling, I just keep on loving, I just keep on serving. And the amazing thing is is the tongue of the just. The tongue of the just as we illustrated with Christ. When somebody’s pressing and they even want to be on our side and they’re stuck because of the authority they are in and they are trying to get help and you just speak the truth. “You have no authority except it comes from God, therefore he that gave me to you has the greater sin.” The tongue of the just speaks like a knife, it opens up that truth so simply and so plainly and it lays bear the hearts of men that need laying bear. That comes by the Holy Spirit’s prompting right in the middle of the fire, not by something you planned up hours and hours ago and you just cannot wait to get in that room and tell them what you’re going to tell them. That just comes from the Holy Spirit, fire, fire away. Love bears all things. See this never failing aspect of love? It can bear. This word “bear” by the way is the same word that we saw there in Peter. It means to bear with silence. It has more to do with recognizing that your mouth is shut than that you are going through the fire; that you know how to close your mouth. You just hold your peace. You either make your protest to men or you make your protest to God. And if you protest to men, out come the three things. But if you are making your protest to God, then you are recognizing who God is and you are knowing, “Oh, God may have something for me in this greater than I can see. So be it Lord. Blessed be the name of the Lord.” Verse 7, second part, “Believes all things.” Obviously it does not mean that you believe everything that anybody ever says in the whole universe because that is nievity. That is nothing to do with what we are talking about here. It has to do with the absolute reality that you believe all things. That word “all” in every context, in every obstacle, in every point of suffering I believe. I believe in God who put me here. I believe in His divinely ordained structure of authority, I rest in it, I walk in it and I’ll die in it but I am going to believe God no matter what the price. It is a continuum. It is unbreechable. It believes all things. It hopes all things. Always hope, always having hope. It is the most amazing thing, a person who has given up every hope of their own glory has every hope of heaven to hold them sure and steadfast. Is not that amazing? You give up every hope of your own and all that you have left is the hope of the glory of God. That hope is sufficient to carry you fully, ultimately and completely through. I just want to warn you though, you cannot give up your hope abstractly. You only can give up your hope as the vision of the hope of the glory of God is given to you in a genuine way. Remember that story of the kingdom of Heaven is like a treasure hid in the field? Which guy sold everything that had the field? The guy that had his vision clarified so that he saw the treasure and he realized the value and then he was not a problem, he could divest everything that was of less. That New Testament example of divestment, Paul, the Philippians, “Those things that are behind me, I count them but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Jesus Christ.” He called all that a cruel of earthly claim, a wheelbarrow of manure. It was completely worthless without any value, used matter compared to the excellency of the glory of God. See this vision of hope, hopes all things? Just continues. The point of it is, if you have a high enough hope, nothing matters. I can illustrate this for the children a little bit. You just speak to your dad and he says to you, “In ten minutes if you have your room clean, I am going to take you to get ice cream in town.” “But when you tell your brother, I do not want you to tell him about the ice cream, I just want you to tell him that daddy said to get your room clean.” So in walks brother and he says to little brother, “Dad says if we get our room cleaned, we will be glad we did.” The other guy is in the middle of his little model and he is deeply engrossed in it and he has just got one more little wing to attach, it is only going to take him about seven minutes and he can clean it and fix it and then he will get his room. And he is fixed on this present glory, this present context, this present moment, and he fails to yield to the words of instruction from his father through his brother. But the brother is strangely, amazingly busy about cleaning the room. The covers are flying, the pillows are moving around, toys are lifting themselves off the ground as if by magic. Everything is moving and this other brother kind of looks and he says, “He really believes that it will be good if he gets his room clean.” That is the way of hope. When I have hope, I have something fixed, something sure, something that is not going to fail and it is shed in my heart, it is pointed and I have confidence. And I alter my behavior instead. I put my primary resources in that which is of God and I take care of my necessary things with a secondary emphasis, secondary resources. What is the surprise on the face of the boy doing his model when his seven minutes slip to thirteen, but at ten minutes dad walks in the room and he says in justice and in judgment, “Oh son, thank you for cleaning your room like I asked. Come with me to the joy of the ice cream parlor.” And your brother here, he is relegated to gnashing his teeth. He is going to clean the rest of the house the rest of the day. What an incredible transitional adjustment. The hour of judgment arrives and justice is meted out based upon the promise of God and that is our hope. Now I am at Peter again, I do not know what happened to Corinthians. “Love beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things and endureth all things.” The difference between bearing all things and enduring all things has to do with the point of focus. When I am bearing all things, I am keeping my tongue under control. I am not using the power of my language skills to bring diatribes(?) and threats upon those that I am under the lease. But those that endure all things, they just stay there. They just stay there. “Another round tomorrow, I will stay there.” Here is the question, “How long? How long? How long do I have to stay here?” This is where it is really tough for you and I as people and here is why it is tough I look over my shoulder and I see my brother and I do not see them having the same trial that I am having. I do not see them suffering the same loss that I am suffering. And in fact, the very area that I am struggling with, they are reaping a harvest. They are reaping a harvest. And the temptation is to ask, “Why? Why should I any longer continue? I am never going to get relief, I am never going to be satisfied.” That is a test to prove that you never were loving God in the first place. You never were walking in judgment in the first place. Because if you, let us just take real easy example, I am going to catch a lot of people’s attention with this anyway. A lot of people here that are waiting on God’s chosen spouse for their life and to some degree or another there is anxiety, intrepidation and worry and in that anxiety the question is asked, “How long? How long O Lord do I have to wait?” And we look around and brother A, wow, kazoomee wham powee, gets married at 20, 21, 22, some young age and here I am at 17, “I do not see anybody on the horizon yet,” and I start getting anxious and disappointed and discouraged. And all the sudden, lacking love I lose my forbearance. I lose my endurance and I begin little tricks of the world to win a husband because I am in fear because I am in fretfulness and I am not enduring. When the trial goes too long, I quit. I pull out my hat trick, I get my way and I get what I wanted. I call it love, God calls it a lie. I call it love and God calls it a lie. “You are not seeking My interests,” says the Lord, “You are seeking your own interests, you are seeking your own end. Therefore, you get your own end.”
How many of those marriages of those people who were seeking their own love, live in continual bitterness and disappointment because they never gave it over to God. Furthermore let me ask this question, what if you wait ten years, thirty years, you know I told you this story about this lady I met at Roxbury several years ago. I came before conference several days to do some studying and this couple was there kind of managing the camp, an elderly couple. In the chit chat of the opportunity I discovered that they were on their honeymoon. This dear lady was 65 years old and she had never been married. She had been a missionary overseas and serving the Lord years and years and years. Then in the fullness of time, according to God’s plan, according to God’s purpose, according to that which gives glory to God, she was married. She was as bright and cheery as any bride I have ever seen and she was full. But you know what she did? She paid a long price of faithfulness over the years. And I could tell by just the outside observation that she was quite happy and there was personal reaping of joy and peace in the marriage that she had yet to know before. See God is at work. You want to get married? That is nice, I am glad you want to get married. By the way, I am not just picking on marriage persay, but it is just an easy topic. I can get more people interested in what I am saying. That is all it is, cheating. You really want it, it is really important to you. You are all stirred up. Great. Great. Have you ever asked the question, what if God does not want you to get married ever? Are you willing to accept that? “Well if He will tell me today it is going to be never I will but I hate this waiting, this unanswered question day in and day out where I always have to go through the whole process of dying to my desires again and again.” And all I can say is, to this you were called my beloved that you should share in the sufferings of Christ, that you set aside your interests, that you set aside your ambitions, your wants and you say with justice and judgment, “Lord, I am not my own. I am bought with a price. By Your grace Lord I will glorify you in my body and not me.” There is that transfer, love endures all things. Again and again and again, love endures. I just have this little observation, this is my own observation and I am sure it has got examples where it is not true, but since love endures all things and God is at work bringing you and I to perfect love and marriage generally speaking does not have perfect love in it, I have a suggestion, perhaps God is going to train us in perfect love whether we are in marriage or out of it, whether it was before marriage or during marriage. And what do you need to be trained in perfect love? You need suffering. You need disappointment of your dreams and your hopes, your desires. God disappoints us at different places but we all get disappointed. We all get disappointed in our human perspective and our human desires and the only disappointment that you never have is when you have laid aside your appointments, you have none by which you can be dis-appointed for and if you have no expectations, you will suffer no loss. If you have abandoned yourself and if you have said readily, “I am not my own, I am not my own.” And I do not mean just say it but believe it, but live it, but walk in it. Love endures all things. The Lord is building people who have strength of conviction and character and purpose, who have exchanged an earthly venue for a heavenly calling and that is their dream, that is their zeal, that is their hope. And we are unwavering in that. Now do you understand the sentiment in verse 8, “Charity never fails.” “Charity never fails” is like the capstone to the expression of those four continuing aspects of love, bearing all things, believing all things, hoping all things, enduring all things. When you add love to that, love is like the overshadowing, conglomerate definition of those four. Love is the modus operendus; it is the means by which I walk and live in my life. That is the way it is. When he goes on here in the discussion, he turns a corner and he spends from verse 8 to verse 13 talking about things that fail, talking about things that fail. The things that fail happen to be the things that are causing divisions in the Corinthian church. The things that fail happen to be the things that are causing the Corinthians to be divided into little cliques and groups of spiritual prowess and exceeding maturity one above the other. The very things that are the purpose of God to minister to us in a temporary fashion, those very things are becoming isolated out as the main stay, as the primary focus, as the significant point of reference. So we have division in the church and a corruption of spiritual gifts, and though they speak with a tongue of men and angels and they have not love and they are nothing more than sounding brass and tinkling cymbal. If you can just get the distinction. I do not know about you but I understand this, I understand the pull of that, that incredible pull to be important by what I am, by what I do, by how I function. And it is so easy to be identified, “I am of Paul.” Identity is so straining to be recognized among men. And Paul is just completely dissembling the whole thing. Basically it comes down to this one thing, if you have love in the Heavenly administration of it, you have it all. You have perfection and whatever God puts in your hand to do or use, you are going to be able to use it to the objective of love. You are going to be able to build up, edify, strengthen, stand fast, encouraged. You are going to be useful because your objective is not going to be you but the one God has called you to serve. I love the phrase from Paul in 2 Corinthians, “I seek not yours but you.” Our classic statement, “I seek not yours but you.” When I am walking in love I seek you. When I am walking after my own glory, I am seeking yours. If I need your affection to be important, I am seeking your affection. I want something out of you. I have got an agenda. I have got an expectation. If I, then you – that is how we function. But perfect love simply says, “I seek not yours. I seek you.” That is the call.

If you will slip down to verse 13, Paul says, “And now abides hope, faith and charity, these three, but the greatest of these is love.” I want to point out something in closing here. Because if I miss this one point I feel like I have failed. We have absolute complete confidence that if we walk in love, we have absolute assurance. There is no contest of ever failing, we will reach our objective without escape. There is no penetration to the confidence that we have if we walk in love. It is absolutely the surest thing that we have to live by as believers. Let us just back up a second and look at a few of the words that have been used around love as we close. Chapter 12, verse 31, “Covet earnestly the best gifts, yet I show unto you a more excellent way.” The best gifts, love the more excellent way.
If we look at verse 10, “When that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.” I want you to think about this issue of perfectness. First of all I do not believe that you and I can walk in perfectness permanently without fail day in and day out. I think it is a process of growth and increase and abounding and growth. That is all that we have. That is the process. One day we will walk in perfectness without fail. But right now we are learning to walk in perfectness. It is a different kind of scenario. Here it has this contrast, “When that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.” I want you to just think about this for a moment in the contrast. Love is the bond of perfectness, love is the bond of perfectness. Its objective is so pure and so holy and so precise to God’s objective and when we get to Heaven, that which remains is that which is perfect. Do you get it? Do you get the picture? That which remains is that which is perfect. Concerning these gifts, the incredible statement that Paul is trying to make is this, no matter how wonderful the gifts are, no matter how needful they are and no matter who has what and we are going to need to operate by the gifts, but no matter what you need to recognize something, these gifts are just temporary manifestations. They are partial expressions. By their very nature they are incomplete and imperfect and their very characteristic is that which fails. How many believers, we get so caught up in a love of iniquity, we get so caught up by what we do, “I cast out a demon today, you should pat me on the back. There should be a little plaque on the board up here. How many demons did you cast out this week?” And we get all excited about the wrong kind of thing. But this is a temporary thing. When we get to Heaven, all of these temporary things are going to be completed, they are going to be finished. Their purpose and their course is going to be over, it is going to have run. But that which is perfect is going to stay, it is going to remain. I do not believe we are going to have perfection. I do not believe we are going to have perfect love until we are in Heaven perfectly because the Scripture talks about that. There will be no more tears. Tears reflect the sorrow of man without that perfect stage. ‘But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.” Now skip down to verse 13. “Now abides faith, hope and charity these three, but the greatest of these is charity.” Talk about transcendence. Love is the only transcendent gift and or quality of the Holy Spirit that we experience here that makes its place up in Heaven, that finds its way to Heaven. It is the only one. Faith, the Scripture teaches us about faith and hope. Paul says in Romans 8, “You are saved by hope. Now hope that is seen is not hope because if you see it, why do you yet hope for it?” Perfect logic. And what is faith? Faith is the substance of things hoped for; it is the essence of things not seen. So faith and hope are completely connected one to another and love exceeds them. Why? Because when I get to Heaven I will have no more faith. Did you realize that? When you go to Heaven you are going to lose your faith. You are also going to lose your hope because you will have realized your hope and have nothing more to believe in and nothing more to hope for, you have got it all. But when you get to Heaven you will never stop loving. You will know love more perfectly than you have even known before. You will see more perfectly and today, these heavy sorrows that we bear under, that we endure day after day, week after week, year after year, these things that we lay and languish under faithfully, when we reach that glorious place, love is going to be the lens that we understand all the work of God and all of God’s work is going to praise Him. We are just going to bellow out incredible shouts of glory and joy as we see the magnificence and the perfectness of God’s ways towards us on the earth. No wonder the Scripture says that all of our tears will be wiped away. We are going to see with a different kind of seeing. And we are going to be full, we are going to be filled. Bless God. That is what is ahead and that is what we live by today and today we have to be trained in love by learning how to surrender our treasures, to give up our glory and to pass through the fire by endurance and forbearance by faith and by hope. Notice that those four things of verse 7, they are inseparable in unison together. Bear all things, keep your mouth, hold your peace. Faith and hope, the object of promise, the obedience of belief. And then endurance. Why? Because I have to keep remembering the hope and I have to keep renewing my faith every step and so I need endurance to take one more step. Hold my peace, take one more step. Hold one more step, remember the promise, live by faith, take one more step, I endure. That is all the present tense structure of love. Love gives me that capacity. The love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost. “Herein is love, not that we love God but that He loves us and gave Himself to be a propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but for the sins of the whole world.” When you leave today, you are probably not going to walk out in a perfectness of love. But I would like to challenge you, would you please begin examining yourselves on a routine basis according to the simple and pure standard, “Are you walking in love?” And measure that love and trace it back. And here is a suggestion, plainly, visibly here, here is a sin, a failure, a shortcoming. Now at that place of shortcoming, you can automatically assess an evaluation, “I failed to love. I failed to have God’s glory at heart, I had my glory at heart, therefore I probably did not hold my peace. Lord how did I open my mouth in this situation? How did my mouth betray my heart?” And just begin evaluating yourself with the evidence that you were not walking in love. Take the circumstance and evaluate and repent and make it right. Go back. Go back to the person you spoke wrongly and say, “Will you forgive me? I dishonored my God by opening my mouth in criticism of you. Would you forgive me?” Correct it, fix it, get it right, get back into the habit. If you have to say, “I am sorry,” as many times as Peter said, if you have to 490 times ask apologies a day, do it. But let us become serious about walking in love because we tend to walk not in judgment towards the place in our own authority, we tend to walk in judgment towards one another. And that judgment towards one another, you know how we execute judgment? We cut people off. We stiff on them, we cut them out of our heart. We remove them from our affections and they are pushed away.

Let us pray.

Lord I thank You that there is such a confidence that we have that is so fixed and sure whereby we can know that if we are truly walking in love, we will be walking in perfection. Lord we confess just how truly and how great our sin and our error is. Lord how easy it is for us to measure every circumstance in our lives by a law of fairness to our own interests, a fairness to our own present considerations. And Lord how shamefully we take matters in our hand again and again attempting to right the wrong that injustice done towards us and forgetting Lord that You are God, You are on the throne and all those in authority over us are there by your judgment. And that we can trust our case because You judge rightly. And even as Your own Son who was perfectly sinless in every manner, yet You laid upon Him in Your justice, the sin of the whole world. And by that justice Lord You brought forth mercy. (Tape ends here.)

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Follow Charity – Part 2

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Love, A More Excellent Way: not misusing our spiritual gifts

Lord we come now in the name of Jesus and we thank You for Your Word. We thank You for Your Holy Spirit which is that deposit, that earnest of our inheritance given to us, residing within us and able to do Your work. Lord we ask for a cleansing of our own heart and motive, forgiveness of our sin, that the blood of Christ would be upon us and that Your interest and Your purpose Lord that would be dear to our hearts and that we might fellowship today in Your Word, that it would bless us and teach us and that we might not only know the fellowship of the saints Lord but feel Your presence as well. We ask for help in this hour in Jesus’ name amen.

1 Corinthians 13. This is a difficult chapter to teach because we’re all familiar with it. As soon as you start reading some of the verses, you start thinking of weddings and you start glazing over in your eyes and losing focus of what’s the consideration. Perhaps we’ve yet to adequately absorb the instruction. I think one of the common responses I have when I read 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter, one of my common responses is my own revelation of my own realization of my sense of inadequacy and I get uncomfortable with the passage and kind of skip from word to word and hope I can improve and kind of go on. It’s easy to sense a pretty high standard here. Quick context though, this chapter on love is in the middle of a discussion of the church and how the church functions adequately as a church and how there’s a real danger in the church to divide up among ourselves and separate based upon things that aren’t worthy of separation. So Paul has been teaching about that need for unity and then all the sudden he come upon questions they have asked and he’s needing to speak about the nature of diversity in the church. And the diversity of the church centers around the differences that people possess, not only the different gifts that the Holy Spirit gives them but how they are manifested differently from person to person and situation to situation. And yet in all this context he’s striving for this bigger consideration of unity in the process of acknowledging this diversity. So chapter 13 begins with the last verse of chapter 12 which reads, “But covet earnestly the best gifts and yet I show unto you a more excellent way.” If I can end for a moment, let me skip over to chapter 14 and read verse 1, “Follow after charity and desire spiritual gifts but rather that you may prophesy.” So we really see that chapter 13 is literally sandwiched in between a very direct discussion of spiritual gifts. So if we’re going to get the greatest benefit from this understanding, then we need to recognize that this discussion on love is not about marriage and things relating to marriage, though we can certainly glean from that usefulness for our marriage and for our children. But it’s primarily an instruction to the body on a way that we function. So we have to ask the question as we begin. “I show unto you a more excellent way,” we’re striving for excellence. And the standard of excellence is shifting suddenly away from the gifts but how the gifts are used. I want to ask a practical question. It’s Sunday morning, we haven’t been here for several weeks, everybody’s not here yet, it’s heavy air pressure outside, all the sudden we’re talking about a passage of Scripture we’ve been studying in the distant past and here we are so what? I just want to ask a question, what do you think the problem is that we have as people that brings us to this necessity of describing excellence in terms of love and setting that up as a clear standard? What do you think is the core stress that relates (this is kind of like a practical question back in your own heart and your own home where you live) why do you think it’s necessary to raise this issue? What is our tendency? I guess that’s the question I’m asking. If you don’t answer me I’m not going to speak anymore. I’m just kidding. I’m trying some means to draw some life out of this group. If it’s selfishness, yes, but can you describe that selfishness a little bit more elaborately or illustrate it with some practicality? Yeah it’s selfishness. (I really can’t.) Let me explain it for you then and if I’m wrong you tell me. I’m speaking for you so you can correct me if it’s not what you meant. And I’ll just tell you if you were wrong. Selfishness is exactly the problem that we have as people. One of the problems that we have when somebody brings correction to us, we tend to imagine that correction as so out of the ordinary, so unusual, so above and beyond what’s appropriate. And it’s very difficult often for us to receive correction because we tend to camp out in a sense that, “Hey, I’m doing pretty good and I’m trying hard.” And of course we really underline the phrase, “I’m trying hard.” So when some criticism comes against us, there’s an offense because we say, “Well you don’t see how hard I’m trying and you’re just making this cut and dry statement criticizing me and…” So we tend to operate out of selfishness and selfishness means self-interest. Someone was telling me yesterday, I won’t say who, but somebody was telling me yesterday that when I talk to them they kind of wonder if I’m there or not and I’m kind of distant and far away and they’re not sure whether they’re speaking to me or just to this shell of a person that is somewhere else and the body is greeting them but the eyes and the heart aren’t there. That’s often the nature of selfishness. We’re on a mission. We have an agenda. We have an interest. And when it comes to spiritual gifts we have a problem and that’s self identity. As people we naturally try to strive and struggle for a sense of self identity. Who am I and what am I? That sense of self identity is very importatn when you find yourself where? In a group. Here we are in a group and what’s my identity? The natural nature of man is that I don’t want to be obscure, I don’t want to be a nothing. We often can be hurt in a group like this if there’s not some extension of consideration or friendliness, just a friendly hello. I remember when I was teaching high school, these teenagers were hard for me to deal with because I liked people looking me in the eye and saying “Hi, how are you?” That just means a lot to me. Here I am a teacher in the school and I walk down the hallway and I feel like I’m invisible. Nobody says hello. That natural sense of identity we like to be connected and feel like we’re a part. That’s natural. So when you’re in the body of Christ and when you’re struggling with this issue of self, how does self connect to the divisions that the Corinthians were having? What was the one thing that these divisions were doing for the Corinthians and of course sinfully working against Corinthians? But what was happening? Open in chapter 1, what did Paul say? “I am of,” and identity, it was an immediate sense of identity and the importance of relationship to the group was identity. Now believe it or not that is a tremendous struggle that you and I have as people. We have a tremendous need for identity. And we’re very sensitive if we sense at all that someone’s view of me has a little bit of distance, a little bit of seclusion, “You’re not really in our group.” And there’s people that have actually come to this church I’ve heard recently that are visiting and they’ve left feeling like we didn’t welcome them. They left feeling like we were so tight and friendly with each other that we didn’t have room in our hearts for them. I hurt when I hear that. I think, “Oh who was that?” Why did we do that? Or what did we do? But there is that need that we have to feel included and welcome and there’s that sensitivity that we have naturally by a sense of exclusion. And this discussion on love is so important because it helps us over that barrier. What’s the hardest part of a barrier of love? It’s when you don’t return the love, the love isn’t requited or returned back to you and you’re supposed to what? Keep on loving. So physical love is of the utmost essence visionary. It’s visionary outwardly to someone else and our natural state of mind is generally self-centered, it’s selfish, and we’re kind of looking for ourself. So often I come in and I want to be welcomed, I want to be received, I want to be loved. So I’m walking among you with the major thing hanging out, “Please love me, please love me.” And so what do I do to get you to love me? This is really funny, children sometimes do this. You can have my hanky if you’ll be my friend. We try and get something that we imagine will attract people to us and get them to love us. Here is where the spiritual gifts in the Corinthians had become a problem. The spiritual gifts had become magic hankies and they were sharing them and trying to get acceptance, trying to get acknowledgement and trying to belong and be important to the group. And these gifts were being used as little means of gaining specialness. So the purpose of the gifts was beginning to be threatened by the misuse of the gifts.

I want to establish the first principle then. What is the misuse of a spiritual gift? Based on what we’ve talked about this morning so far with selfishness, what is the misuse of a gift? The misuse of a gift is to use a spiritual gift so that, fill in the rest. (So others will like me.) O.k. (Personal gain.) Here’s the sad thing about it if you’re honest we’re always inclined towards that. Now to admit that doesn’t mean that you should be sweepingly condemned but there’s always that temptation, there’s always that taint of me in there, it’s natural. Now as Christians we have to recognize that God loves us and He’s working on those things. And if He’s working on those things, what’s He probably going to do? He’s probably going to put us in settings that cause us to learn how to give up that need of self, to learn how to sacrifice and die to that need and serve anyway. That’s the process. So for you Christian it’s not a fun task when it comes to that kind of approach because it’s a training camp of learning how to die to myself. When you see how much you have to die to, you can get very discouraged because you think, “I’ve been a Christian umpteen years and what is this? I’m still acting like a baby in first grade.” So the misuse of a spiritual gift is to use something so that I bring somebody else into an accounting with me whereby they owe me some affection, they owe me some love. There is the tail of the misuse of gifts. And that’s how spiritual gifts get turned upside down because that’s how you end up with little cliques. The gifts that are the most honored in the group become the greatest means. I have a question. It’s real important to this passage. You may not believe this but we’re not going to get to chapter 14 today so I’m going to get to it this way in preliminary function. What do you think in weakness men would use in terms of spiritual gifts, what would be the nature of elevation? What kinds of spiritual gifts would man naturally tend to elevate in order to magnify their self image in order to cause themselves to feel good about themselves, feel important, feel like they really belong and maybe somebody should listen to me because I’ve really got something to say? What do you think would be those kinds of gifts. I’m not actually meaning specifically. I’ll touch on it specifically once we get the category resolved, but generally speaking. (Visible gifts.) Visible, yes, but visible in what way? Visible in the supernatural. The more supernatural, the more exciting it is. Have an exciting supernatural thing, it draws us. I want to illustrate just briefly, when Christ was on the earth and He did miracles, do you remember that time He changed the loaves and the fishes into multitude and fed 5,000? And the Scripture said in John, it said they were going to come and forcibly make Him king. They were excited. What’s important to realize is they were fed and they had never had this happen before and they were excited. They had been fed food and they were excited to make Jesus king and then Jesus looked at them and rebuked them, He said, “You don’t seek Me because of who I am, you seek me because your bellies were filled.” Then immediately they turned on Him. Just an immediate transition, all the sudden they’re mad. They said, “Who are you to talk to us like this, show us a sign.” And they immediately began demanding a miracle. I don’t get this. You just fed them, their bellies are full. With one tiny rebuke and now they want to demand a sign. What did Jesus say to the Jews? There became a phrase that the Gospels recorded more than one time, a phrase that was used and what was that phrase? It says, “This generation seeketh after a sign, but there shall no sign be given it except the sign of Jonah the prophet.” That’s an important point for us to understand in connection to spiritual gifts. Our temptation to associate with supernatural spiritual gifts that are more visible to make ourselves feel more spiritual. “If there’s a larger visibility of the Spirit, then I’m more spiritual than if there’s a lesser visibility.” Do you see that natural inclination that’s going on? Here’s the dilemma God has chosen spiritual gifts to nourish the church. It’s His purpose, it’s His plan. We do have the Spirit and we do have gifts and it’s necessary, it’s useful, it’s profitable, so the gifts need to be there. But Paul stops in the middle of his discussion of spiritual gifts. Basically he rattles off a little list and then he says, “Now desire more earnestly the best gifts, but I show unto you a more excellent way.” And he’s immediately concerned about the manner in which the gifts are used before he goes on in chapter 14 and elaborates the manner in which the gifts are used or isolates these gifts and talks about them in context. And he gets to that. If the gifts that are more supernatural appearing tend to attract us more, can anybody guess what would be the most likely gift that would naturally by its nature, by the gift’s nature, now the gift is from the Holy Spirit so the gift isn’t evil but by the nature of this gift, by it’s nature and the weakness of man, what gift would naturally cause the most division in the church just understanding our misimpression that the more spiritually supernatural a gift appears, the more impressed we tend to be with ourselves? Thank you. Everybody’s saying it quietly but nobody’s saying it out loud. The gift of tongues. Now why is the gift of tongues such a supernaturally appearing gift? Because it’s visible, it’s very obvious and when I speak with tongues fluently that I’ve never spoken before, that’s amazing. It’s just stunning. So it’s kind of like the chief gift for spiritual grandeur in terms of the weakness of the flesh. I’m not saying the gift has no value, I’m just saying it’s the gift that has the greatest temptation. So when Paul is talking to us and wants to show us the more excellent way, he wants to give us the secret for avoiding the trap of gifts. By the way, every single spiritual gift has a trap of spiritual pride with it, every one. Every single gift can be a means for you or me to depart from the path and find ourselves feeling more spiritually important than we should because we’re looking again at the outward appearance and we’re causing ourselves to be comforted by this grandeur that we’re impressed with of who we are. So there’s a great danger in this whole process and Paul’s addressing it directly. I want us to understand in context that Paul looks at tongues as the greatest or the least gift? From the text. Anybody know? You want to tell me? Is tongues the greatest or the least gift in Paul’s eyes? The least gift. It’s the least gift. Why is it the least gift? We’ll learn this in 1 Corinthians 14 in real thorough detail that’ll almost wear us out and maybe we won’t go into every detail. It tends to edify me and not the body and there’s the secret to value of spiritual gifts in the church. When the assembly convenes, there is a necessity at that convening for edification of others and not self. That’s the primary need. When we assemble together, that need for edifying of one another is a primary thing. That’s a motivation. It has to be an objective. I want to put you on the spot. Should I put Andy on the spot? He’s newly baptized, and ..Andrew, when you came to church this morning, now you don’t have to answer this question, you can just groan and grunt and turn white, how much time did you spend praying and asking God for a tender heart and a sensitive spirit so that you might minister to the body? And you don’t know who you’re going to minister, but “Lord just make me sensitive to be alert.” And as you sit there, how much anticipation do you have with a desire to serve the body? I don’t want you to answer it because that would be unfair. I’m asking Andrew but I’m asking us all. That’s a good question. If you don’t come to fellowship so that your concern and your interests are others, you’re at risk. You’re most likely coming for your own personal edification. So if that’s the truth then you come out of sync with this very first verse, “I show you a more excellent way.” Maybe we can keep it from being too stinging and too rebuking by saying, “It’s natural for people to come together, it’s natural for us to want to have fellowship in the body and it’s natural for us to want to be nourished and encouraged ourselves and we want to come for our edification, but it’s more excellent for me to come with a consideration of the group and not myself.” I just want to pause for a moment and express, that’s why fatherhood is such an important leadership building block for the church because what is fatherhood? Taking on the selflessness of Christ and learning how to serve and minister to my root, to my family, and put their interests at my primary point of reference and care sacrificially at the loss of my own interests for their well being and for their good. It’s just kind of a natural reflection that what I do in the church reflects what God is also trying to do in our homes. These are mutually beneficial that as I learn how to be a better dad, a better husband, I am engaging the spiritual apparatus by which I learn how to serve the whole body. I don’t know if you’ve had an experience of meeting someone but I have met some really godly men and when you see the godly men function in groups I’m amazed sometimes at the length of time at which they’re totally silent and are just quiet and they’re watching. And there’s so many times this need of others to clamour in their interests and their concern for themselves and this godly person is just quiet. I’ve watched finally, there’s almost is this uncanny sense of the group finally getting the picture and the group asks, “Well do you have something to share?” And they invite the quiet one and when he opens his mouth everyone listens. You can hear a pin drop because he’s been well considered and he’s thinking of the group and he’s thinking of enriching them and he’s not there for himself. So as we move into this discussion of 1 Corinthians 13, it is a very difficult passage for us to take home and practice. And why is it difficult? Because by our very nature we tend to be people who are inclined to promote our interests when we get in a group and to position ourselves in such a way that we receive that which we want and that’s not the more excellent way.

So can we read together 1 Corinthians? I’m going to go ahead and read with the first verse of chapter 14 as well as the last verse of chapter 12 as a point of reference. So beginning at chapter 12 verse 31, let’s read 1 Corinthians 13. “But covet earnestly the best gifts and yet show I unto you a more excellent way.” Now listen to this first section very carefully. 1 Corinthians is divided into three sections. Verses 1 to 3 gives us the comparison of the wrong attitude of gifts that vaunts one’s self and the right attitude by comparing it to love. The second section is from verse 4 to the first fragment of verse 8 and that’s where we get a good, simple definition of love or charity in it’s manifold aspects and we’ll never master that perhaps in our whole life, but it’s a good point of reference, it’s a good place to keep going back to. The third section is from verse 8 to the end of the chapter, verse 13 where we focus on one quality of charity above all the other qualities and that is that love never fails, charity never fails. It compares spiritual gifts in this category of failure and that’s important for us to understand in terms of the context which helps us to see love for what it is. I believe that I can say wholeheartedly that any believer who walks out their gifts in love, they can be confident that they will be edifying those they’re serving. There’ll be an edification and a consideration and there’ll be a usefulness from it. That’s the challenge, “this is the more excellent way.” If I’m going to use my gift, why not use it in such a way that it reaps a large reward in the hearts of those I want to serve? Why not? Why not strive for excellence so that I might reap the greatest benefit in the least amount of time with my gift.

Let’s read. Chapter 12 verse 31, “But covet earnestly the best gifts and yet I show unto you a more excellent way,” verse 1, “But if I speak with the tongues of men and of angels and have not charity, I am become as the sounding brass or a tinkling cymbal.” Notice the contrast, pretty stark contrast. Verse 2, “Thou I have the gift of prophecy and understand all mysteries and all knowledge and though I have all faith so that I can remove mountains and have not charity, I am nothing.” Verse 3, “Though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor and though I give my body to be burned and have not charity, it profits me nothing.” Pause for just a moment and imagine a martyr’s death at the stake, being burned to death at the stake. We have lots of examples through history. And look at this incredibly stark comparison that the Word of God brings to such an illustration. From the human side, we dare not lay the smallest accusation against one who so nobly would defend their faith that they would die in the flames of death, that great torture. And yet God has the courage to say, “You know what? That’s nothing, that’s absolutely meaningless if it’s not done with love.” If motivation isn’t love, it’s nothing. That starkness, brothers and sisters, is important for you and I to register because if I came to you and criticized you with this starkness you’d be hurt. You’d be very hurt because you would think that I was disregarding all the good things that I do. You know, we as believers know we are saved by the merit of Christ and not our own merit and we will be offended if anyone would explain the Gospel to someone in such a way that said, “You know, if your good works outweigh your bad works, well I think you’ll be alright.” That would highly offend us because we know that there’s no good works adequate to save us and our singular one bad work, if that’s all we had, was enough to damn us. We know the Gospel that clearly. It’s just a lie and we’re not going to be falling for that. But you know what? We do fall for it all the time with our sense of lack of self judgment, lack of analysis of who we really are. Because here we are, we tend to be like these disciples that Christ speaks of in the Gospel when they come to Him at the end and say, “Lord, Lord, didn’t we do many mighty works in Your name?” And there’s expectation. “I’ve got my list, I’ve got my works, I can show you spiritual power that came out of my life serving God,” and yet there’s this stark absolute sweeping condemnation when Jesus says, “Depart from Me ye workers of iniquity for I never knew you.” That’s incredibly stark. You and I tend to walk everyday out of that sense of satisfaction with what I’m doing, “I’m trying pretty hard, I’m doing pretty good. I mean I know I’ve got lots to work on and I’m trying, I’m working on those things but overall,” isn’t that a common phrase we use? “Overall I’m doing pretty good, I’m striving, I’m pressing for the mark.” It’s important for us to understand that when we have a point of reference for our own spirit’s well being, we have to have a clear spiritual reference that’s absolutely stark, that captures our imagination and in a sense builds us in our gut this shear sense of terror that there’s a chance that I am completely off the mark; I am way out of line. Look at this pattern. He looks here, if you notice, pay close attention, he lists here the most visible spiritual gifts, the gifts that are most supernatural and most visible. Those are the two keys to spiritual gifts, natural inclination for my desire and he lists them. There they are tongues, prophecy, understanding, faith. It’s interesting here. I just find this, if you want a definition of faith, here’s a cute one. Jesus said, “If you have faith the size of a grain of mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Be thou removed into the sea’.” Paul is discussing faith, he describes that little grain of mustard seed as all faith. “If I have all faith so I can say to this mountain, ‘Be moved to the sea’,” and the context that he is, not yet has anybody spoken to this mountain and had it moved to the sea, it’s still yet to be done. That’s the little bit of mustard seed faith that we need and it’s just all faith. Do you see the angle? Faith, God’s looking at the heart where I’m trusting God and resting in Him. But when I have got a hold of faith and my ego’s attached to it, I’m looking at the mighty work I did and so getting that mountain into the sea, the biggest thing in faith anybody’s ever done. But the Lord says, “I’m nothing.” He says, “I am a sounding brass or a tinkling cymbal.” He says, “It profits me nothing.” That’s a stark contrast of God’s view of me when I’m using His gifts. It’s a stark view. It’s amazing to me to realize that God isn’t just interested in the gift getting used, He’s interested in it getting used in love, in the excellent way. I want to suggest to you this morning that if you can replace the natural inclination we have of our egos to be important, to be viewed as really spiritual because of our gifts, if we can replace that with a better motivation where my heart’s ambition and desire is, “How can I encourage the brothers? How can I build their faith? How can I find the spot where they’re struggling and where they’re weak and come alongside and help bear their burden and move them towards victory and success in Jesus? How can I do that?” That’s the exchange. It’s the motive of me versus you. That’s what the motive is all about. It’s a whole sense of consideration. As we go through this next section of chapter 13, as we read that, I want you to just keep one perspective in mind, in this whole perspective love is being defined in terms of me, the person who’s doing the loving as giving consideration to someone other than myself for their interest. And everything of love is measured for somebody else’s interest. And there’s a pretty high standard here and it’s also a safe standard because when you really love someone else, you will not Mickey Mouse with the areas of correction in their life that need correcting. You’ll not call iniquity good. You’ll call it iniquity and you’ll clean it out if you really love them. Course you and I know that we can judge and think evil and despise people by looking at their sins and shortcomings. So it’s not just the willingness to speak, there’s a whole battery. The two extremes are a judging condemner of souls, someone pretending that he’s serving them and that’s a lie, and the other end of the spectrum is a little mouse who would never lay a word of accusation, would never let it to rest on someone’s ears the slightest question about their spirituality. How many times have I been in a counseling session with someone and when the problems are kind of brought out in the open and we’re discussing the problems and you say, “I wonder about,” blank and you name a principle of God’s Word and what have you and you say, “I know but you need to understand I have really tried and I’ve done everything I can,” and the first round of discussion is the defense of me. And it takes a lot of courage to penetrate that self justification when you’re in an intimate counseling session where somebody’s perhaps sitting there with tears, needing comfort and wanting to stand behind lies for their comfort. It takes a little bit of love to circumvent, to overcome that. So there are the two extremes, mousiness and judgmentalness and love finds itself dead square in the middle because it’s serving the other person’s interest.

So let’s read beginning at verse 4, “Charity suffers long and is kind. Charity envieth not. Charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.” Verse 5, “Does not behave itself unseemly, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil, rejoices not in iniquity but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Charity never faileth.” I’m going to stop right there for a moment because this is the section where love has been defined, where love has been described. It’s a little difficult to get through this section adequately because as far as I’m concerned, I’m completely inadequate at making an attempt to really draw out every one of these elements in their greatest sense of power and vantage. But let’s look at it a little bit. Let’s just kind of explore from the surface what we can see at least today. Let’s start, I always like to start in the middle because that gives it a disjointed contrast and then you can kind of look around better from that side, you can climb back to the beginning from there. But the thing that kind of struck me is look at this one list here in verse 7, “Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Those four items are already discussed in the first three verses. It already talked about somebody being willing to give his body to be burned, having all faith to move mountains. And there’s a secret here about love that you need to understand right at the beginning. Abstractly, it’s common, it would be natural for me to think abstractly, “Well if I have this gift, gift “Y”, if I have this gift, I need to use that gift. I need to find out how to use this gift and how to serve people.” And there’s a tendency to naturally think about my constructive effort to use my gift. But the danger is, if I spend too much introversion time looking at me and my gift, I’m going to tend toward the error of self identity. I’m going to tend to the error of selfishness and self consideration and I’m going to be primarily focused on me and my gift in a way that will have a tendency to take away valuable spiritual ministry. And that’s why he said, “If I use my spiritual gifts perfectly to the best they’ve ever been used in the history of mankind, there’s a perfect use of my spiritual gift but I don’t have love, it’s of no value. It’s absolutely worthless; it has no benefit.” That should be frustrating to the human spirit. You and I should be frustrated to think, “You mean I can put all this effort and all this consideration and care into my gift and perform perfectly,” that’s even the hardest part, “perform perfectly, a perfect work of faith or a perfect word of prophecy, it could be absolutely perfect, but when God measures it in His measuring stick, He says, ‘This is worthless,’ and He pushes it aside like a piece of dung.” That should be frustrating to you and me. That should captivate us with a sense of, “I don’t want to waste my life producing rejection.” I want to do something for real. But notice the turn around here. In that verse, verse 7, the turn around is amazing. If I have love, love is the whole motivational thrust of gifts and as soon as I am walking in love, my gifts are going to start flowing and I am going to be functioning with vitalness in my gift. But more than that, my gift’s going to be hitting a mark and I’m going to be hitting home runs or whatever you want to call it in terms of some description of victory and success. I’m going to make it. As far as I’m concerned that challenges me because I don’t want to spend a whole lot of time striking out. It’s great for the major leagues to have a batting average of 300 which means 2/3 times out of ten they strike out. I’d rather have a little bit more accuracy in functionality. And love is the key. Love is the key. The thing about love is that love stops the inward focus and it starts the outward focus. I’m going to stop for a moment. The church was called in Hebrews 10 to gather together so much the more, verse 13, we are to “consider one another, how to provoke one another unto love and good works.” That is the single most powerful definition of the church you will ever find in the Scriptures. One verse describes it all. My purpose in the church is to consider others. My contribution to others is to consider how I can encourage others toward love. Notice that works follows love in that verse, “towards love and good works.” You get the engine of love working in someone’s heart and that stirs up the Holy Spirit power and then the gifts kick in, that which God has given as a deposit, it kicks in. I’m going to be provoking others to good works. They’re going to have good works out of their love. They’re going to be stirred by love to serve. Again, to me it’s an incredible point of reference. I just keep going back and remember, “Oh thank God for the family. Thank God for the family.” The family is the place I get to learn this first. Here’s the place of service. Dads, how much time do you consider how to provoke your family to love? If there’s tension in the home, what’s the first thing that you feel tension around, you don’t feel what? The first thing seems to go out the window doesn’t it? A lack of love, a lack of acceptance and we’re hurting because of that lack of love and lack of acceptance. The whole nature of God’s work is this love, love does what it’s supposed to do. So it’s like this, now this is my practical application you want to have success in the body of Christ with your spiritual gifts being used in a vital way, don’t spend a whole lot of time worrying about your gifts. Start learning how to love. Start identifying your selfish and self-centered ways that detract from your love and service. Start at your own home. Start with your own spouse. Start with your own children. How? How can I provoke someone to love? You know what the Bible says in Ephesians 6? It says, “Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath.” Is it possible that this is the opposite spectrum of it? If I’m not considering how to provoke to love, likely I’m provoking to wrath? Simple, stark contrast. Is it possible that it’s not so much a spectrum where there’s a whole bunch of gradients in between but rather it’s kind of like flip side, either or. It’s like if I’m not doing this, I am doing this. If I’m not provoking unto love, I’m provoking unto wrath. There’s an incredible need to consider what this means here. We find that there is that capacity to serve out of that which I possess as a gift when love is in place.

I have one of the most humourous stories I’ve ever heard but it made me cry and laugh all at the same time. But it was my daughter-in-law’s father told this story at a school meeting a couple years ago…(tape turned here)…Dennis Gilliard, you all probably remember meeting him from time to time. But he shared this story about how he wanted to help his daughter. He was taking Algebra and she was gifted in math but he took shop classes and he did not have any Algebra history and he was not sharp in Math. I guess he functioned adequatly for basic math but outside of that he didn’t have much background. But he had this desire to encourage his daughter in Algebra and he would walk in and find her struggling over a problem. Of course he looked at the book and it was like tongues, foreign language, “Don’t have a clue what this is.” And he would want to help her but he wanted to help her out of his love but he didn’t know what his gift was. Actually he thought he had no gift to help her because he didn’t know the math. The natural inclination would be direct logic, “Well let me show you how to do this formula and how to do this problem.” But he didn’t even understand what he was looking at, let alone any of the process. So he just sat there with a hungry heart, a loving heart to help his daughter. So looking at her and having nothing of any resource to encourage her, he said, “Well why don’t you do this. I know I don’t understand anything and I won’t understand it, but why don’t you just teach it to me, why don’t you tell me what you’re trying to do and try to explain what your problem is.” So he sat there, she might as well been speaking in a foreign language. But she started telling him and she just smiled and not understanding anything she was saying. But as she went on she said, “Oh, oh that’s it Daddy, thank you, thank you for helping me.” And she got it, she’d get the answer. Love did the ministry and love did what it could. See that’s the beauty of spiritual gifts. When love is engaged, it does what it can and you use the resources of what you have, your own gift. And it doesn’t really matter what the offerers say, a gift is something that’s there and you have it and when your motivated, you’re stirred up by love, you just reach in and say, “Let me help you.” “Let me help you,” that’s the motivation of love. That’s the motivation of spiritual gifts used in love, “Can I help you?” Well if we’re going to help somebody we have to consider how we’re going to help them. We have to consider who they are. We have to consider what their needs are. We have to consider what our resources are. There’s a process of consideration. But can you begin to see a little bit why Paul said this is a more excellent way? Because I’m motivated not for my own end, but I’m motivated for somebody else’s and that’s what’s driving me. My motive, my ambition that I’m pressed with is somebody else’s benefit. I’m anxious that they get blessed, that they get help. And when they get help I get this sense of victory, “Thank you Lord, they’re helped.”

Looking at this list again, a few other things I’d like to point out. If you look at verse 6, you see what I call the fundamental premise of love. The fundamental premise of love, “Love rejoices not in iniquity but rejoices in truth.” “Love rejoices not in iniquity but rejoices in truth.” There’s three things here that’s important for us to see. First of all, let’s look at the error. We tend as humans to err with love and this principle is important to correct us in our perception of love. Because we think of love too often as a warm fuzzy affection. We wrap our hands or our arms around someone and give a sense of warm consideration and as that warmth is emitting, our capacity or our strength to resist them at any point naturally diminishes. You’re on my side, I’m on your side, I don’t want to resist you. So we tend to view correction, this is the flesh, the flesh tends to view correction as the opposite of love. Remember the story I told you when Daniel was born and I was teaching school? I explained to the children how I spanked Daniel and I went through the little formula of focusing on the command, the disobedience and the Scripture, praying, spanking with all my might and restoring with love. And the children said, “You’re confusing your kid. Your kid is going to be crazy when he grows up. On the one hand you tell him he’s wrong and then you turn right around and you hug him and you kiss him and you tell him he’s alright.” And this group of young people had no concept that love corrected. Their only idea of love was that you got what you want. When somebody’s in a loving mood, you can have your way and when you’re not getting your way, you’re not being loved. That’s the natural inclination of the flesh. But charity rejoices not in iniquity but it rejoices in the truth. Here’s the second key and that is the word “rejoice.” I’ve found the secret in difficult circumstances. I have been able to approach every single difficult circumstance by finding the truth that I could rejoice in and recognizing that this truth when properly perceived by me here is going to cause them to get happy and excited about good things for God. They’re going to be lifted up with joy and compassion and it’s going to separate them from their sin. That enables me to be strong in holding up the principle. Being strong as a leader isn’t just that you are stubborn, I’m that I realize – that’s a gift not a spiritual gift but a personality gift, but stubbornness and just refusal to bend, that isn’t the ultimate reality of love. It’s that rejoicing. I cross over and I rejoice. There’s a beautiful passage in 2 Corinthians I showed you several weeks ago; it says about the same exact thing, about rejoicing. Paul desired to rejoice with them in victory and in truth. But love rejoices in the truth and not in iniquity. So here’s what happens the person I need to minister to, they, by the fleshly design, are not rejoicing in the truth. They are rather being tempted by Satan and the circumstances they’re in and they’re rejoicing in iniquity. Instead of being attracted towards sin, they’re being drawn away of their lusts and their appetites towards that which is evil. Here I come in and I’m the bad guy. I have to come in and separate my children from these affections that are evil, but they think they’re good. Of course the battle is easy to ensue at this point. “Well I don’t see anything that’s wrong with it,” the first volley is fired and on we go. But the power of love is that it gives me the capacity by consideration of those I’m loving, it gives me the capacity to recognize the truth that they’re not seeing. It stirs in my heart a joy, “Yes, that’s going to get them,” and it gives us confidence that once my kid hears this they’re going to just be on my team and they’re going to rejoice with me. So I bring that truth but I have an edge now. All the sudden, instead of me being angry, instead of me being wrathful and provoked with impatience, I’m visionary; I’ve got a vision. “This is going to change your life, this is going to bless you. This is what it’s going to do,” and I bring that truth in the concept of its joy and I minister life. Love rejoices not in iniquity but rejoices in the truth.

Let’s have a little definition game here. We’ve had this definition several times so I guess this is a pop quiz. What’s the definition of iniquity? Iniquity is doing my own will. Iniquity is willfulness. It’s any action I take based on my opinion. Remember the Scripture says, “There’s a way that seems right to man, there’s a way that seems right, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” Iniquity is the actions that I take based on my own understanding. It’s a self will, a self motivation. What I do is I reduce God to my perspective. I had a real interesting illustration of this recently with my son Peter. We were driving in my truck down the road. I’m sitting there and I need my side mirrors to get a good vision. So I’m driving down the road and I was looking at the mirror that was on Peter’s side and it was just a tiny bit out of adjustment and I didn’t say a word but I just thought, “It would be nice to get that adjusted just a little bit better.” And without me saying a word, Peter rolls down the window and starts to adjust the mirror and I never even told him. At first I got hopeful, I said, “Wow he read my mind and he’s going to adjust the mirror so I can see better.” This is what he did he adjusted the mirror so he could see better. And now what was just a little bit distorted was entirely distorted. It was now of absolutely no use. I said, “Pete thanks for adjusting my mirror and everything but can you put it back where it was because I need to see the road?” He said, “Oh I thought if I could see well through it, then you could.” Perspective. “There’s a way that seems right to man but the end thereof are the ways of death.” It seemed right to Peter to get that mirror adjusted from his perspective so he could see things clearly and understand what was going on. But he needed to trust me, I’m the driver and that mirror better be adjusted to my vision. He has to ride in faith or change his position or look out the window backwards. But to me that was a powerful illustration because it was so innocent, just a simple mistake in point of reference in physics and yet there it was a principle of life. “The end thereof are the ways of death.” When I am walking in iniquity I’m walking after my own understanding, I’m walking out of what seems right to me. You know what? I can guarantee you this all of the disagreements that you have in your home when you’re arguing or fighting about a perspective and by what’s right or wrong, all those arguments are built around iniquity. We’re looking at how we seem to see it, how we seem to view it and we’re battering for opposition, we’re arguing for our focus point and we’re insisting that we’re right. But if we go by that we’re going to end up in death. That’s how stark it is. Think about this let’s be nice to each other, was it really an evil spirit that was in Peter when he jerked that mirror to his own view? Was that an evil spirit? No, it was a natural inclination based upon my general sense of wanting to find my way. I wanted to have good perspective. It’s not necessarily an overwhelmingly evil thing to have a perspective. What’s evil is to be stupid and think that that is God’s perspective. How much more is God in the driver’s seat that He sees all things perfectly compared to me? When Jesus told those workers of iniquity to depart from Him, He accused them of iniquity. Now look at what happened. Those workers of iniquity, what did they do? They cited their works, “This is what we did. We’ve done this, we’ve done that. This is what we did.” They cited their own works and what did Jesus do? He judged them on their own works, “You are workers of iniquity. You work out your own will. You work out your own understanding. You work out that seems right in your own eyes, you’re workers of iniquity so that everything, 100% all things were out of line.” Now this is a secret of love, this is the secret to love, if you can master this secret of love recognizing that with love that which is gifted in me is going to come out in usefulness to others and if my focus of love is this, I’m not going to rejoice in iniquity, I’m going to rejoice in the truth. And as I begin to see the truth, I just want to testify, I want to stand up this morning before God and before my brothers and sisters and say, “You know what? It is absolutely true. You can rejoice in the truth. It is a joy. It is absolutely a joy. I just get all fired up.” When I was first saved I was real worried because my perspective always made me go, “Uh, God has made a mistake and He’s forgotten and didn’t see that.” That was my natural inclination about every problem I saw in Scripture otherwise. It was like, “God was asleep when He designed this one.” But I slowly began to realize, “No calm down. God is in control. He see what I don’t see and He’s going to work things out.” And this transfer of trust began to grow and I began to get this confidence, “Give me any problem, God can fix anyone. God has no achilles tendons. There’s absolutely no truth that will ever be shown to be false in any application, God is absolutely trustworthy.” And that confidence begins to build that sense of joy, “Yes.” And then you start looking the landscape, “Here’s the problem, it looks really distorted and ugly but there’s radar somewhere. God has a different perspective. What is it Lord?” You find that spark of truth and it shoots into that circumstance and it gives direction and it gives joy and that’s the motivating force of love, to rejoice in the truth. Now this morning if you and I went home and if it became our lifelong testimony that from this time forth we learned how to rejoice in the truth and not in iniquity, you will only see transformed fruit from the work of your life. That’s all you’ll see because you’re going to have a bee line for service, helping others in truth out of love. It’s going to be transformation, rejoicing in the truth, rejoicing not in iniquity.

I want to make a third comment here about rejoicing in iniquity and that is just how hard it is for you to recognize that you’re rejoicing in iniquity. My estimate is that we people tend to rejoice in iniquity as the norm. We were born in iniquity, we were raised in iniquity and we have functioned in a world that lives and functions in iniquity. So iniquity is normal. It’s what I do without thinking. I just naturally impose my view on a circumstance and respond to it. That’s normal. But that iniquity is wrong no matter how normal it feels, no matter how regular it feels or no matter how innocent I operate in it. Course the whole danger of iniquity is that it is so normal, it is so innocent feeling and sounding. So it’s so natural to just, “I’m so familiar with these gloves, they’ve got to be right. They feel right.” That is the destruction of iniquity. We rejoice in iniquity when our sense of hope is raised up by the wisdom of the natural flesh. I’m going to give you one illustration of rejoicing in inquity. This will surprise you but it applies directly to our discussion on spiritual gifts. Remember when the 70 came back from the ministry that Jesus sent them on by twos? And he told them to cast out demons, raise the dead, heal the sick and preach the Gospel. And they came back and they were rejoicing. What were they rejoicing in? “Even the demons are subject to us.” They were rejoicing in iniquity. They were rejoicing in their position. They had influence, they had power, they had prestige, they were somebody. And they were rejoicing in iniquity. Can you etch that in your mind? That’s so stark. That’s almost like a soccer punch to the gut. Coming back rejoicing, you’ve been serving Christ, preaching in the cities, you’ve done just what He said and you saw all kinds of spiritual benefit and fruit reaping all around you and you get back and you start rejoicing in the wrong thing, you start rejoicing in iniquity; rejoicing in your part in it. What did Jesus say to rejoice in? How do you replace rejoicing in iniquity? He said, “Rather rejoice that your name is written in Heaven.” See this difference? Iniquity is, “Ahh, the demons are subject to me.” Righteousness is, “God has accepted me in my unworthiness, in my unholiness, in my unrighteousness He’s loved me. God has reached out to me. I am redeemed. I am in an honorable place. Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed upon me that I should be called the son of God.” There’s that contrast. Love is keen and knows how to rejoice in truth and it can identify iniquity and not rejoice in it. There’s going to be times that you and I as parents have to be so sharp that we see our children all excited and we recognize that they’re rejoicing in iniquity. And we have to come alongside them and separate them like Jesus did from rejoicing in that which is just worldly view, worldly status, worldly fame, worldly success and we just have to come in gently and say, “You know that’s not the thing to get excited about.” I want to make a suggestion, because God’s our Father and because He loves us, what do you think God the Father does in our lives? He’s claimed us. Hebrews chapter 12, consider God as He’s called you His son, “Whom the Lord loves He chastens every son He receives.” Then He goes on and He makes an interesting comment, He says, “If you’re not enduring chastening from the Lord, you’re not the Lord’s. You’re an illegitimate child. You’re a free standing imposter. You’ve interjected yourself among His children but you’re not one of His children.” One of the marks of God’s love for us is that He resists our tendency towards sin and He just comes in and says, “No, I’m going to help you.” And there’s that beautiful picture of the Father who is loving us by rejoicing in the truth and not in iniquity. And the more the Father loves us, the more He squeezes sin in our life and draws attention to that area that we’re walking in iniquity. That’s the model that you and I can have. It’s an absolutely beautiful picture if you can just imagine the possibility that we have as people to walk in love towards one another, that we can actually freely be engaging, walk up and we see a brother and we say, “Hi.” And our hearts are pure and are really interested in my brother’s well being and I’m going to listen and I’m going to look him in the eye, I’m not going to be drifting my eyes around and I’m going to care about him. And as he’s speaking and as he starts rejoicing in things and feels love for me and he might say something really stupid. He might start rejoicing in iniquity. And in love, God’s going to enable me by my gift and by my love to consider how to provoke him to love and good works instead of to iniquity. When I am provoking a child to wrath, I’m provoking them to a place of defense that they protect their interest, that they establish their interests and that they fight for their interests. And that’s what wrath does. It pushes people into a defense mode, causes them to defend themselves and protect themselves and advance their own cause. But when I provoke someone to love, I provoke them to get out of their self mode and into a serve mode. And this is a very unusual thing here we are a whole room full of needy people. We’re all in tremendous need of help. There’s not a single person in here who even comes close to, in my view, to getting started and I’m including me as the picture. We’ve got a long way to go. But here we are, we’re all together in our imperfection and what has God said to do? He said, “Would you serve one another out of love? Would you consider one another? Would you be willing to provoke one another to love and good works?” The blessing I have is that there are brothers, there are sisters, who have just that freedom with me. They love me and they come to me and they say, lah lah lah lah. And that’s a joy, that’s a gift; that’s service.

Now when you understand, you can see how I’m going backwards, when you understand that my gifts, verse 7, flow from love freely, number two, when you understand that the pinnacle of operation is a separation between rejoicing in truth and rejoicing in iniquity. Love has to operate clearly in the truth zone. It can’t operate in iniquity. As soon as I move into iniquity I cease loving. I realize this is immature and kind of childish but when I was first saved, I remembered my appetite for iniquity and one of the things I had a problem with in terms of an appetite for iniquity was I had a problem with my own greed and self-centeredness. So every year when Santa came to town, my iniquity was provoked and I saw my greed. I wasn’t appretiative of what I got. I was always comparing myself to my siblings and wondering why I didn’t get my share. That was how selfish and how selfishly I viewed it and I was just very self-centered in that focus. When I got saved, I suddenly realized that Christmas is a rejoicing in God giving a gift, He gave His only begotten Son. He surrendered the highest treasure to serve other people’s needs. I thought how I don’t want to raise my children that Christmas, the symbol of God giving in love to others to meet their highest need, I don’t want to corrupt that image by getting my children to be thinking about what they’re getting. When we first started out I had determined not to celebrate Christmas at all. Christmas by means of relatives kind of overwhelmed me so I had to have some alternative modes and plans. Perhaps I’ve not kept as clear as a point of reference to that but I was deliberately avoiding occasions that I could stir up iniquity in my children’s hearts, stir up their appetite for self love, for self worship, for self pleasure. I wanted them to see, love is giving, surrendering my greatest asset on behalf of another. Can you picture that for a moment? Can you see how God has loved us in truth? He has looked upon us and said, “Those people are damned. They are altogether, the whole lot of them, become unuseful. There is none righteous, no, not even one.” The Scripture speaks of us, “The poison of asps is under our lips and all day all we ever do is sin.” But when the Lord looked upon and He looked around there was none to save, with His own arm He wrought salvation. How did He wrought salvation? He wrought it by giving love. What did He do? Did He say, “I’ll change the rules. Because I love you people so much, I’ll excuse sin. The rules were too hard, they were too high to achieve, it was unrealistic, I’m just going to cancel the law. It’s no longer valid. It’s no law, it’s just everybody gets into Heaven, praise God, I love you all so much.” Is that what He did? Is that how God manifested His love? No, that would have been rejoicing in iniquity wouldn’t it? It would have been letting the will of man and the perspective of man rule. God’s not going to give it up. He rejoiced in the truth. He said, “This sin that’s worthy of death needs to be dealt with. I know what I’ll do, I’ll send my only begotten Son and Him will I inflict the weight of judgment and punishment for the whole world. And everyone who acknowledges their sin and recognizes their need for a Savior, anyone who calls on His name, they will be saved.” So we are saved, not because we’re good, we’re saved because we’re bad, we’re saved because we’re evil. And we’re being saved from our evilness and so we’re being transformed from the kingdom of darkness into the glorious inheritance of His dear children. It is a transformation taking place. That’s the work of God. You and I, that’s our objective. I can boil down the whole Christian life to this when it comes to service you only have one job, you take spiritual interests of God and you win people for that reason, you bring them into the kingdom, you nurture them in the kingdom. You keep pressing the joy of love, the joy of truth. You just keep at it and you’re going to walk in love.

Then it moves on. Verse 4 and 5 is understood when you understand verse 6 and 7 and I’ll go back through verse 4 and 5 as I close here for today. Verse 4 says that “Charity suffers long and is kind, envies not, vaunts not itself, is not puffed up.” Now every one of those things that it labels is a natural inclination of man when he’s walking in iniquity. And this is brothers and sisters where I feel such a sadness because I find that we so engage so frequently and so long and so normally in that which isn’t love that we’re accustomed to living opposite of this. We tend to not suffer long at all with anyone, we tend to not suffer long at all. Some people are finding out that it takes a whole lifetime. Someone reminded me recently of a tape that I heard and the son was speaking of his father and some of the shortcomings of his father. The little principle that he was focusing around is God works on you at one point and He doesn’t move on to the next issue until you graduate from this point. And he pointed out that his father never graduated from that base until he was on his very deathbed and then he finally repented, he finally acknowledged God, he finally was broken at that one point. See how faithful God is? He doesn’t change. He doesn’t change the objective and He doesn’t get angry in the process, He suffers long. You have to understand something about longsuffering. What is longsuffering? Can anybody here define longsuffering accurately? I hope you can. Longsuffering is withholding justice or judgement that is due, that’s right. It’s right to have justice. It’s withholding that rightful judgment for an opportunity of redemption before judgment. So if you could think of it in legal terms, longsuffering is the period of time before the court is convened and the person is in jail and they’re attempting to work out some means of resolution other than inflicting the punishment of the law on this person. Longsuffering of God is being held back. That is, the righteousness of God demands that this wickedness that’s in this world be judged and it be judged now. That’s the righteousness of God, that’s the justice of God calling for justice, calling for judgement. But we’re living in a time of longsuffering. So in the longsuffering, I’m holding back the judgement and I’m working toward redemption. Do you understand why when we’re called to longsuffering as those who love God that we have to endure difficult people for a very long time. And you might ask yourself the question, “How long?” Peter asked that question didn’t he? He said this, “Well how many times Lord do I have to forgive somebody before I just knock their block off?” I know he didn’t say that part but you know he meant it. And he said, thinking spiritually. I love this, this is how we are we get our spiritual perspective but it’s just our own understanding. And so we launch this tremendous spiritual statement, “Seven times because that’s the number of God? Should we forgive seven times?” And the Lord says, “No, I’m sorry, try multiplying that seven times itself. Seven times seven.” Forty-nine times. Well I’ll tell you this, if we forgive 49 times the way the Bible says forgiveness is, one of the parts of forgiveness is that you forget, it gets removed from your memory. If you actually count to 49, you probably haven’t forgiven one yet and you’ve got to start all over. It’s kind of like an open ended deal.

So “Charity suffers long and is kind.” That’s interesting. Sally’s grandmother had a statement that she used against her family bitterly and she spoke of wrongs done to her and she said this, “I have forgiven them, but I will never forget.” And when she said, “I will never forget,” she removed any kindness at all from her or from her family to those people. It was like her way of saying, “Those people are off limits, you may not love them, you may not show kindness to them because they have hurt me. I’ve forgiven them but I’m not going to forget it.” If you’re going to be longsuffering, while you’re at it, you’ve got to be kind. You know the opposite, we’re not longsuffering and because we’re not longsuffering we’re not kind. The lack of kindness is a form of judgment. We’re just instituting judgement, “You deserve to be cut off.”

I see the time is slipping and I can’t adequately cover the rest for sure. But let me just encourage you with a couple things here as we close. We tend to envy, we tend towards impatience, we tend towards unkindness. People invade our space, especially the people in our own home, and this really applies to us at home first. We do pretty good with one another, why? Because we’re phonies, that’s why. You know me long enough and close enough and you’ll get the same thing my kids get. That’s the truth. May it be that you get what my kids get and I have a little more longsuffering in the process and a little more kindness in the process. We tend to vaunt ourselves. What does vaunt ourselves mean? Here’s a flat surface. All the people in the church would represent the flat surface and vaunting yourself, can you imagine? This is a flat surface, see my two hands? This is all the people in the church and vaunting myself means this, and with me out in front of everybody else so you see me. It’s fun when we watch our children because our little children struggle with this vaunting from a very little age. And here we are having adult conversation and they have to get into it. They have to demonstrate their grand knowledge. I’ll never forget one little story I heard, Mom said I shouldn’t say it. One of my children walked up to one of the men and said, “You know what Mr. Main?” Natural inclination. We want to be recognized and seen and be considered as a vital part of the universe. “Is not puffed up.” Puffed up has to do with our pride and who we are and what we have. Of course it applies to these spiritual gifts, it applies to anything that we do. And we tend to find our identity in what we do and that’s being puffed up. I can make a real simple definition for you here you’re puffed up when your identity is what you just did. When you think about it, you did something good and then you keep thinking about it, “I was good, that was nice.” Then we ask somebody, “I was just wondering, what did you think about what I did?” We want to promote a little bit of hearing. Puffed up, but love isn’t puffed up. Love isn’t concerned about what somebody else thinks about what I did. It’s just concerned about serving, getting the job done. “Does not behave itself unseemly, not seek her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil.” Four more considerations. All of these things in these two verses are egotistical. It’s living a life out of my own advantage, my own concern. It gives us a wide range of facets to consider ourselves in. Any one of them is enough to be deadly wrong, to move you out of love and into pride and uselessness. Any one of them but there’s quite a variety of them here. We see that the horizon is littered with pitfalls of self. And that’s what these are, these are exactly that, pitfalls of self, interfering and preventing true love from serving others.

The last one which I’m going to close with we’ll begin with the next time and that is “charity never fails.” I realize we were talking about longsuffering a minute ago, “Love suffers long,” but “Charity never fails,” I want to close with that because there is a promise there. That’s the most significant thing that can be stated in the whole passage. And in fact that’s why the rest of the whole passage deals with that principle alone. Love never fails. We have a guarantee. There is no acceptance to this guarantee. If we walk in love, we will achieve our objective, no question, no one can stop us, no government law can be passed, no brutal force of hateful men can be imposed, we will achieve our objective. “Love never fails.” For those of us who are always failing in everything we do on all fronts, doesn’t that sound kind of attractive? Would you like to be in a place where the victory can be sure? The confidence can be preserved without fail? Love never fails. You will achieve God’s Heavenly objectives in your life, there will be fruit in the lives of others if you learn to walk in love. It absolutely never fails. And in the context, what Paul wants to do is he wants to show and he does so powerfully, how everything else even that we have as spiritual gifts and spiritual means, all of those apparatuses are shallow and temporary but love is transcendent and love is permanent and we are absolutely sure to win. “Love never fails.” I think that’s the one thing that Satan wants to remove from us, that simple liberty. I don’t know if you’ve ever read the story of Amy Carmichael. But Amy Carmichael had a ministry in India, she had a little orphanage she called Donovher and this principle of love began to be worked into her as the single essence of ministry. And practically speaking it was the only objective that they strived for constantly to measure with one another. They just kept measuring everything by love. And it was incredible the kind of community and communion that they began to experience as they began to hold themselves accountable to love as the only measure. You can measure yourself against all things but the essence of all things is love. Remember when Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment was? What’s the greatest commandment? The greatest commandment is love, “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, with all thy strength and the second is like unto it, thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” Thus, the vaunting of self is diminshed and the work and purpose of God is advanced and our concern becomes God’s concern for every living creature. That’s the call. May the Lord purify us with that motive. Let’s pray.

Lord we come in the name of Christ and we confess how far we fall from that beautiful and that powerful standard of love. And yet Lord we have hope. We have hope because it is not our love that we’re called to give but Your Word has spoken that it is the Holy Spirit who we have received through spiritual baptism in Christ, it is the Holy Spirit who sheds Your love abroad in our heart. Lord we are accustomed to walking in iniquity, to walking after our own understanding, after our own perception, we’re accustomed to that and Lord it’s wrong. It’s fruit is altogether useless and there is nothing in it by which we can lay claim before Your presence of any worth or value. We acknowledge that to You this morning together in Your presence and we ask for help Lord. Lord may we learn to value others better than ourselves. May we learn to walk in love one towards another. May we have the joy of rejoicing in truth and seeing the objectives of truth be realized in the lives of those that you place in our paths for service. We thank You in Christ’s name, amen.

Posted on September 5th, 1999 by Luke  |  No Comments »

Thirst Quenched In God

Pastor Gary Cox

“How lovely on the mountaintops are the feet of them that bring good news,” and he went on to describe that in the old days of walled cities, news from a battle would always come by means of runners who would be running. They always had watchmen on the walls waiting for the telephone to ring, which happened to be a runner running. So they trained their eyes to the horizon and these watchmen began to be adept at distinguishing the nature of the message based upon the foot pace of the person bringing the news because the one bringing good news had beautiful feet; he ran with this sense of joy and accomplishment and that beautiful feet was visible. And this morning as we talk about baptism and some of the aspects that practically relates to us, it’s interesting to me to begin with that sentiment that we have a real question. I really want to challenge the men this morning, those of us who are already married and have children and those of us who are needing some more training before God would entrusts us to that. There’s a real question, do you have beautiful feet? It’s not a question of, “Are you willing to open your mouth and speak about Christ?” It has nothing to do with that. The message is within and if the message within is bursting to get out, there is an evidence in your body language that communicates the life and the joy of Jesus Christ wherever you go. And I have a question this morning, “How’s your feet? Do you have beautiful feet this morning? Are you one of those that just your appearance on the scene causes that lilting sense of joy and hope and confidence because your God reigns and you’re walking in that confidence and you’re ready to tell about that victory?” The reason why I feel particularly called to address the men in particular, not that any of you wives or young women are excluded, but there’s two reasons: men are stupid by reason of spiritual failing and we’re lazy. We don’t want to pay attention, we don’t want to bother digging out what we need to dig out in order to be a leader. But God has granted to men leadership and men have to lead by knowledge and not by whim. A man who leads by whim is not a godly man, he’s not a man executing his office of leadership in any kind of godly way, he’s just a man who’s filling the place of leadership and taking advantage of it and sort of basking in the light of leadership as an opportunity for strutting his prowess with some form of egotistical, vain accomplishment. That’s pretty useless. Let’s pray.

Lord we come this morning in the name of Jesus Christ and we thank You that You are a God of hope, a God of victory and a God of confidence. Lord we would that today, even today, you might work in us an increasing sense of our own confidence in Your great purpose, our determined press toward that mark, and Lord that we might be those that reflect the good news of the mere joy and affirmation that our body language sends out, the way we live each day of our lives. Lord we ask for Your Word that You would open it to us and especially Lord that You would touch us men who have need of being Your godly leaders in our homes and places of service that You send us, so that we might wake up to the opportunity and the call and take advantage of the time that we have however long or small so that we don’t waste away Lord as it were chasing after vanity. We thank You in Christ’s name amen.

In my message on baptism I’m finding it more important to lay some foundation of perspective than to get through all the little notes I have set up for context and understanding of baptism. I do hope that we will end the series with a baptism for our fellowship for those who have that desire and need. As I think about where we were last week, we were focusing at the end of the service last week on Isaiah 55 and we were talking from that chapter about the difference between God’s thoughts and our thoughts and the difference between God’s ways and our ways and how there’s a graphic point in reference that’s substantially and significantly different. And partly as I think about the necessity and that passage began with the phrase, “Ho, ye that are thirsty, come and buy,” and that whole introduction of the moving passage of Isaiah 55 began with the discussion of thirstiness. I’ve had in the ministry that I’ve had, I interact myself with a lot of families and there’s a lot of ministry that goes on in every family and there’s a lot of need in every family and I find it incredible that the ministry needs inside many families are very very weakly addressed or very very weakly attained. There’s a great misconception of perhaps what the home is supposed to be doing and I don’t see the kind of progress and fruit that it seems to be appropriate and necessary that God ordained, that God intended to be coming out of homes. And as I’m reflecting on some of these things, I think of some of my own children and some of their needs and you have a family of a span like we have and you have children at all various needs and as adults it’s very easy to just get busy in functioning and carrying out our duties and our assignments and getting the things done that have to be done and accomplishing what needs to be accomplished and failing to pay attention to what’s going on. I just found it very very inspiring and simple and helpful to reflect upon the fact that God has already placed in the soul of every one of us the most important mechanism for our capacity to be trained in the Gospel, for our capacity to be trained in Christ. And that capacity, that aspect happens to be the thirst, the thirsting aspect. We all have a thirst. We are there. It doesn’t really matter if we are attempting to spend our money and buy things that cannot meet that thirst, that thirst is there. What an incredible blessing, what an incredible opportunity that we have that there is no home bereft of the significant occasion and significant opportunity to be dealing with souls and to be touching the souls at the most incredible and most important nerve of their life, that they learn to find their thirst quenched in God. So as I was comparing last week the thoughts of God and the ways of God to the thoughts of man and the ways of man, I made an illusion to the fact that men tend to attempt through their own reason and logic and feelings those things that will satisfy that thirst. And I eluded in that discussion last week to that time period where our young people begin awakening to the world and that sense of thirst that they have begins to find itself attracted to the world and we find ourselves in our Christian homes, parents with a real desire to raise up a godly offspring, we find young people incredibly attracted to the world. It seems like a phenomenal thing, “How in the world? My child has been raised in this home, we’ve been reading the Scripture to them,… and how in the world do they get these appetites?” And I find that if we think about it just a little bit longer, we recognize that this appetite is nothing less than the universal thirst of the soul for God. That being the case, what seems to be potentially frustrating for us leaders is actually an occasion of great grace; it’s actually an occasion of great blessing because we, busy men, we, busy moms, we, busy families, we actually find God keeps presenting to us that substantial need that we have to find our thirst in God. So this morning I’m thinking of Malachi 2 which is one of the baptism themes. John the Baptist was coming in the spirit of Elijah and he ministered in such a way out of Malachi 4:6, I’ll read it here, “He shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.” I find that that turning of the heart, course that’s a beautiful picture of repentance, and it’s interesting to me that it is in the turning of the hearts of the fathers to their own children that the mechanism and means of repentance begins to be at work even for our children because of their father. I want to just suggest this morning to you men, to you fathers, to you potentially future fathers and men, you have an incredible role to play; you have a means of taking upon yourself the concern and care for your children. That turning of your hearts towards your children has the expressed capacity through the Gospel of Christ, through the grace of God, that turning of your hearts has with it the power to be turning hearts back to you and thus back to God and preparing a people for the Lord and that’s our role. There’s no greater joy, there’s no greater privilege for us as men than to have closed our life and look back and find that our children are walking in the truth, that they’re chasing after God with all their heart and that there’s no quavering, there’s no turning to the right or to the left for some vain pursuit, that their heart is fast after the Lord. When you have a family like I do and the children span and you see an older child here and you can sense a heart for God beginning to pump and beat, it gives encouragement, it gives satisfaction. But there’s also a tendency to be careless about some of the younger hearts. So I was asking a question of myself this morning, how can I pay a little better attention to my younger children so that I can deal with their heart issues while they’re still young because it’s a process, it’s quite unfinished in our home and I don’t want to lose one. In the home school ministry that we’ve been working with, I’ve had such a wide range of contact with families and we are now seeing families that began home schooling at kindergarten and they’re beginning to have children that graduate. I’ll just be frank, I’m not very pleased with many of the results that I see because when these children who in their youth they had this joy, they had this compatibility with their parents, they had this sense of unity, but when they hit that wall of the awakening of their thirsts and their passions and the attraction of the world, they hit that wall, they have found their parents to be incapable of bringing to them a correction and a direction. So we find capitulation after capitulation where worldly desire after worldly desire is capitulated to by the parent so that the child is satisfied. We have this stupid little standard that gets set up and that is “peace at any cost,” and if we have any sense of peace in our home, if we can avoid having conflict, too much conflict then things will be all right and they’ll eventually grow out of this. It’s kind of a laze fare attitude meaning “hands off,” don’t get too meddlesome and the kids will make it and get on their way. How we need parents with vision, how we need fathers with their hearts turned to their family, paying attention.

So I want to ask this morning as we go on in our discussion, I want to ask a couple questions kind of practically driven. Dad, do you know how to find, do you know how to identify the thirst in your child’s heart? Can you recognize when your child is thirsting after God? And that thirst is manifesting itself in something that’s not necessarily godly, can you recognize that? I just suggest here at the beginning of the discussion that that is part of our privilege, that is part of our need as fathers to pay attention to the thirsting in our children. Because I believe that if we’re alert to the spiritual thirsting of our children, we will have a greater sensitivity to our instruction and to how we deal with it. Simply put it this way, if God’s thoughts are higher than our thoughts and if God’s ways are higher than our ways and we see a thirsty child attempting to use the world’s ways and the world’s thoughts to satisfy a thirst, we as godly parents, as godly fathers will step in and by the grace and the opportunity given to us as fathers, interfere sufficiently to get that child to be challenged to try that thirst out on living waters where which you need no well at all to draw from. It’s that training, and I want to suggest here for us dads, sometimes we get embarrassed by our children’s immaturities and we think, “Oh my, my children look so terrible and people are going to think ill of me because my children are demonstrating such a sin nature.” Let’s not get caught there. Your children weren’t given to you as perfect little beings and you’re only job is to keep them perfect. Your children were given to you with sin natures. Your children were given to you with a desire bound up in their heart to live without God, that’s what foolishness is. Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child and the fool says in his heart, “There’s no God.” So that’s the very nature of this little package of a kid comes to you and they’re filled with self. They’re filled with the world view that means please me and that’s life and you are entrusted with the care of that heart and you’re entrusted with the opportunity to capture where the heart is wrapping itself around the world and instead of letting them have what they want you pry their fingers, as it were, off the railing they’re clinging to and help them learn to cling to God instead.

That particular process involves basically two things. I just want to suggest that these two things are kind of like categorical responses. The first thing is this, I must recognize the thirst for what it is. I must recognize the thirst for what it is. Here’s a secret that I learned in child training that came out of my own childhood. I remember when I was a child there were occasions that I was corrected for something that I had a natural inclination to and that natural inclination that I had toward those things actually was something that God had ordained, that God had ordered and I was not taught that this is something that God has ordained and God ordered but it needs to be preserved and protected. I was simply taught it was wrong. Because it was wrong in that particular frame of reference I was dealing with it, but because I was just taught that that was wrong, I was not given a greater perspective, I was not given a greater understanding and I was not taught how to treasure things. What Satan always does is Satan likes to steal treasures that we have and he likes to dispose of them carelessly, he likes to cast them aside as if they’re meaningless. So there’s an issue here of training our children in such a way that we recognize that when they are demonstrating appetites for the world and when they’re seemingly desiring to embrace the things of the world, that that’s not an occasion to first react in disgust and disappointment and say, “How come you’re such worldly, Godless children,” but rather that’s an occasion to say, “There is the ground where ministry must take place. There’s the opportunity.” My child is expressing thirst and I have an opportunity now to train my child toward God and say, “You know, God’s going to meet this need, can we trust God with this?” We can transfer through that counsel and exhortation, we can transfer that thirst to God and teach our children that it’s good to have thirst but that thirst must be met in God. It’s good to have thirst but that thirst must be met in God.

The second thing that I find in this process is that you cannot live by a set of rules and have the rules do the thinking for you. What you have to do is you have to live by a set of recognitions. You have to recognize the passions of the child’s soul. You have to recognize that and you have to be able to describe to the child what those passions are both in Biblical terms and in practical terms of their experience. And you have to be able to train their focus so they see what’s going on. I’ve found that my children are remarkably capable of responding when they see that they are deceiving themselves and that they’re not actually laying a hold of the truth. This little practice here, we often call it, “spiritual warfare,” it comes out of 2 Corinthians 10 where it talks about taking every thought captive to the obedience of Jesus Christ. And that whole concept of taking thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ centers around the understanding that the child already has a thought. And what’s the nature of that thought? Well from the Scripture we know that that thought is far different from God’s thought. It’s a completely different thought. So take the time to discover what the thought is: what are you thinking? What are you feeling? Discover that thought for what it is and then by the grace of God we have the mind of God and the thoughts of God that are useful for us today that He intends for us to deal with, those thoughts are recorded here in the Word. We can take this thought that our child is struggling with and we can exchange it for a thought that God has had. There’s the transfer of discipleship. There’s where it takes a father’s heart being turned towards his children to carry out this kind of activity because we have to identify the thought that needs being brought captive and we have to identify the thought of God by which to replace it and you replace it. You know what I find that’s incredible? It always has the capacity to dislodge for the child. And especially when you start young and you can identify what they’re thinking and identify what they’re fearing and you show what God has promised instead and then you challenge them, “Can we trust God this time? Can we do something God’s way this time? Can you wait?” In that process we take every single incident and the one thing that is pressed on my heart this morning is this: God has determined that we men be the heads of households. We are the priests of our homes. We have got to be there. You cannot depend on a great evangelistic preacher on the radio. You cannot depend on a great ministry, some Christian school or whatever. You can’t be looking to agencies and opportunities outside your home to rescue and salvage and deliver your children. You’re the one. You’re the one in residence. You’re the guy on duty. You have to be alert and awake and caring about the process that’s taking place in your children’s souls. Here’s the thing, many dads fail at this, there’s some canned statements I’ve heard from dads over the years. This isn’t going to be all of them because I didn’t make a list on purpose. But here’s one of them: “I went to public school and I turned out all right.” What kind of a statement is that? “I turned out all right.” First of all, who says you turned out all right? With a statement like that you show yourself to be an idiot. What kind of vision do you have? For some reason we dads hate confrontation with our children and I think part of that hate is we’re afraid of being rejected by them. Men, the greatest fear of a man is to be rejected. The greatest struggle he has in all his relations, he does not want to be rejected. You know what leadership is? Leadership is the most natural place of being rejected there is on earth. It’s the guy up front that gets shot with the arrow in the back by his own troops. So being a leader is not necessarily a position of great empathy and delight because you have to cross cut people’s feelings and their desires. So men as a tendency tend to want to avoid that because they like to be liked. So how often does dad come home and he has this little outlook on life, “Well when I was young I had to sow some wild oats too, but I turned out all right?” The old classic statement, everything comes back to, “I turned out all right, everything’s all right with me. Look around today, God’s grace covered.” It just doesn’t cut it. That has nothing to do with a man having leadership at all. It has absolutely nothing to do with leadership because a leader has to be one who’s considering the end, who recognizes the course and obstacles in that path and who devises a means of overcoming those obstacles to get to the end. That’s what a leader is. That’s what we’re called to be in our homes. I’ll tell you this: that was God’s plan from Creation, from day one. God has determined to raise up godliness, to raise up salvation, to raise up character and leadership, He’s determined to do it in our homes. That’s the place that He wants. What we have in the ministry of the church, the ministry of the church is primarily ministry to reach homes so that ministry can be extended. Paul had it real simply, he said, “Teach thou faithful men who will be able to teach others also.” Why are we teaching faithful men? Because faithful men are the ones that are called, they’re the key. They’re the ones that pass on the baton from one generation to the next. So I see here a necessity. I just want to ask a question, do you know how to recognize thirst in your children’s hearts? Because I believe, simply put, that if you can recognize the thirst in your child’s heart, then you’ll be a little bit more alert to what’s going on and as you see that thirst and you identify it for what it is, you’ll be able to engage your child. If you can’t engage your child with a vision for what that thirst is so that you can place it a notch higher and say, “I see that mess, great. And do you know why that’s great? Let me tell you about what God has said about it.” We see the need we have. This is what you’re striving for, you’re striving to have that need met. But you know what? There are some wells that satisfy and there are some wells that don’t. And you’re trying to dig a cistern that won’t hold water and you need a well of living water springing up. So here’s what you do: God has offered that, can you trust God? Can we just set aside our own wisdom, can we set aside our own understanding, can we trust God at this point? And we lift that objective higher for our child and we establish the right response and our child through careful fathering, learns how to transfer that natural thirst to the living water that has been promised for us by the Lord and is readily available and accessible to anyone who responds. The question is how do you get your child to respond to the Gospel? Nobody is going to respond to the Gospel until their thirsting soul is aching for it. That’s the way it is. It’s never going to happen. But what happens is this: we don’t recognize the thirsting souls of our children, we don’t see the thirst in little ways when they’re children and when they’re young. We don’t recognize the thirst. We just grin, “Isn’t that cute?” And we see them feasting themselves on little things and we see their souls on little things and we see it’s so minimal and it’s so mild, it’s such an insignificant thing and we just enjoy their frivolity and so they don’t have any spiritual training at a time when it’s very easy to bend the twig. So our children go on. (comment) I think that’s a valid statement, I think that’s generally true of leadership that’s why we began with that question about how do your feet look? Do you have beautiful feet? The reason why I mentioned that passage, I hope you will forgive me so I can tell it again. The reason why I mentioned that in context was because I’ve always heard that passage “how beautiful are the feet upon the hills of those that preach that Gospel,” and all I could think of was the arduous labor of missionaries trudging over mountain hills wearing their feet out and their feet being really ugly and calloused and sore and dirty and God calling that beautiful. So I thought well that’s God’s way, He calls things beautiful that are ugly because He sees the sacrifice that’s there and that’s always been my idea. But when R.C. Sproul gave that illustration that that expression “how beautiful are the feet” came out of the walled cities age when the person bearing good news could be noticed in the far off to be someone that’s got a catch to his steps meaning victory. They could declare victory before the guy ever got to town. And when they got to town all they’d do is tell all the details. Or they could tell by the feet that there was no good news this time, bad news. And that’s the question. What kind of feet do you have? Do you bear about the impression in your life that God is real, that God’s promises are sure and that His ways are perfect? When you jump out of bed in the morning is it with that spring of hope in God, in the King of Kings? Are all of your treasures hidden in Christ? That’s the key. There’s a need, there’s a need of turning. I do think that God has enabled children to be a source of repentance for fathers. Perhaps as children, especially those of us who didn’t become converted when we were children, perhaps as children we never managed to draw from our own fathers sufficiently what God had for us from them. So we come into adulthood, we come into marriage, we come into parenthood without some of our skills in place, without some of our sensitivities enlivened and then God gives us children and all the sudden the significance of our own children strikes us and the importance of their success and their safety. There’s a desire to pass on a heritage to them that we ourselves haven’t really cared about, is stirred up. And God uses children to help draw men back to reality, to get our attention, to pay a price and to have a higher goal. That issue of our own example is an important part of this process, of this discussion.

But I’m going to give a couple practical points and then I’m going to go on. But if you want to evaluate the thirst in your children, there’s some little ways of doing it in terms of drawing out their talk. A little trick I’ve used over the years just because it makes sense, “If you can wave a magic wand and have anything you want, name three wishes.” That’s an old fairy tale thing that kids grow up with, “Name three wishes.” That’s a great tool if you can do it in sincerity to find out what your child’s thinking is. “If you can have three things changed in your life permanently that God would change if you just asked Him, what would they be?” And draw them out and ask why. Start talking about why those issues are issues they want to change. And through the wisdom of listening and hearing what they’re thinking, you can begin to identify their thirsts and let them become satisfied in God instead of their own understanding, instead of their own thinking. That which we focus on by our own understanding is only worldliness. That which we focus on by our own understanding is only worldliness. Can we turn to 1 John chapter 2 and we’re going to read some verses there. 1 John 2 beginning at verse 15, the Scripture says this, “Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” As a brand new believer, that verse just struck me, it struck me powerfully, incredibly. It was simple, it was direct. It has been a life changing verse for me. It’s just a categorical point of reference. I am not to love the world, neither am I to love the things of the world. That’s just categorical. I have no right, I have no privilege, I have no benefit in loving the world or the things of the world in any way, shape or form. Let’s go on. “If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life is not of the Father but it is of the world. And the world is passing away and the lusts thereof. But he that doeth the will of God abides forever.” I’m going to continue but let’s just stop for a moment. That’s an interesting picture here. It’s quite categorical, it’s quite simple, it’s black and white and he does two things: he establishes the premise and the simple premise is this, you are not to love the world period with no exceptions and there’s no excuses. When we find our children being attracted to the world, emulating the world, seeking after the world and we fathers are capitulating in our leadership because we simply allow this love of the world to be implaced and implanted and permitted in their lives, we find that we are not parenting our children for God’s sake or for the Father’s sake. We’re parenting our children for some other model. And all I can really say is it’s out of fear, out of fear of losing our kid or breaking the relationship or what have you. But the categorical point of reference is this, we are not to love the world period and neither are we to love the things of the world. You know what’s amazing to me as I’ve watched young people? I’ve been in Christian ministry now for 22 years and I’ve been mostly involved in dealing with teenagers through school ministries. And in that time frame it is incredible to me. I observed this as a child before I was ever saved, but I noticed as a child (I think I mentioned this last week) that the older generation had really stupid styles of dress when they were growing up. And when I asked my parents about it, their answer was, “Well that’s just kids. You know how kids are, they just have to all dress funny and look alike.” Then we went through our 60’s and 70’s generation. We were just kids and the same thing. Here’s the point that I found. I became a Christian in 1972 and here’s the amazing thing that I’ve seen since then, I’ve seen probably, now this is just an emotional estimate it’s not a calculated estimate, but in my emotional estimate I’ve seen probably 85-95% of all Christian families capitulate to the world. Here comes the world’s standard, here comes the things of the world and the Christian parents have no capacity whatsoever to say “no” to their own kids, to teach their kids to how not to love the world. And the child comes home and starts begging and pleading and demanding and wanting and cajoling to get what they want and dad capitulates. You know it’s usually dad because dad’s the headsman, he’s the guy that’s responsible and so he’s the one Satan knocks out. So you usually have these moms who have no better, who are clinging to help and hope in dad and dad won’t help them. And after awhile many many moms give up and they say, “I’m trusting God to use my husband, this is what my husband says.” It’s kind of like “oh well, I can’t solve the problem.” But here’s the whole point of our discussion, there happens to be innately in man a thirst. There is a thirst innately in man that’s hungering to be satisfied and when I love the world, when I love the things of the world, what’s happening is my thirst that is designed to find God and find satisfaction in God, my thirst is searching; I’m looking for that drink of cool refreshing. And you know what I need? I need a parent with enough wisdom and enough courage to say, “That desire that you have is there from God for your benefit, for your life. And can we drink instead of the world, can we drink of God instead?” Right there in the incidental thing where the sin of the world comes pressing in, we have the wisdom and the insight and the courage to say, “Here, as for me and my house we’re going to serve the Lord and this is what it looks like. I’m going to give you an example, you can follow my lead but we’re not going to abide after the things of the world in this house. We’re going to love God.” Here’s the secondary point of reference. Now for parents, this is that secondary thing and that’s the thing of courage. Not only do you have to have the willingness to discover the thirst and to discover their mind, but you also have to have an eternal strength of determination to resist your child. Victory is going to come not because you have already thought of a canned answer, it’s going to be a permanent solution to every child that comes down in your house. That’ll never happen, you’ll never have one rule that’ll fit and cause every child to go right because you don’t win anybody by rules. If laws could be written that would win people, we’d all been won a long time ago by the law. But we win by determination. We just say like Joshua said of old, “But I want to tell you one thing, as for me and my house we’re going to serve the Lord.” Categorically settled, no questions asked, this is the direction we’re going. And the Scripture has an amazing thing when Joshua’s account is given and he ends that statement, “As for me and my house we’re going to serve the Lord,” and it says that all of that generation served the Lord. That’s a sweeping victory. The heads of households universally across the land said, “We’re going to follow the Lord in this day,” and they did. And they raised godly children and that whole next generation of godly children were the fruit of caring and careful parents. But in just a generation, the next generation of parents didn’t have the courage of their conviction. They didn’t have the determination to say, “We’re going to serve the Lord,” to their children. So, they capitulated to the temptation and the things of the world and they fell into sin and fell into judgment. When you look at this verse here, in 1 John chapter 2 verse 15, the second part of the verse says, “If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him,” that is the kind of thing that serves me as a man to make me categorically determined to stick my heels in and serve God because God is not mincing His words, God is not playing games. He’s simply saying things like this, “Name an idol of worldliness that you struggle with in your children.” Don’t name it out loud or tell me but think about it. If you’re in the married world and you’re struggling with your children in your home right now, name it. Parents, fathers, dads, if you capitulate to your child, the love of God is not in you. You are bereft of the love of God, you have nothing of it. You do not love God and your child is not being given anything of the love of God at that point; you’ve abandoned God. I don’t know about you, but that’s starkly piercing to me. I do not want to find myself at a place where I can reflect upon myself and consider that I have made a categorical decision that we’re not going to love God here and we’re not going to expect His love to be upon us in this place. So we’re going to do our own thing and we’re going to have our own blessing out of our own thing. I’m just not willing to determinedly make that kind of a decision. I want God. I want God’s blessing. I want to be loving God.

But this categorical is what’s important to give us strength, men. There’s a little bit of black and white that’s so starkly white, that’s so starkly white that God just tells us, “Choose you this day.” You can’t be a little bit for God. You’re either going to be entirely for God or you’re going to be entirely against God. And if you are the least little bit for the world, you are entirely against God. Isn’t that something? If you are the least little bit for the world you are entirely against God. You cannot have the love of God in you when you are surrendering any turf at all to the world. It’s not there and if you think it is, you’re fooling yourself, but you’re not fooling God. In James, He calls us adulteresses and adulterers, “Don’t you know that friendship with the world is enmity with God.” We are purely fake. We say we’re believers but we’re living with the prostitutes of this world. And the worst thing about it is we put a little Christian label on our heads saying, “I love Jesus,” as we walk around looking like the rest of the world, who sees us for what we are. They’re not blind to it. They see that we’re capitulating to their standards and we leave them nothing to desire. “Why should I desire to be like Christians, they’re trying to be like us? I don’t have anything to gain. Obviously we’re where it’s at. We’re something they can gain.” Think about it. It’s severely important. It has everything to do with what it means to be a disciple of Jesus Christ. We’re not talking about this little mamby pamby mild association with Christianity. It has to do with a different group of people which we’ll see here in the text in a minute. Then he goes on and he identifies the world in a little bit more plain terms for us to analyze it and reflect on it personally. And that’s this, verse 16, “For all that is in the world, all of it, the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the pride of life is not of the Father but is of the world.” All of it. Now you get down to this, what’s the word “lust” mean? Simply put in the Greek the word “lust” means “desire.” But in the sense that that desire is spelled out, the King James word helps us to articulate that little concept a little bit more stark terms because lust is an appetite out of control. It’s where the appetite is wisdom, “I have to have this. I cannot be satisfied until I have this.” It’s an appetite. It becomes a flame, a fire as it were that must be quenched by its being satisfied. So it’s a pressure to conform, it’s a determination to have what you want. It’s this innate nature of foolishness that’s bound up in the heart of a child…(tape turned here)…and anywhere because when we get to Heaven these things will no longer be there. And everything associated with any kind of godliness in the flesh, can only be experienced here in the flesh. You will not get a chance to experience that later in Heaven because you will not have fleshly appetites in Heaven. There will be no flesh in Heaven. So the flesh is the occasion whereby this crossroads rubs. And I have to learn to set aside that temporary gratification of the flesh based upon its gratification. It tastes good to eat a big, juicy hamburger and that is the nature of the temptation, to let that juicy hamburger and its goodness as I enjoy it be the rule because it’s good I enjoy it, nothing wrong with that. It’s the whole nature of that giving yourself over in love, that appetite you’re attempting to satisfy the purpose of life by your appetite. And of course there are multiple areas that relate to the flesh, but basically that gratification of the flesh is a natural instinct of men on the earth and that’s the natural instinct of the world. The world is primarily chasing after an ideal by which the flesh can be gratified easily and often without interference, that’s the nature of the world.

Second point here is the lust of the eyes. Notice the difference between the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes. The lust of the flesh has to do with appetites that are close at hand and able to be satisfied but the lust of the eyes happens to deal with covetousness, happens to deal with things that are outside your range. So here you are, you’re driving along in a little bucket of rust and you look over here and you see somebody driving in a shiny new vehicle and immediately the lust of the eyes say, “Wouldn’t it be nice to have a shiny new car?” And so the lust of the eyes are at work. Your eyes are seeing something and you’re measuring. What’s important for us to understand in terms of lust of our eyes is the means by which we survey and search and seek out the wisdom of the world as it were to make our choices and we make choices based upon appearances and that’s the nature of man. Man looks on the outward appearance but God looks on the heart. So with our eyes, we are subject to this different worldview. Remember how God said, “My ways are not your ways and My thoughts are not your thoughts?” Here’s one of the examples of it, our standard is our eye, what’s pleasing to our eye. I can tell you, I can look at a bucket of rust and I can look at a shiny new car and it doesn’t take me much effort to see which one is more pleasant, which one is more pleasing. It doesn’t take much. It’s just kind of obvious and I’m attracted to that which is more pleasing. That’s the nature of things. There’s a saying in Psalm about the rich, the only mistake that the rich have is that they have all this stuff that they heap up but the only thing they can do with it is feast their eyes on it. You really can’t get much else out of it than just look at it. I’ve found that it’s just as easy to look at somebody else’s riches as mine if all I’m going to do is feast my eyes on it. “I’m getting as much fun out of this as he is, but I don’t have to pay the bill.” The lust of the eyes. That’s a great motivator in man toward the world. And the little phrase that young people bring to us is this, “Everybody else is doing it.” You know what that means? That they’ve used the lust of the eyes to measure truth. They’ve set a standard by what they see and that’s what they want to have to be the standard for them. And that’s sin and that’s of the world and it has nothing to do with the love of God, period, no exception, no mistake, that’s it, it’s clear, it’s clear and simple and it’s also unholy.

The third thing here is the pride of life. What is the pride of life? Think about what the pride of life is. We all basically know what pride is in one way, shape or form, but what is the pride of life? The pride of life is that which actually shapes my entire motivational system because by the pride of life I find myself setting goals to achieve that which is important for my life’s existence and in this world the pride of life is built around the accumulation of wealth, treating myself well and having prestige among men and by that prestige being placed in prominence in society. I’ve heard a mock among churches when I was first saved and they said something like this, “The average church in America chooses for their board of deacons or board of trustees or whatever board they have to control, they choose the successful businessmen in the church to run the churchboard.” That’s the average ideal and I just ask one question, on what basis is that choice being made? Is it possible that very frequently, not always because thank God there can be an occasional rich man that has a godly heart, but I believe they are few and far between if the Scripture’s right. But the truth of the matter is, we get attracted to visual worldly success and we say, “They know how to put it together, they can help us put it together here and we’ll get that same success by getting these people in our group.” And that’s part of this lust of the world, lust of the eyes and the pride of life. We want to appear to be successful. I wonder how great the scandal is, I wonder how great the scandal is when the total amount of money spent on American church buildings is calculated and weighed against the total need of the Gospel being spread. I just wonder. I imagine that people are attempting to attract the world to Christ by having elaborate successful looking buildings that attract people in and say, “Wow this is successful people, successful church. If God is here, maybe I want God.” It’s the whole attracting through the world as the lens and the means of the Gospel and it simply isn’t going to happen. You’re not going to get a Gospel watered down by God because you in your wisdom think that you can attract people by the outward appearance of success. Do God’s people have to look dumpy and dooped? No, no. People who are poor can wash their faces. A clean face is not necessarily a sign of being worldly. There’s other things that it can reflect. But the question is, where are we in this process? Are we those that are training our children after the lusts of the flesh, the lust of the eyes and the pride of life, are we capitulating? Because if we are you know what you’•re doing? Every time you capitulate to one of these lusts, you are not building in your children the hope in the Gospel. But you’re building it rather in something else. All I can say is don’t be surprised when they turn away from the Lord, they never had the Lord, they never saw the Lord in you. All they saw was your fear of losing the world and you capitulated on occasion after occasion after occasion after occasion and the result? Death. Death to all because you don’t have victory. You don’t have resurrection life. You don’t have transformation theology. You haven’t been transformed by the resurrected Christ. You haven’t surrendered the old, bleak, puny thoughts of man and laid a hold of the immense incredible thoughts of God. And you haven’t surrendered your life and forsaken the world. You’ve simply chased after that which is your own.

Let’s go on in the passage, verse 17 makes a point of reference. Here’s another help for dads. Verse 17, “The world passes away and the lusts thereof but he that doeth the will of God abides forever.” “The world passes away and the lusts thereof but he that doeth the will of God abides forever.” This is a very simple principle and it is the exclusive principle towards spiritual life and it’s what I call the transfer principle. Here’s my suggestion, you can always transfer affection from the world to God when you succeed at understanding that what you have in the world is only temporary. Remember that passage that I read when I came back from my mother’s funeral from Psalm 49? Incredible statement about the end of the wealthy whose only thought is their wealth, whose only thought for their life is the doing well in this life mentality. It says they’re no better than the beasts of the field that die. They have no more understanding being applied to their soul than a beast who wanders around and eats grass until he dies. But they’re just stupid because they’re living out of this carnal appetite and they’re falsely consoling themselves that they’ve arrived, that they’ve achieved some great thing because they have accomplished something financially speaking in the world. The lust of this world is passing away, the lust of this world is passing away. It is really a blessing that we have such a short span of life. God shortened our lives by about the time of Moses. He sharpened it to a focus that by Moses’ day Moses was able to say in Psalm 90, that the span of man’s life is 70 years and if by reason of strength it’s 80 yet it’s toil and trouble. This very limited number of days and he comes back and says, “So Lord teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.” What a wise thing and thank God that we do have short lives. Here I am, I’m age 47 and I’m recognizing my mother just passed away, it was just yesterday, literally, it was just yesterday that my mother was my age and I was Daniel’s age. It was just yesterday and now she’s gone. My mother died at 71. She died in that age frame that Moses said. And it’s over, it’s a great challenge, it’s a great reminder that this life is short, that it’s not going to last forever and ever and ever. And we have to be alert to that end. So I always ask my children, I remember asking a class of seniors in high school years ago, I said, “I know you’re one week away from graduation and you’re all excited about your future and everything but what would you think if the Holy Spirit spoke to me and told me to tell you that ten people in this class would not see graduation day, that they must give an account to God for a permanent graduation in Heaven? What would you think and what would you say?” I was just trying to get their attention on eternal things. You should have seen their faces turn ashen white. They were shocked. They hadn’t even given it a consideration. You know, last week we heard from an aquaintance that Kent worked for, a two year old girl killed. Death is close at hand. Our 70 year life span is only if we live a normal life and don’t get killed in some accident or some other kind of mishap or whatever. There’s no guarantee that you’ll make it to 70. The reality is so stark. Things are temporary and what does it matter if you can gain something temporarily and then lose the only permanent thing that you have which is your soul. That whole dynamic, fathers, is here: when you can first of all train your own eyes, train your own eyes to look past the temporary satisfaction. So what? So what if you get it? What’s going to happen to you? What does it really matter? What’s going to happen down the road? Begin training to see things from the eternal perspective. If it doesn’t contribute to eternity, don’t spend your money on it. “Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread? And your labor for that which does not satisfy? Hearken diligently and hear and delight your soul in fatness.” God wants to serve us today and fatten us in the spiritual man by which we ourselves of our own energy shed the love of this world. God isn’t going to reach in and grab the love of this world and yank it out of us. We are going to release it and we’re going to release it with joy. We’re going to release it with vision because we see, “Yes, I’m an eternal soul, there’s something more than this at stake and I’m going to buy into that which is eternal. I’m going to get a hold of that which really matters.” That’s how we make our decisions and that’s how you train someone towards Christ. You don’t train someone towards Christ by telling them about Jesus dying on the cross for their sins and that if they receive Christ they go to Heaven and that’s all you do. Absolutely not. You’re talking about transformation through repentance. You’re talking about an exchange. You’re talking about something that is naturally inclined in the child’s heart to lay a hold of this world. When you’re talking about that, you’ve forsaken because there’s a greater thing to hold onto. And you’re training that appetite, you’re training that thirst, to lay a hold of God, to lay a hold of Him with all his heart and that’s training kids. You know, it is a blessing when you get to train your children in that path and you see them of their own free will voluntarily let go of the things of the world because they have it in their heart, they have it in their mind. And dads, that’s why it’s your responsibility. The Scripture says you’re to rule your homes according to knowledge. That means you have to take the application of the Word of God, the bold simple statements that are there and you need to bring it right down into the living room of your own house and you have to shed light on the turmoil and the false thirst that is engaging children’s hearts to pursue and seek after the world. You’ve got to through the exhortation of the Word and hopefully by God’s grace through the discipline of that child especially in the early years, bring them to the place where they long to hear and turn their ear to God and to His Word, where they can yield their will because God is right and they’re going to yield to God every time. That’s our job, that’s our privilege. And you know what? It is a tremendous hopeful task. There is hope in this. It will transform lives. It will bring up godly children. It will cultivate a testimony that God will accept and own. That’s what our job is all about.

Look at verse 18. Verse 18 is real interesting in the context of this loving of the world. It said, “Little children it is the last time and as ye have heard the antichrist shall come, even now there are many antichrists whereby we know that it is the last time.” Stop. What is that warning? Theologically speaking from the place of time and space, God has set a day to judge the earth. He’s appointed that time and in the process of judging the earth He’s also going to judge Satan. And in that time and space continuum Satan is going to be turned into the world and he’s going to have one last hay day. And Satan is going to have one last evangelistic campaign to round up all his followers that he can. And Satan’s goal of course is the destruction of all the souls of those he gathers. His appearance is to resist God but he knows his doom is sure, he knows his doom is sure. So when he comes to earth it’s in a rage that his doom is sure. It’s not in a rage, it’s not in some hopeful that he’s going to win. He has no hope of winning and he knows it. But what Satan does is he imposes that which is the opposite of Christ, that which is the opposite of Christ. I want to get the principle here, real simple to you. In the future antichrist shall come, that’s the big one. That’s the one who is Satan himself. Antichrist is coming, that’s the premise, that’s the principle. Watch the practice because this is how God always teaches us to train, this is how always we learn to walk in a pattern toward godliness, “and even so now there be many antichrists, even so now there be many antichrists.” I want you to think about that statement for a moment in time and space. The apostle John wrote this. It could have been no later than 85 A.D. So we’re just a short distance after the time of Christ, still a first generation of Christ’s followers are still on the earth. And he says, “Now there are many antichrists. This is how we know that it’s the last time,” is what he said. Let me draw a picture for you. John is teaching us, he’s warning us about the love of the world, lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes and the pride of life. He’s warning us about that and he’s warning us that we live in a time frame called “the last times.” We’re in the last times and in this last times there are many antichrists and they’re all imitation models of the future big one, the big antichrist. And here’s God’s pattern of training and dads, here’s your job. It’s time to wake up and repent where we are tuning into the little antichrists. We need to be training our children to see the antichrists in the little occasions and the little desires of the world as time goes on. It is our job, it is our duty, we are on line. We must carry the burden, we must set our heart to the task. We’re it. There be many antichrists right now. Now notice what happens, here’s something that’s fearful. Take this consideration, the theological premise of verse 15 was, “If the love of the world is in you, the love of the Father is not in you.” That’s a categorical statement. If we said it in a more blunt manner, it would be this, “Those who have the love of the world in them are not saved and those who have the love of Christ in them are saved.” Categorical. As we go along here and we see this process being building, he says that the world’s passing away, “But he that doeth the will of God abides forever.” Now we’re seeing that categorical demonstration be brought down into final fruition. There’s a coming judgement day and there’s only a select few who are going to make it through judgement day and those are the ones that have done the will of God, those are the ones that have learned by grace to lay a hold of Christ in all circumstances, those who are living by the Gospel. In that picture then of the last days, he introduces a concept of antichrist and he says here, “We know that it’s the last time that antichrist is coming.” Now look at the next verse because verse 19 ties in the thought practically, he says, “They went out from us but they were not of us, they went out from us but they were not of us.” That’s an important picture of practical application and it brings us right down to people in this room today. There are people in this room today who are not of us. You know how we will know that they are not of us? Because there’s coming a time that they will depart from us. They have nothing to do with us and they want to get away, they’ve got to get away, they’ve got to get out of here. There’s this categorical departure in terms of separation, the breaking off. That is the nature and that is the work of antichrist. Antichrist uses the lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes and the pride of life, he uses those things which are all of the world to come into the church and attract out those who have nothing to do with Christ and he robs right from our own midst those who could be reached by the Gospel, those who should be reached by the Gospel. That is the nature of the spiritual warfare. We’re looking at it as if the battle is raging, the bombs are being launched, the warfare is taking place and as we’re looking over through the smoke and we see what’s going on and we see these departing souls, we’re recognizing that there are those among us who have no concept of what it means to pursue God because their highest sense of value is the world. And here’s the key: when your highest sense of value is the world, you will not suffer the loss of it for Christ, you won’t. When your highest value is the world, you will not suffer the loss of it for Christ and there’s the pulling tail of antichrist, he’ll get you to the point and finally he’s got you and he separates you and you make that decision to hold fast to this world. Now dads, I want to say categorically, you have a lot to do to preserve your children and to protect your children from antichrist. Antichrist is an opposition to what you really want for your children. But you are on duty and when this worldliness of the world comes trucking into our home, it’s trucking under the sweet little umbrella of antichrist. Isn’t that wonderful? I just want to ask a question, maybe this will help, the next time your kid asks you to put an earring in their nose or paint their hair green which these are obviously extremes that we don’t have in our midst but when you get to that place where there’s a struggle going on, paint yourself a little picture, will you? Paint yourself a picture of antichrist with a little bucket of wares and all that your children are asking you are in his bucket and they’re trying to sell you for your child. And ask yourself a question, do you want to be buying wares from antichrist by which your child’s sense of affection is settled and fixed in the world? Is that what you want to be doing as a father? And if the answer is no then get on duty. Get on duty because your job is to turn that aside, your job is to get it out of your home, your job is to rid yourself of it. If you value your child’s soul, you’ll value the child’s soul more than the temporary tension that you’ll feel in the locking personalities in the conflict. But your care will be sufficient, it will be genuine and you’ll be able to hold up the prize and you’ll be able to say, “This is it.”

I want to say this, this is God’s Word and this is how God sees the whole playing field. He’s looking at everybody’s heart and God knows people’s hearts and here’s the picture, those who are truly born again have a condition which deals with baptism and we’ll get to that, but he says this, “They went out from us but they were not of us for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us. But they went out.” (Comment- There are very few elements of 2 Thessalonians chapter 2 but Paul is talking about the Lord’s returning ..and gathered together with Him, he said there will come a falling away first and that man shall be revealed.) Thank you Mike, that was an excellent point of reference because I was alluding from the context that there is one antichrist but now there are many little antichrists and so what Mike said was that in Thessalonians, two things are present. Number one, there’s the big antichrist who arrives. And with the big antichrist there arrives a falling away and there’s going to be an occasion when there’s a great falling away from the church. As I look at the church, I’m fearful. I look at the church and I say, “You know the falling away is going to be so amazing, it’s going to be so sweeping that we’re going to be stunned at the number of people pulled away by the antichrist.” It’s going to be stunning. We sit here and we think of it theologically, “Yeah, yeah there’s going to be a falling away, people are going to turn away from God but it’s not going to me because I’m standing for God.” But it’s like Peter, you know what Peter said? “I’ll die with you.” And He said, “Yeah? Tonight three times you’re going to deny me before the cock even crows twice.” That’s because He knows the heart. That’s because He sees where we’re meddling and piddling with the world and its affections. What was Peter’s affections for the world? Do you remember? What was Peter’s worldly affection? Remember when Peter made a profession of faith? He said, “Thou art the Christ, Son of the living God.” And Jesus said, “No man hath told you this but the Father alone.” And then five minutes later Jesus begins telling His disciples that He must die and be punished and be put to death, be crucified and be buried and Peter said, “Not so Lord, we’re not going to let this happen.” And Jesus said, “Get behind me Satan.” See, the antichrist was at work, opposing the work of Christ. “Get behind me Satan for you desire not the things of God but the things of man.” And that was Peter’s fall, he was desiring the things of man. Peter was imperfect in his following of Christ at that point because Peter was following Christ for the present kingdom. Peter was one of the ones that said, “Now when are you going to restore the kingdom? We’re getting tired of this game here we play, this business of dying and rising from the grave. Let’s have the kingdom now, we’re ready for that.” The whole issue is an illustration. The kingdom, the disciples and the Jews had transformed the kingdom into such a worldly thing that they were in a worldly mindset. They were anxious to get rid of the Romans, they were anxious to survive and have this prestige of nations and they were simply carnal in their whole thrust of what had been spiritually promised. And that’s a warning to me because if Peter can have a carnal appetite for a spiritual promise, woah! How much more can we be lost in the shuffle when we get tied up with the carnal promises of the world and thinking and putting cloaks on them of righteousness, which we do. It’s an incredible picture. This picture of denial is real present. As antichrist in the end will work on a great falling away of the church, so today the many antichrists working through the lusts of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, the pride of life, those many antichrists are also working at a falling away. I simply want to say this to you parents, when your children are young and in your home, they’re sanctified by your presence, they’re sanctified by your faith and there is that which you extend to them that they share in terms of your righteousness and your grace and the gift of salvation that you have received. That’s intended by God for their good as you lead them and walk them down the path of life. But there has to come a point at which they own Christ for their own. And sadly to say we get into this theology of saying a prayer for salvation that this theology pushes us to getting our children to repeat a prayer and say, “O.k. they’re saved now, I’ve got this one saved,” and so as soon as we get all the kids to pray the prayer then I’m satisfied, “All my kids are going to Heaven. Now the big part’s over, now the rest we’ll just hope they follow God.” Bologna! That’s absolute bologna. You have no capacity as a parent to tell the true test of faith of a child when that child makes a little profession of faith. All that you can do is lead them again and again to follow after. The whole point is continuance. God’s people continue in the faith. So your job as a parent is to be on duty cultivating the captivity of their thoughts to the obedience of Jesus Christ. That’s your job. And you are to be on duty, alert because here’s this child that you said claimed Christ and all the sudden this great thirst rises up in their soul, thirst for God and they know it not and they reach out to quench that thirst with the world. And where are you parent? Where are you? You need to be on duty and alert and capturing that thirsty appetite and teaching it and training it to find its satisfaction in God and God alone and that’s your duty and that’s your job. And that cycle repeats itself endlessly in the home. For me and my house, it’s important that I have an understanding that goes something like this, “The Lord knows them that are His, but let them that name the name of Christ depart from iniquity.” That’s the model for our home. We’re going to learn to walk in this house departing from iniquity. We’re going to pattern departure. We’re going to forsake the world, we’re going to forsake ourselves. That’s going to be the pattern, that’s going to be the identifying mark because that’•s what a Christian does and so that’s the model. And you can never capitulate to a child at that point. And what we have is is this tendency in American Christianity to capitulate. “Well they accepted Christ. They’re in a difficult point, all their friends are, they’re feeling so estranged, just a little bit won’t hurt.” We capitulate to the flesh and we feed it and we haven’t done anything but harm that potential reality because you never know the point at which suddenly, finally they tune in, they really understand and they transfer over to become a son of God. You don’t really know that point. But you’re on duty to be training towards it daily, day in and day out, constantly, continuously.

Look at the next verse. “€œThey went out but that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.”€ Whether you are of God or not has to do with your faith in Jesus Christ that’€™s why you lay a hold of heavenly things instead of earthly things. But the proof of the fact that you’€™re laying a hold of Christ appears in your walk, it appears in the place where you set aside that which is vain, that which is worldly, that which has no fruit and that’€™s the place of the testing. And there will be a manifestation. I just want to tell you, I want to warn you parents, I want to threaten you parents if it’€™s possible to threaten you: you cannot pretend your children will one day manifest what they’€™re like. Don’€™t waste time on the pretenditures of your apparatus, the little things that you use to console yourself that “€œyes, I’€™m sure my little Johnny’€™s a Christian. I remember when he was 5, we knelt down by the bedside and he wept big crocodile tears. I just know he’€™s a Christian.” That’€™s not for you to know. The Lord knows them that are His. We can cry for a lot of reasons. The question isn’t whether you have the capacity to discern their faith, the question is whether you have the capacity to train their faith, that’€™s your job. And the faith of God’€™s people is expressed in a faithful continuum. Will there be slippings, will there be slidings? Yes, yes, yes. That’€™s the process. That’€™s why you keep coming back, that’€™s why you keep coming back. You keep marking the mark and you keep reestablishing the truth. And one day it’ll stand.

This Colorado shooting was a remarkable thing. If you have had any chance to read some of the more private and personal exchanges that have gone on just describing what took place with some of these young people in their own personal lives and the things that happened in the Christian community and the thing that I remark is this, God was able to reach in and shake some of His own people and at that hour of the shaking they stood up and they shone forth and there was no warning, there was no gentle, slow getting ready. There was just a sincerity that when the moment came, bang, they demonstrated what was the core value, what was their core beliefs. And that’s what we’€™re training, we’re training people that have a heavenly view. And there are going to be occasions for testing that heavenly view because many antichrists dwell in this world and they are always pressing and pursuing the agenda of the world. The question is, do you have the courage, do you have the courage, do you have the courage to preach Christ faithfully? To preach separation from the world? That one girl that was a martyr for her faith in Jesus, two years before, she was in witchcraft completely lost but the power of the living and the resurrected Christ transformed her and she was a child of God and she was a determined child of God. Her testimony was so bold and open and she was a remarkable example of the grace of God at work. And God was able to call on her at an instant and bring forth and magnify that simple continuance of the faith. That was her heritage, that was her lot. That’€™s what we’€™re raising up with our kids.

I don’t want to skip the last verse because that’€™s the key where we’re going with baptism. Verse 20, “€œBut you have an unction from the Holy One and you know all things. I have not written unto you because you know not the truth but because you know it and that no lie is of the truth.”€ He goes on and talks about the lies of the antichrist but I’€™m going to end right there. The point is simply this, I have some summary views of baptism which maybe I’€™ll get to next week, but water baptism is an expression of repentance. It’€™s an expression of an alignment. It’€™s an absolute expression of statement that says, “€œI have forsaken the world, I have set it all aside, I have nothing in the world that I’€™ve got invested that I want to hold on to. I’€™m done, I’€™m undone, I’€™m finished.” Water baptism is that public declaration of my allegiance. And what happens is though there is something else called Spirit baptism. And the baptism of the Holy Spirit is the actual transaction of salvation. That’s where God is doing the work, He transfers over. And what was looked to in this passage of verse 20 was, “€œYou have an unction from the Holy One, you have an unction from the Holy One.”€ Those who have the Holy Spirit have the resource, we have the resource. Now here’€™s the important principle to apply back down, if you’€™re raising children, you’re children are either born again or they’€™re not. If your children are born again, they have an unction from the Holy One. If your child doesn’€™t have an unction from the Holy One, they’€™re not born again. God is the superintendent of salvation. He’€™s the One that oversees people’€™s faith. He knows when someone has come to Him forsaking all and clinging only to Him, He knows that, and at the moment someone clings to Christ, God owns them and He puts the Holy Spirit as their evidence. There’€™s a Scripture that talks about this down payment, this little surety paper that says, “€œI belong.”€ The evidence I’m a Christian is the indwelling Holy Spirit period. That indwelling Holy Spirit has a work to do so if we’re training children who have the indwelling Holy Spirit, we have an advantage with them because we keep leaning upon the truth and the Holy Spirit enables their response. So we’€™ll make much progress with children if you walk in proper discipline with your children as I have spoken this morning and your children are saved, they will make much progress in their faith. They will incredibly well founded in the Word of God and in walking in righteousness and in turning from antichrist. They will have extreme success because they have begun to learn as a child in little things how to use the Holy Scriptures which makes them wise to salvation and they’€™ll be responding on that. If your child has a say-so faith and they’€™re not yet saved, meaning the Holy Spirit does not yet dwell in your child, you don’€™t know that. There’€™s not any way you can really tell as a parent. So if they say they believe, you treat them like they believe and you keep treating the truth. If they say they don’€™t believe, then you exhort them towards the truth. But in every respect and in every way you continually set forth that which is eternal and you continue to deny. And I just want to make one statement here for parents as a rule, whether your children are saved or lost, whether they have the Holy Spirit or whether they don’€™t, whether you know they have the Holy Spirit or whether you don’€™t know it, you only have one goal; you only have one objective. You don’€™t have to have different kinds of parenting, you just preach and teach the same one thing, and here’s what you do, you establish the rule of obedience. You have beautiful feet. You establish the premise that says, “As for me and my house, we Will serve the Lord. We are going to serve the Lord, that is our nature, we are going to pursue that path.” So you mark out for your children and make it plain that if your child comes in and I don’€™t forsee it usually getting to this point in most homes, but if your child comes in and says, “Well I’€™m not a Christian, I don’t believe anyway and I don’t care a bit about it, I just want to have the world, now let me have it.”€ If that’s how frankly your child speaks to you, then you just speak to them and say, “Well son, daughter, this is my house and I just want you to know something, in my house we’€™re going to serve the Lord. I’€™m sorry but we’€™re not going to errect any idols in our home and none of my children are going to dwell in my home and walk in idolatry. And if you want to live so categorically opposed to the Gospel, you’€™ll have to do it in your own house. If you’re not old enough to have your own house, you’€™re just going to have to wait, you’re going to have to tough it out. While you’€™re here you’€™re not going to get away with doing anything that violates my faith because we’re going to serve the Lord.” And you enforce your own obedience because this is your house. You’€™re the commander-in-chief, you’€™re the one responsible for setting the tone and you make that tone holy and you don’€™t let anyone come in under any pretext or under any weakness of theology, don’€™t let anyone come in and water down your obedience to Christ. You just stand there. Don’€™t let antichrist have any wedge, any edge. And force the issue. The sooner your child leaves home, the better the issue because they’€™re being made to decide, they’re being made to decide. That decision must be categorical as God Himself sees it, “You are either loving Me or you are hating Me.”€ If you love the world at all, the love of the Father is not in you, categorical. Make your home a categorical place. Don’t be so wrapped up with the feely weelies that your children mean more to you than your obedience to God because what is the sin of Eli? What was the sin of Eli? When God spoke against them and spoke of his sin, He said, “You honored your sons more than you honored Me.” That was his sin. How did he honor his sons? With weak will in discipline. He did not enforce holiness because of his authority and domain. Listen, this is possible. You can do this without being in a ranting and raving temper. It’€™s totally possible. You know what makes it possible? Your own sincerity, €œWe will serve the Lord. I’€™m going to honor God above all.€ God will help you. God will help you in whatever venue. He’ll help you recognize and see, “Here it is right here.”

Maybe it would be helpful to add one little comment and that is the issue of how your children argue with you and debate. First statement is, a child that debates with his parents and the parent answers back, the parent has lost their authority already. To answer back a child when they are engaged in debate, is to give your child honor that they don’€™t deserve. They don’€™t have the authority and they cannot speak to you in that manner. It’s not their place. They must learn to speak to you by a proper respect through an appeal, through an entreaty, train them how to speak to you with respect and entreaty. Don€™’t even talk about it. Doesn’t matter what the issue is. They may be right and you can tell them that, €œYou may be totally right but I don’t even care because you don’t have the first thing right and that is respecting God. God is the one you should be seeking and I’m a representative of God and you come to me with respect and if you want to say something, speak with honor and make your entreaty with kindness and show in your entreaty a willingness to submit because you respect my authority in this domain. And if you don’€™t get that right, don’€™t even talk to me because you have no place for discussion.€ But you know what we do. Our children mouth of at the tongue and say some stupid thing and we answer them back. We try to explain with logic how stupid that was and they’€™ve engaged us on their terms and now we’€™re in a debate. You know what’s amazing? The debate of a sinner is more agile than the debate of one who is stupid enough to engage in it who’€™s supposed to be holy. Because if you were holy, you wouldn’t have answered back. But all you’€™re doing is you’€™re clamouring for their affection and so you’€™re weak, you’re the weak person and you’€™ll lose. You’€™ll lose every time. Am I angry? I’€™m angry at antichrist, I’€™ll tell you that much. Am I determined? I hope I’m determined. I hope with the dying breath that I have that I can shake a few souls up to the simple reality that we can make a difference in our children, that we do sit in a sit of instruction and authority and that we can have an impact. I am sick and tired of the Christian world looking to great evangelists, great preachers, and great ministries to do all the work of training up a godly generation. It’€™s high time that the people of God in the person and in the authorities of the fathers get a hold of their responsibility and raise up a godly offspring because they have the will to by God’€™s grace. It’€™s time that we get to that point. I’€™ll tell you this by my experience over the last 22 years, I have never seen a family where the father was determined to honor God, I’ve never seen it fail to produce fruit. And I’ve never seen that family..(tape ends here).

Posted on June 1st, 1999 by Abby  |  No Comments »

Light versus Darkness

Pastor Gary Cox

“Feed the flock of God with a ready mind,” I was thinking of that sentiment, “feed the flock,” there’s just two levels or there’s two layers of the flock here. There’s the flock of God’s people but then as you look out over the flock of God’s people, what do you predominately see? You predominately see smaller flocks and each smaller flock is a family unit. I think that a sensitivity to that is extremely valuable and perhaps in our day it’s very necessary to take some legitimate or some distinct efforts and get back to the understanding and to the consideration of the importance and the value of the family. The reality is these family units are extremely valuable and important in the whole scheme of God’s workings and God’s purpose. So it’s necessary for us to recognize that God has worked His plan of redemption out in a family context and I think what I would really like to share this morning in some way, if I could leave here feeling satisfied, I’d be satisfied if I felt like you went home today with a sense of happy vision for the home and particularly your home and the sense of its importance and its value as a simple instrument of ministry. Let me reemphasize that again, as a simple instrument of ministry. When I say “simple instrument of ministry” I mean that a simple instrument of ministry is a ministry that transfers the essential life blood for the believer, transfers it with the least peripheral commotion and reaches the heart and does transactional development right to the heart so that lives are changed. When you look at life on the one hand of course, obviously there are 24 hours in a day and 365 days in a year and if you miss one you’re dead, that’s all there is to it. So there’s a sense of filling up of moments and minutes with activities and functionings and all these things and we tend to go through life just passing from circumstance and project and deadline and occasion, one to the next, in a sense having life flow through us like some kind of a sea and we’re just letting it pass by as we’re carrying out our roles or our duties or what have you. But when it comes down to what God is doing and wants to do through salvation, God is wanting really to get men to stop and to take into consideration what He’s provided for him and in the larger sense of the word, God wants us to find that He is a loving, warm Heavenly Father who cares for us and who wants us to learn how to transfer the sensitivities of our needs, how to transfer those things over to Him and that’s the very nature, the very purpose of what it means to be loved with the everlasting Love of God. In that particular context then as I think of sending you home today and wanting to stir you up in your faith, I think of two things. Number one that as especially we fathers, yes we mothers too but particularly we fathers, that we would pay attention to the flock that’s in our home, to the flock thatâs under our care, that we would have a sensitivity for them. I don’t know about you but I know in my own case, in my own family, it’s a struggle, it’s a difficulty for me to maintain adequate considerations of my family. It’s easy to be busy, it’s easy to be getting done the things that are on my work list and projects and deadlines and “I have to finish this, I have to do that,” and it’s so easy to run past the children and share in their lives that kind of relationship. When we’re talking about the Gospel we need to recognize that the Gospel ministers right there at that point, it ministers to the very person. Remember that passage in John, if we can turn there for just a moment in the Gospel of John, chapter 1, let’s read a couple verses and just get a glimpse of that essential human spirit that we’re talking about here, it says in John 14, “In Him,” speaking of Christ, speaking of the Word, “In Him was life and the life was the light of men.” “In Him was life and the life was the light of men.” Have you ever stopped very long to think about what life is? What life is from God’s perspective? See God was the Creator, He happened to invent it, He created it, He made us, He gave us life. Have you ever thought about life as it was granted to us at the creation and life that has been regranted to us through redemption? In Christ was life, life. The natural instinct of a human being is to live. That’s why it says “in Him was life and the life was the light of men; the life was the light of men.” Life as it is in the eye of God, in the Creator, the verse before this just said that He created us, He created all things, but life as it was in the eye of the Creator is that thing that attracts and gives a sense of focus and a reality to all of mankind. It’s a universal aspect of being a human, of being created, to have a hunger for life. If you turn to John 17 when Christ is getting ready to go to the cross and He prays to His Heavenly Father, He has an interesting description of eternal life. Did you ever think of eternal life? If life is great what is eternal life? I remember when I was a boy I used to think about peanut butter sandwiches. My idea as a little boy of eternal life was an unending jar of peanut butter with no restrictions to eat as much as you want. Then the other thing I was concerned about was it seemed like someday I sure would like owning a horse and hopefully there’ll be horses in Heaven because I’d like to have one. But as a little tyke that was what I had in my mind as far as Heaven was. When I was teaching middle school one year a student asked me in class, he said, “Is there going to be soccer in Heaven?” He’s the best player on the team and he wonders if there’s going to be soccer in Heaven. When a young person asks that kind of a question what are they saying? They’re saying that at this moment in my experience of life, there is something that I’ve experienced that’s kind of nice, I enjoy it, it’s special, it’s fun and when I think of Heaven I’d hate to not have something that’s nice. I don’t know about you but when I was a child some of the pictures of Heaven had kind of like a frame of reference of this guy sitting on a puffy cloud with wings playing a harp. As a little child I couldn’t quite grasp how that was going to be all that exciting. You’ve got to sit there forever? You’re not going to sit in church for 10 minutes. But when you look at John 17, Christ is praying and He talks about life eternal in verse 2 and 3, He says, “As Thou hast given Him,” speaking of the Son of Man, “power over all flesh, that He should give eternal life to as many as Thou hast given Him. And this is life eternal,” verse 3, “that they might know Thee the only true God and Jesus Christ whom Thou hast sent.” That’s a short and complete definition of eternal life. It’s given at the mouth of Jesus Christ, the eternal Son just before He went to the cross to win that eternal life for us. And when you look at the context of that definition He says, “This is life eternal, that they might know Thee, the only true God and Jesus Christ whom Thou hast sent.” I know that you and I are not regular Greek scholars but you’ve probably heard a few of these little Greek words thrown out over your years, the word here in the Greek is the word, “epiginosko.” In the Greek as well as Latin and other languages, you can modify the substantial meaning of a verse by the prefixes or suffixes that you add to it and the word “ginosko” in the Greek is the word for knowledge. The word “epiginosko,” is the word “ginosko” with a little prefix, “epi” added in front of it and the prefix literally means “upon,” and it has an implication of knowledge upon. But when you look at the application, everytime you find the word “epiginosko” in the New Testament you find this sense of substantial or significant kind of knowledge and it’s the knowledge of relationship. It’s the most substantial word for knowledge in the Greek and it has to do with deep intimate knowledge. So when you think about God’s definition of eternal life, we’re talking about relationship, we’re talking about relationship with God. When you and I get to Heaven our lives are going to be filled to overflowing because of relationship that we have with God the Father. That is who we were created to be. In Him was life and that life was the light of men. So if we boil man down to his substantive eternal essence as he was created by God it gets back to that little catechism question that you may have learned from your Baltimore catechism or your Westminster catechism or if you ever had a catechism. But the old question, “Who made you?” “God made me.” “Why did God make you?” And the answer, “God made me to know Him, to love Him, to serve Him and to dwell with Him forever in Heaven.” That’s the answer, the essential substantial answer of who I am and why God made me.

If we move on a little bit then in our considerations, how does God present Himself to us in the Scriptures frequently especially in the New Testament? God frequently shares Himself or manifests Himself to us by the term “Father.” When Christ was teaching the disciples how to pray, what did He say? He said, “When you pray, pray on this wise, Our Father who are in Heaven, hallowed by Your name.” The first point of reference to God for you and I in our prayer life is that we’re coming to a Father, that’s the substance, that’s the essence. Now we’ve already explored, we’ve already acknowledged the fact that man has a universal desire for life, “In Him was life.” And if we skipped over to verse 9 in John chapter 1, it says this speaking of the light of Christ whom John was sent before to bear witness of, that was the true light which lighteth every man that cometh into the world. The true light that lighteth every man that cometh into the world. Now this morning as I’m thinking it out. I wanted to encourage you and send you home in the right frame of mind towards your families, I think of this picture, I think of this context, here’s the interesting point, that was the true light that lights every man that cometh into the world. Did you ever stop very long to think about what that means, “that was the true light?” If there was a need of John to bring a focus to Christ as being the true light, there’s an implication by that that there is also that which is a false light, that which is a light that appears to be life, it appears to be the purpose and reason and yet it’s false. There’s a Proverbs that says “there is a way that seemeth right unto a man but the end thereof are the ways of death.” “There is a way that seemeth right.” Here was see an important stress and here’s why daddies we need you in your homes being shepherds to your children because the instinct of man is to be drawn towards life, that’s our instinct. You could say that we have this created instinct to move ourselves toward life and anything that seems to be life to us is going to attract us, it’s going to draw our attention toward it. The problem is what? The problem is that number one there is a true light that lights every man that comes into the world and He’s Jesus Christ and then there is that which seemeth right but that’s a false light. And to use some stark terms of Scripture, if something is not light what is it? Darkness; if something is not light, it’s darkness. So what we can say in terms of parallelism, we can say that if Jesus is the true light that lights every man that comes into the world, then that which is not Jesus which seemeth right, that which attracts men is darkness and men see darkness and they call it life and they’re confused by their point of reference. And the tremendous need that our children have, the tremendous need that we have as people is we need help in discerning the light of life. We need help in discerning the light of life. There is simply a natural contest that’s taking place in our souls day in and day out and the home, the home is the essential place where God wants to nurture and train and develop and preserve and pass on the light of life from family to family, from parents to child.

In that context then perhaps there’s some questions that maybe we should ask ourselves about as it relates to our roles as parents in our home and just how important that role is. I think the first thing that I can think of when I’m considering this simple structure that we’ve erected this morning, I think the first thing that I can think of is the fact that dads need a vision for their children personally, dads need a personal vision for their children. There’s nothing that can replace the vision of a dad for their kids. When you stop back and you recognize the attributes of God the Father and you try to measure some of them one at a time and you look at them, one of the things that you see about the Father is that He’s always considering the needs of the children and how He can minister to them. The whole nature of salvation is what? Is that God rolled up His sleeves, as it were, and with His own arm He brought forth salvation and there is an initiative, there is an oversight, there is a leadership of concern that looks upon the sheep of the pasture and says, “These folks need help, these folks need help.” And with that sense of vision in needing help, you set yourself and you set your resources and you set your considerations about how to help that which is under your care. Now to me it’s a substantially important point of reference for you and I as a father because as I mentioned just a few minutes ago, it is very easy for me to miss that. It’s very easy for me to miss that. It’s easy to have so much ordinary every dayness of routine that the routine ticks off and things happen but where is the father’s heart as he relates to his brood?

With that in mind, I want to point out a second aspect to the relationship of the Father. Not only is the Father considering, but the Father is really giving life; the Father is really giving life of Himself. His sense of acceptance and acknowledgment upon the children is life giving. We can illustrate that briefly if we turn to John 5, there’s a good illustration of this kind of life giving relationship from the Father to the Son. It’s around the occasion when Jesus told that fellow to take up his bed and walk and the Jews sought to kill Him because He had healed someone on the Sabbath day. So picking up in John chapter 5 and verse 17 we have an interesting discussion here and it goes like this, “Jesus answered and said to them, “My Father works hitherto and I work”.” I want you to see the incredible sense of being that exists in the Son coming from the Father. “My Father works hitherto and I work.” There is a relationship of connection. The being of the Son is found in the sharing of the being of the Father with the Son. It’s interesting to me to notice that it’s not play that it’s so valuable, it’s work at this juncture. Christ is not focused on the play that he had with His Father in romper room in Heaven. He’s focusing on the sharing of the essence of the Father as He granted it to the Son. If we skip on down to verse 19 Jesus continues on this vein with respects to His relationship to His Father and He says this, “Verily I say unto you, the Son can do nothing of Himself. The Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He seeth the Father do.” That’s an interesting point of reference. If you would describe that you can see that that sense of life giving aspect that the father gives over to the son, extending to the son and by extending to the son that which I am in my sphere of work, in my sphere of duty and responsibility, by engaging and bringing my son into that sphere, there is a sense not only of connectedness but a sense of existence that depends upon the father. And He says, ‘Whatsoever things He doeth these things doeth also the Son likewise.’ And we see this kind of mimicry, this kind of sharing. I want to pause for a moment and ask a practical question. To me this is an important spiritual principle as it relates to our spiritual duty with our children. What our children need is the sense that they are a part of their father, that’s the critical need that children have. In some respects you can say that there is a distinction between sons and daughters in terms of some of the actualities and we can grant that without getting sidetracked by it, but in reality we see this substantial point of reference that is needed. Let’s get back for a moment and put out that litmus test and say, ‘You know what? God made us and gave us life and that life is the light of men.’ As that life is extended from the father to the son, that sense of light is deeply focused in the heart of the son. It’s the sharing of life by the father that causes the son to have light in his eyes from his father. That’s the critical issue that we see in this construction and in the need of our homes. Our children don’t need something other than this, this is the primary need. Let me take that for a moment and just get off on an anecdote for just a moment. What do I mean by that? Well I mean this, if I find a child on the street who is abandoned by his parents, what does that child need? That child needs this connection back to the Heavenly Father. That child needs that sense of belonging that comes from a warm reception, I am welcome, I am accepted into the beloved. That’s what a child needs. So as someone brings the Gospel upon that kind of a person in need what they are doing for that person is they’re extending to that person the family of God and they’re extending to that person the Fatherhood of God in meeting that need. So I am drawing them to this point of acceptance and that’s what ministry is. And yet when these things occur and let’s say that person finds God and finds Him to be that which he’s always searched for and finds his fullness in Him and after a while God calls that person into a new family, gets married, has his own kids and what’s going to take place? Redemption is going to work in that new family setting a whole outworking of reception and acceptance of life and love and this father who was once without a father is going to have the vision of the Heavenly Father and he’s going to be moved and motivated first and foremost for his own children as he wants to extend to them that sense of family. What I want to say to you today sitting here is this, thank God that we do need and fellowship and participate in the brotherhood and I don’t want to make an overstatement but I don’t want to make an understatement either by carelessness but here’s this point, dads, your children either are going to be finding their sense of life, finding their sense of being in relationship to you and in your relationship to God or they’re not. It’s either going to be there or it’s not going to be there. If it’s there it’s going to be drawing them into this light of life and if your light of life is centered around the person of God, you’re going to be giving them a heritage, you’re going to be giving them that which every soul hungers for in the deepest way, a hungering of life and you’re going to satisfy them at the place of the greatest thirstiness. And you know what’s wonderful? You and I have that privilege number one but we have that power. That is within our power. There is nothing else that God has created in the natural world that has that same power as the power of a father for his children. I’m not meaning to slight you mothers because in one sense of the word mothers and fathers are equal to the Heavenly Father. So there are things that moms bring that no one else can bring except the father. But the whole point of it being, we have a substantial opportunity, we have a substantial opportunity. And let me ask you a question, what do you think it would be that would interfere with that opportunity? What would it be for you and I fathers to miss out on connecting in relationship to our children? What would it be? It would be a way that seemeth right unto a man, a way that seemeth right unto a man but the end thereof are the ways of death. It doesn’t really matter whether it’s work, it probably is work for most of us but we do have a different kind of situation, we have a very different kind of situation. You and I can’t even craft in our mind hardly the cultural reality that existed in the day of Christ. When Christ went home at age 12 to be with His parents and be subject to them until age 30, He lived in His father’s house and his father had a little wood shop connected to His house where they did the family business and the family business was done there amongst the whole people. And there was this natural tendency by sharing the geographical location, there was this natural tendency to share in all that the father was doing. We don’t have that today so you and I fathers have to pay real close attention to every single way possible where we can enlarge the space by where our sons and daughters can draw near to us. We have to make that accommodation. And maybe we have to make an accommodation for example like Francis Scott Key did. I don’t know if you know anything about Francis Scott Key but Francis Scott Key’s birthplace is about 4 miles from here and I read one of his life accounts when we first moved to this house and I was all excited moving to an historical place. I could even hear the guns of Gettysburg when we first moved here. But as I read this story I found an interesting picture of a man who had a vision for his family. Now Francis Scott Key’s father fought with George Washington in the Revolution and George Washington came right down and they had a little picnic on his lawn on one occasion after the war. What happened after the war was many of the close associates and commanders of the army were assigned to what they called circuit courts that existed in the first days of our nation. Now a circuit court was called so because just like the circuit riding preachers, the judge had to travel from little town to little town around a geographical region and he had to hold court on a periodic basis at each place and hear the cases of the people that were there, so he traveled on horseback. Knowing, this is something to think about, knowing that this man’s job took him on this large circuit away from home on a regular basis it’s impressive to notice what Scott Key did when he was a little older and he was a married man. Later on he got married and he moved to this muddy little village called Georgetown and he built one of the first houses on these muddy little streets, but when he built his house, he built his office onto his house. He was a lawyer and he set up his lawyer shop right on the premise and you know why he did it? Because I’m not going to miss out on teaching my children, I want to be just like my father. And his father had taken full responsibility for his instruction and education which he got until he went to St. John’s College and got into the bar after that. There was a vision in Scott Key to create a time and a place that he was going to be accessible, he was going to be available to his children. So he adjusted things with respects to how to construct, how to do that. He made deliberate specific plans in his life to be there for his kids. Later on in Georgetown area, some of the leaders of the community came to him and said, ‘We would like your help in putting together a school. There’s a lot of kids here that aren’t getting to go to school and we’d like your help.’ And he said, ‘I’ll tell you what, I’ll lend some money and perhaps some organization ideas but on one condition, don’t you ever think or even ask me to put my children in that school because I am going to teach my children myself.’ And he had a vision for his kids and he constructed and ordered his life around that first and primary ministry to his children and that is what we have as a heritage as a nation. Once upon a time there were fathers in this land who were concerned about their family and passing on a heritage as a primary issue.

Verse 20 of John 5 says this, ‘For the Father loveth the Son and showeth Him all things that Himself doeth and He will show Him greater works than these that ye may marvel, show Him greater works than these that ye may marvel.’ Now listen, what is the grease button? What is the means by which these things are transacted and they move from one heart to the next? The issue is love. The father loves the son and it is the love of the father that stops and contemplates and considers and extends toward his children, it’s love, it’s a consideration of deliberate focus and course. You know what? That’s what God intended, that is what the picture should look like. That’s what a redeemed family should appear to be when someone would come alongside them and catch a snatch of what it means to be a Christian in a family. The thing that I want to stop here and say in terms of motivationally is this, these things are very near to us. They are very much at hand. They are not something that’s far away and difficult for us to attain to. Let’s think for a moment. What if in twenty years God wanted every one of us men in this room, everyone of us, He wanted us to be engaged in a public preaching ministry somewhere around the world where we were speaking on every occasion that God gave us utterance, speaking the Gospel and speaking for the kingdom? What if that was God’s objective that this motley crew here would have an objective of ministry like that down the road? If that were true what do you think God would do for training? How would God train us to be very useful and very substantial in terms of our ministry? What He would want to use first and foremost is our own families. He would want us to pay attention and dig in in our own homes. Think about your own life. Every one of you have a little story to tell, but right now just think about your own story and trace back and you know what you’ll find? You’ll find somewhere a father or a father substitute that God Himself put in your path that looked you in the eyes that had a sense of love for you and a sense of vision for you and they warmly entreated you, they warmly spoke to you and said, ‘This is the way, walk ye in it.’ And you’ll identify people in that place. People affect people. It was just an incredible reminder to me last Sunday when that stray family from New York wanders into our home and I’ve never seen a lap dog lap love, it’s been a long time. These folks were hungry, these people were starving just for warmth, just for love, just for exhortation and consideration. It was just an amazing reminder of what’s really going on, what’s taking place and what is the process by which God is going to bring up a people after Himself, people after His name. The Father loves the Son and showeth Him all that He doeth. There’s that sense of inclusion. If you look at little children in their play, in the early stages of their play, especially if you look at the guys, very often you’ll see them just mimicking dad in some form or another. Dad shaving at the mirror, there they are pretending to shave next to dad, just copy cat. There’s just a dynamic about who we were created to be by which we want to be received, we want to be loved, we want to be

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Obedience To The Faith, The Objective of Real Ministry

Romans 1:1-1:8
The difficulty of a family is that we bear our infirmities together. Our difficulties are the most sacred ground on earth – it is where we need to focus our need and labor for growth. It is our ministry.
PRACTICAL PRAYING FOR REACHING YOUR FAMILY
1) Romans 1:5 “By whom we have received grace and apostleship, for
obedience to the faith among all nations, for His name.”
(a) God will be glorified by our laying hold of His deposit in us. Jesus
Christ described this in Matthew 25:15 as giving talents to every man
according to his “several” ability. An individual, distinct gift.
(b) The clear end of apostleship, the clear ministry objective, is for
the obedience to the faith. Our ministry should be building obedience to
the faith, NOT building a ministry empire. We cannot minister to “all
nations” until we have our own house in order.
(c) Did you know that each one of us has a special, particular call to a
field of service for Christ? Have you recognized it yet? Do you know
your call? Seek it out and stir it up!
(d) Do you have a family? This is your first call of ministry.
Singleness allows for other, and many times more broader ministry. The
Apostle Paul sent single guy’s (Timothy and Titus) to appoint elders in the local assembly all over the Roman empire. What was the requirement he gave them in appointing those elders? They had to be able to rule their own house well. If their family was not in order, they were disallowed from ministry leadership in the local church.
(e) Do you have a yearning burden for ministry to your family? It can only be accomplished through the power given of the Holy Spirit. Pray without ceasing. How do we reach the harvest of souls, beginning with our own children? What did Jesus say? Matthew 938 “Pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he will send forth laborers into his harvest.” PRAY! Connect to the Power of ministry through prayer.
PRACTICAL EXAMPLE
To be improved ministers at home, talk with your wife and then pray with her, preparing to meet the family problems that will surely come. And pray for those occasions where you may intersect each family member with the Gospel. Each child will have specific incidents in life that will give occasion to times of spiritual ministry for you as parents. Pray specifically for those times. Because our children’s souls are hanging in the balance, pray for wisdom to reach their heart in those places in which God is obviously trying to get their attention. I like to call them ‘family incidents.’ Major or minor points of conflict that, if you are alert, could produce much fruit from the time you invest in dealing with the problem. Precious time invested through the Spirit may take many late hours of laboring love with those ‘family incidents,’ but this is where the battle is won. You know your children and their needs, but God knows them even better. We need to seriously pray for those points of specific incidents so that our ministry to our children will deepen. Jesus would get away and pray all night for His ministry. Can you imagine that? We need times of quiet with our wives to talk and pray for those specific incidents where the souls of our children may be reached with Christ’s truth.
WE NEED A LONGING
2) Romans 1:11 “…long to impart unto you some spiritual gift to the end ye may be established.”
(a) This is our ministry objective. A longing to impart in Christ a spiritual gift to the end that we are established. Not to bring glory to ourselves!
How does this take place?
(b) In the Spirit, NOT in the flesh! (Romans 19)
WE NEED TO BE COMFORTED
3) Romans 1:12 “That is, that I may be comforted together with you by the mutual faith both of you and me.”
(a) This is the reason for assembling together in churches and fellowships! Comfort by mutual faith! There is a fellowship in the precious Gospel, not in a dominance of the pulpit.
(b) If we minister to our children in the Spirit, we will give them comfort in Christ.
MINISTER IN THE GOSPEL TO MAN’S SPIRIT, NOT THE FLESH
4) Romans 1:9 For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son,…
(a) TEMPTATION We sometimes want to win our children’s heart and “comfort”
them by using just a little pacification of the flesh. Just a little at first, then it grows until we are caught with the feeling that we don’t want them to think that we don’t love them, so we concede what we know is wrong. They beg with the “can’t I have…everyone else has” and we concede.
(b) We have heard before, “Pick your battles and choose the most important ones, and don’t struggle with those smaller things.” Don’t pick your battles, WIN every battle for Jesus Christ in order to win that true comfort of mutual faith. Ministry in Christ is truth transforming lives with comfort through the Scriptures.
(c) Discipline can ALWAYS end with this comfort! How? Comfort comes from the Comforter, the Holy Spirit, through the transforming truth of Holy Scripture.
(d) Objective ministry in children is the effectual deposit of obedience to the faith. Without this obedience to the faith, your children will be lost for this is what salvation entails.
TATTOO STORY
Maybe some of you have heard this story of mine before, but I will repeat it for a good illustration of ministering to the flesh versus the spirit. When my son Daniel was three, he received a ‘Cracker-jack’ box. I saw it and began to work Dan up into excitement about the ’secret prize’ that I remembered always searching for when I was a boy. So, I got his level of anticipation raised, and his desire to get that ’secret prize’ became real. So, together we dug that prize out of the cracker-jack box, and lo and behold, it was a kids tattoo packet, Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck and all. Well, I remembered my childhood fleshly joy when my brother and I got kids tattoos and pasted them all over our arms, so I took the pack and told little Dan, ‘wow, just watch this, we can have cool tattoos!’ Together, we pasted those tattoos all over Daniel’s arms (of course, dad was too old for mickey mouse!). Then, after enjoying such an accomplishment, my wife asked me to run to the grocery store for her, so Daniel and I hopped in the car and went to the store. Well, I did not realize what great spiritual lesson lay ahead at that store, but while standing in one of the isles, a big, burly sailor man, came walking up to Daniel. Now that I think of it, who knows who that man was for I had never seen him before, nor since. For all I know, he could have been an angel of God. But this crusty, tattooed, sleeveless man marched up to my son Daniel and began to talk directly to him. Not even looking at me, he looked straight into my son’s eyes and said, ’son, don’t you know what the Scripture says? The Scripture says, Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you I am the LORD (Leviticus 19:28 ). ‘Son,’ he said, ‘tattoos are the way of death. You need to fear the Lord and depart from evil, and you will have life.’ And I thought, ‘whoa!’ This weather beaten, tattooed, and crusty-faced sailor is speaking from experience. And I thought, Lord, what have I done in encouraging the flesh of my son. The flesh will die. It’s end is the way of death. On the way home from the grocery, I prayed how I could carefully withdrawal all the excitement I had pumped into the ‘fun’ of tattoos, and impart to Daniel the spiritual understanding and excitement of wanting to obey the Lord. I told him that daddy was wrong, and had not obeyed God’s Word about tattoos, so I asked him to forgive me. Then I began to talk to Dan about how great God is and how good His Word the Bible is, and why we should obey it always. Then I said, ’so Dan, let’s wash those tattoos off and obey Jesus!’ And we got home, and he washed off those tattoos just as joyfully with me as when I had helped him put them on. The victory had been won, through ministry to his spirit, in the Gospel, and the flesh had been put to death. What a joy that was! And I began to learn that that is how we must reach our children’s souls for Christ.
YOUTH GROUPS
There may be some youth groups that have leadership which are truly seeking to serve the Lord, but the “youth group” does not generally stir up anything but gratification of the flesh. I know, I used to be a youth group director. At some point, there is always an effort to use ‘fun’ to try and ‘reach’ teens for Christ. You cannot use the gratification of the flesh to reach your children for Christ! It won’t happen. You cannot use the flesh to reach the spirit. The flesh will not be saved! These bones will be thrown into the ground, or else transformed at Christ’s return (instant death and resurrection). Your flesh will not see God! (1 Corinthians 15:50)
MINISTRY IS ONE-DIMENSIONAL
1) We should care enough about our ministry to our children so that they enjoy comfort through the Spirit towards the obedience of Jesus Christ! We cannot unless we ourselves are comforted in Christ. Connection to God is one dimensional. It is a personal, and individual salvation and growth in sanctification.
(a) Remember the woman at the well (John 4:6-42)? She connected to God in the comfort she received from the man “who knew everything I had ever done.” She in turn, reached her fellow townspeople, but some didn’t believe until after hearing him themselves, in a personal connection.
I connect to God personally and am comforted. Then I may reach someone so that their heart also connects to God and receives comfort in the faith.
(b) The one-dimensional ministry of obedience to the faith is found right here at home. It runs from faith, to faith. We cannot teach others to walk by faith until we teach our own children to. And we cannot teach our children how to walk by faith until we begin to walk by faith. From faith, to faith. (Romans 1:17)
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Romans 1:1-1:8

The difficulty of a family is that we bear our infirmities together. Our difficulties are the most sacred ground on earth – it is where we need to focus our need and labor for growth. It is our ministry.

PRACTICAL PRAYING FOR REACHING YOUR FAMILY

1) Romans 1:5 “By whom we have received grace and apostleship, for

obedience to the faith among all nations, for His name.”

(a) God will be glorified by our laying hold of His deposit in us. Jesus

Christ described this in Matthew 25:15 as giving talents to every man

according to his “several” ability. An individual, distinct gift.

(b) The clear end of apostleship, the clear ministry objective, is for

the obedience to the faith. Our ministry should be building obedience to

the faith, NOT building a ministry empire. We cannot minister to “all

nations” until we have our own house in order.

(c) Did you know that each one of us has a special, particular call to a

field of service for Christ? Have you recognized it yet? Do you know

your call? Seek it out and stir it up!

(d) Do you have a family? This is your first call of ministry.

Singleness allows for other, and many times more broader ministry. The

Apostle Paul sent single guy’s (Timothy and Titus) to appoint elders in the local assembly all over the Roman empire. What was the requirement he gave them in appointing those elders? They had to be able to rule their own house well. If their family was not in order, they were disallowed from ministry leadership in the local church.

(e) Do you have a yearning burden for ministry to your family? It can only be accomplished through the power given of the Holy Spirit. Pray without ceasing. How do we reach the harvest of souls, beginning with our own children? What did Jesus say? Matthew 938 “Pray ye therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he will send forth laborers into his harvest.” PRAY! Connect to the Power of ministry through prayer.

PRACTICAL EXAMPLE

To be improved ministers at home, talk with your wife and then pray with her, preparing to meet the family problems that will surely come. And pray for those occasions where you may intersect each family member with the Gospel. Each child will have specific incidents in life that will give occasion to times of spiritual ministry for you as parents. Pray specifically for those times. Because our children’s souls are hanging in the balance, pray for wisdom to reach their heart in those places in which God is obviously trying to get their attention. I like to call them ‘family incidents.’ Major or minor points of conflict that, if you are alert, could produce much fruit from the time you invest in dealing with the problem. Precious time invested through the Spirit may take many late hours of laboring love with those ‘family incidents,’ but this is where the battle is won. You know your children and their needs, but God knows them even better. We need to seriously pray for those points of specific incidents so that our ministry to our children will deepen. Jesus would get away and pray all night for His ministry. Can you imagine that? We need times of quiet with our wives to talk and pray for those specific incidents where the souls of our children may be reached with Christ’s truth.

WE NEED A LONGING

2) Romans 1:11 “…long to impart unto you some spiritual gift to the end ye may be established.”

(a) This is our ministry objective. A longing to impart in Christ a spiritual gift to the end that we are established. Not to bring glory to ourselves!

How does this take place?

(b) In the Spirit, NOT in the flesh! (Romans 19)

WE NEED TO BE COMFORTED

3) Romans 1:12 “That is, that I may be comforted together with you by the mutual faith both of you and me.”

(a) This is the reason for assembling together in churches and fellowships! Comfort by mutual faith! There is a fellowship in the precious Gospel, not in a dominance of the pulpit.

(b) If we minister to our children in the Spirit, we will give them comfort in Christ.

MINISTER IN THE GOSPEL TO MAN’S SPIRIT, NOT THE FLESH

4) Romans 1:9 For God is my witness, whom I serve with my spirit in the gospel of his Son,…

(a) TEMPTATION We sometimes want to win our children’s heart and “comfort”

them by using just a little pacification of the flesh. Just a little at first, then it grows until we are caught with the feeling that we don’t want them to think that we don’t love them, so we concede what we know is wrong. They beg with the “can’t I have…everyone else has” and we concede.

(b) We have heard before, “Pick your battles and choose the most important ones, and don’t struggle with those smaller things.” Don’t pick your battles, WIN every battle for Jesus Christ in order to win that true comfort of mutual faith. Ministry in Christ is truth transforming lives with comfort through the Scriptures.

(c) Discipline can ALWAYS end with this comfort! How? Comfort comes from the Comforter, the Holy Spirit, through the transforming truth of Holy Scripture.

(d) Objective ministry in children is the effectual deposit of obedience to the faith. Without this obedience to the faith, your children will be lost for this is what salvation entails.

TATTOO STORY

Maybe some of you have heard this story of mine before, but I will repeat it for a good illustration of ministering to the flesh versus the spirit. When my son Daniel was three, he received a ‘Cracker-jack’ box. I saw it and began to work Dan up into excitement about the ’secret prize’ that I remembered always searching for when I was a boy. So, I got his level of anticipation raised, and his desire to get that ’secret prize’ became real. So, together we dug that prize out of the cracker-jack box, and lo and behold, it was a kids tattoo packet, Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck and all. Well, I remembered my childhood fleshly joy when my brother and I got kids tattoos and pasted them all over our arms, so I took the pack and told little Dan, ‘wow, just watch this, we can have cool tattoos!’ Together, we pasted those tattoos all over Daniel’s arms (of course, dad was too old for mickey mouse!). Then, after enjoying suc